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Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by glimpse(f): 2:49pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
i lyk dis moderator o. |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by SisiKill1: 2:52pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
Whoa!!! How did a thread about a guy losing his mind get so much hidden post!! Choi! You gotta love NL! |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by safeact(m): 3:35pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
My dear, dnt worry. U can still overcome ur temptations, but i MUST warn u to cut down some of ur unneccessary expenses. Dnt do anything to please anybody again or do sth because odas are doing in d name of hostin people @ a slightest thing. Another thing is that u have to face only d expenses of ur immediate family and leave ur inlaw with their own after all, they have been surviving before you came.Humble ursf and accept d fact that things are no longer the way they used to be. I promise God will see u tru if u trust Him.m |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by Johndoe100(m): 4:10pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
Efemena_xy: I never advocated violence. I put that there to show that there should not be ANY LIMITATION on what he wants. You are young and a fake white person, so you carry the white-man's crap on your head. We Africans understand that women love you more when you keep them in their place once in a while. |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by EfemenaXY: 4:23pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
Johndoe100: Yes, you did else you wouldn't have mentioned it. Now cut the BS please. Johndoe100: Meaning? She should be treated like a punch bag to vent out his frustrations whenever he feels like it? Or you mean treat her like a doormat to be trampled upon because she now bears the title "Mrs"? Or you mean it's all about him, Him, HIM as his wife doesn't count? Johndoe100: You are young and a fake white person, so you carry the white-man's crap on your head. Oh yeah? Pray do tell, what makes you think that? And puuuuuuuullleassseeeeeee cut out the inferiority complex attitude. I'd like to believe that beneath all that gra-gra you've got a few working braincells. Johndoe100: Speak for yourself. Not every male here has got caveman antics like you. Anyway, why the hostility Jonny?? |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by SisiKill1: 5:27pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
Sigh! JD is in one of his moods again! SMH! |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by Johndoe100(m): 6:11pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
Efemena_xy: Well what's wrong with that? Efemena_xy: Actually it is you wannabe white people, who we all know are second or even third class citizens in the west and come here to try and "civilize us" that have an inferiority complex. You will never understand how annoying it is for us. Efemena_xy: Well this family board is mostly the wannabe whites (even the males), cus most of the Nigerians don't have time for the BS here. Why don't you come to the politics board and try and sell your "you should be like us" rantings? Sisi_Kill: Sigh! You mean I am real as usual? Yes I am. Proudly African. |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by EfemenaXY: 6:27pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
Jonny, you this Urhobo man. Na only deliverance go save you. Nothing you posted up there is worth replying to. Anyway, just to let you know, I don't do politics. |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by Sagamite(m): 8:31pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
Johndoe100: You are a person! Being African is beating up women! Product of a failed education system! These are the kinds of cretins that have a right to vote? 4 Likes |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by dayokanu(m): 9:30pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
OP, Your wife is not at fault for anything here, you are 100% at fault You had option of working women, You choose the one who isnt working You had option of graduates you chose a student You had option of cancelling the wedding after She confessed to you, You went ahead You even had another chance when her parent suggested you cancel it, you still no gree Your wife got admitted in 2010, She got pregnant for a yr, Before she can finish her HND which might not even be useful in the job market would take another 5-6yrs So you better roll your sleeves and start hustling cos you have laid the foundation for a very tough life 4 Likes |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by ronkebp(f): 9:31pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
LOL at thread..... @ poster, you never hala!!!! |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by Tallest9(m): 10:26pm On Aug 14, 2012 |
jst a little problem in your marriage and you r thinking of calling it quits...character is not based on what you are when you are on top, rather it is based on what you do when you are down there.running away from the marriage means ruuning away from your problems which ought not to be..i'd advice you put urself together and know that u are in this thing for life, so look for a better way of solving this problem other than planning to walk outta the marriage i think you should also sit down and explain things to your wife, try to make make her know you are trying and will do your best to be outta this challenge 1 Like |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by ayikondu(m): 12:31am On Aug 15, 2012 |
debrief08: You wanted a young wife who had no means of supporting you and you got one. She confessed to you before the wedding you still went ahead because your priority wasnt a helpmate but a younger woman. Thanks a lot, It wasn't like I dint plan, at least a few months to the wedding I still had abt 6million Naira working capital which I assumed shld be fine for us to build on, Just had a deal that went sour and really affected a lot of things. The real problem is dat I sometimes blame her for Leading me on to a point dat it was very hard for me to turn back before tellin me d truth. Fine life has to go on but since the baby came, I'v been doing most of the chores and I still have to go and make the money. Its always " I'm attending to d baby, go and buy dis and dis come if u knw u want to eat after a long day. Tried setting her up in a biz abt 6months ago with 200k but she can't account for it now plus she forced me to get a house help around dat time (she insisted on a male) and dat one carted away wit 50k and some valuable just after a week so I decided not to get another one. Babies definitely on hold for now. We both seem to av fallen out of love, communication seem to av broken down and I don't even feel aroused be her anymore and she doesn't care |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by coogar: 12:45am On Aug 15, 2012 |
ayikondu: the cookie has finally crumbled then.... no communication, no feelings, no arousal - what a marriage!!! |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by Kobojunkie: 1:12am On Aug 15, 2012 |
ayikondu: Grow up and fix your marriage. She is younger than you are, so I cannot speak for her. But you be the bigger person in your marriage, so humble yourself enough to get things moving in the right direction abeg! Life is hard ooo . .. . you think you are 30 and you have seen the worst? Stop trying to MAKE HER DO THINGS . . . she is not you. Focus on doing what you need to as an adult to get money coming in for the family he helped create to fulfill your own desires. And stop blaming her for decisions YOU SANCTION. If you do not want a house-help then don't. Why do I feel you are not telling her the truth of your financial situation? 1 Like |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by Nobody: 2:32am On Aug 15, 2012 |
Sorry you made a bad decision, married someone based on sentiments not future projections. Married someone who had no clear means of contribution to your home. When we make decisions prepare to live with benefits and consequence. Stop the blame game, you are the head, get her to sit up, no more house wife madam, she isn't contributing financially she should contribute in running an efficient home. She has a wrong mindset and so do you, I tell my younger cousins don't get carried away by flat stomach, face and age, look at character, everybody should work hard, no one has monopoly of laziness, its sad when some women feel all they need to contribute is their open legs and pushing out babies, why would a house wife need a house help? Anyway, sorry about the deal that went sour. As for your family if you have somewhere you can go and reflect for a week do that, come out with a plan, and take charge of your family. As for Madam, you can't force her, that's the kind of woman you married, hope her youngness compensates for all the stress 3 Likes |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by Johndoe100(m): 2:55am On Aug 15, 2012 |
Sagamite: Well well the internet warrior speaks. Look foool, I have said it many times if you pseudo white men don't like us Nigerians, why the fvck are you on Nairaland? Shouldn't you be on poundland, dollarland or euroland? Look at the people who agree with you, Internet Nigerians everywhere other than the real Nigerians. Anyway you are known person (you love that phrase don't you). |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by Ishilove: 6:14am On Aug 15, 2012 |
Johndoe100:I hope your daughters and sisters get thoroughly beaten each time their husbands feel the need to let off steam I pity the woman who will have the misfortune to end up as your wife Bloody caveman 3 Likes |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by Ishilove: 6:15am On Aug 15, 2012 |
Ujujoan:I concur 1 Like |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by Ishilove: 6:23am On Aug 15, 2012 |
Johndoe100:Uhhh,is this guy for real?? I find it shocking that there are men who think this way in the twenty-first century . "Beat your wife", "put women in their place","nothing wrong in treating women like doormats" etc O Chi m mo,women are suffering out there . I reject such a man in my life, in Jesus name! Amen!!! 2 Likes |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by Johndoe100(m): 9:59am On Aug 15, 2012 |
Ishilove: Ishilove will you marry me pleeeeeeese? |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by Sagamite(m): 10:48am On Aug 15, 2012 |
Johndoe100: You are a person! You are a product of a what? ........Say it! |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by cert(f): 10:50am On Aug 15, 2012 |
Brace up! This is no time for regrets. Most young women within your wife's age range are hardly in terms with reality and would continue in her dream world of my man providing all at the snap of my fingers if you do nothing about it.Let her know your feelings as well as the financial crisis. The both of you should discuss and see how you can cut down on expenses. Don't forget to go for family planning cos she would definitely get pregnant soon.Caring for two kids with your present predicament is not moi-moi.BE WISE. |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by honeric01(m): 11:27am On Aug 15, 2012 |
cert: Brace up! This is no time for regrets. Most young women within your wife's age range are hardly in terms with reality and would continue in her dream world of my man providing all at the snap of my fingers if you do nothing about it.Let her know your feelings as well as the financial crisis. The both of you should discuss and see how you can cut down on expenses. Don't forget to go for family planning cos she would definitely get pregnant soon.Caring for two kids with your present predicament is not moi-moi.BE WISE. They don't poke again so no need for FP or can they make babies from arguments? |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by Ishilove: 12:06pm On Aug 15, 2012 |
Johndoe100:Ta, tufia!!!! |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by honeric01(m): 12:32pm On Aug 15, 2012 |
Ishilove: Maybe you can change him lol |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by Johndoe100(m): 12:33pm On Aug 15, 2012 |
Ishilove: He yaaaaa, why now? I looooove you. I promise to only beat you small small, like ajebota de drive fly and only on ya bum bum. When I use you as doormat abi na footmat de ni, I will wipe my feet small small. So sweeeeeety make we tie de knot |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by Ishilove: 12:55pm On Aug 15, 2012 |
Johndoe100:Lol. You no well |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by Ishilove: 12:56pm On Aug 15, 2012 |
honeric01:Hell to tha nah. That's a project I have no inclination to embark on. 1 Like |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by cert(f): 1:15pm On Aug 15, 2012 |
honeric01:Have you considered the possibility that if the Op eventually communicates his feeling to his wife, a reconciliation may occur and then the poking you never thought of and then the babies. Its up to him though. Poverty is a choice. |
Re: Help! My Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Mind. by honeric01(m): 1:28pm On Aug 15, 2012 |
Ishilove: who knows, you might end up liking him and changing him hehehe.. |
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