Ok Nairalanders, I'm in an awkward situation and please I really need some serious advice here.
She has a crush on me and I'm not really interested but I don't know how to send my message without hurting her feelings. Its normal for people to have feelings for others and to be honest this is not my debut crushee but this is different. She's taking it to a new level, calling me baby, love and getting all mushy' around me. Holding me and all(Sorry for details) telling her friends she loves me and she also gets irritated when I'm with other girls. Her sister just told me she has a crush on me. She's a really cool and nice person and a friend. I don't want to hurt her, infact I am presently avoiding her. I am a cool and friendly guy and I care about peoples feelings. Please I'm sort of used to crushes but not like this. Peepz I need your candid advice and fast cos I'm really in an embarrasing situation. Jokers are welcomed too.. (Please I dint come here to brag o) Thanks

Why are you not interested??

There is one man called MrBrownJay, he is coming to give you a sound advice

I pity d girl sha. If I'm d one, I'll cry ehn.....

Op

Since u re not interested am interested

Pass me d chick

^^
Hahaha. I need advice abeg not scolding o

MMM u too like woman.

OP.. Abeg pass me d girl o,if u no get interest,me am alwyz ready o..abi she worwor ni?

M M M: Op

Since u re not interested am interested

Pass me d chick

ashawo like u.!

Awwwh..poor gal! Woeva u say or do will hurt.
Tell it as it is..

Idowuogbo: Awwwh..poor gal! Woeva u say or do will hurt.
Tell it as it is..

I know this will not end well. Its more serious than I actually described. Thanks 4 d advice

^Uwc!

Hmmm......wat a dilemma.

Duke_Nija: Ok Nairalanders, I'm in an awkward situation and please I really need some serious advice here.
She has a crush on me and I'm not really interested but I don't know how to send my message without hurting her feelings.

very difficult because you dragged the issue for too long.

Its normal for people to have feelings for others and to be honest this is not my debut crushee but this is different. She's taking it to a new level, calling me baby, love and getting all mushy' around me. Holding me and all(Sorry for details) telling her friends she loves me and she also gets irritated when I'm with other girls.

what were you doing when she was doing all this stuff? did you ask her to stop or were you smiling and pretending that it was all ok? the first time she stepped out of line, you should have said something, instead of letting her believe that you enjoyed what she was doing.......she cant really be blamed for that.

Her sister just told me she has a crush on me. She's a really cool and nice person and a friend. I don't want to hurt her, infact I am presently avoiding her. I am a cool and friendly guy and I care about peoples feelings. Please I'm sort of used to crushes but not like this. Peepz I need your candid advice and fast cos I'm really in an embarrasing situation. Jokers are welcomed too.. (Please I dint come here to brag o) Thanks

and what did you say to the sister? did you even give a hint that you were not interested with her sister?
if that lady is cool and nice then she will understand, so call her TODAY and let her know that you are not interested in her, romantically.

but then again, you could always tell her:" hey, i can feel that you like me a lot and i do care for you a lot too. you are a fantastic cool girl, and i am sure you will make any man happy, thanks to your kind nature.... but i have to be honest with you on something. to me, you are more like a sister than a lover to me, i dont see you like that. i cherish your friendship, and i would never want to jeopardize that for any reason. i want us to be friends forever and i hope you understand me when i tell you that we should always remain friend, and nothing more. anyway, who will i turn to for great advices, if we are dating?! come on now sis!"

^^epic!there you have it op..that should hurt less and I'm sure she would respect you for this(refer to MBJ's post)

How would guys like me cope without MrBrownJay. Tnks man

Duke_Nija: How would guys like me cope without MrBrownJay. Tnks man

Shey I no tell u??!
D guy na guidance counselor, lol

MBJ JUST CLOSED THE THREAD

While reading d posts, I was curious looking for MBJ n I swear I wasn't disappointed. Crush is a thing you can help d oda party to handle if its nt reciprocated. How often do u guys see n talk? Is she always visiting u alone? Did she knw there's somebody else in ur life? Why don't u follow MBJ's advice n c wat happens from dere. Remember, u don't av to say this things to her appearing over serious n wearing a long face cos she might feel embarrassed. Its и̣̣̣̥ϕ† advisable to also do this d basket mouth way cos she may think its one of ur jokes n not take it serious. Be calm n relaxed n give it d highest level of maturity. Study her mood also to knw ‎​Ђ☺ω best to tell her this. All d best

Though unfortunate u hv allowed it reach dis level, i guess u nid 2 start givin her some distance little by little n wen u see her jus talk like friends do n leave. If asks y d change jus tel her u r busy n wit tym tins wil cul off cos i blive it's jus emotional.

MBJ the counselor has come.

Nice one!

@ OP > Love is like a friendship caught on fire.
So be careful with how u handle this I am not interested of a thing
else you will end up losing a good friend too.

I undastnd ur dilemma, i was also faced wit such crushes and had 2 handle it wit maturity. 2day we are stil best of frnds,jst follow d advices given nd hope it works 4 u. Cheers.

Not ur 1st crush? U be fine boi o

arki: I undastnd ur dilemma, i was also faced wit such crushes and had 2 handle it wit maturity. 2day we are stil best of frnds,jst follow d advices given nd hope it works 4 u. Cheers.

u too da lie....who wan da crush on a ugly boy like you...

exklusive4: u too da lie....who wan da crush on a ugly boy like you...

i can figure out ur trauma,dnt worry God creatd everytin nd said they are beautiful nd yours is no exception,atleast u fine past ape nd baba(obj). There is still hope. Cheers!!!

arki:
i can figure out ur trauma,dnt worry God creatd everytin nd said they are beautiful nd yours is no exception,atleast u fine past ape nd baba(obj). There is still hope. Cheers!!!

did she ask you out yet...or kiss you forcefully...just play along till she does nau...ah ah...you may just be shocked that you are in a mind of your own. Maybe, just may be she's fooling with you. but, as long as she did not make any personal compromising demands from you. enjoy the attention and be nice

Are u gay? Just askin...

At least have sexx with her and save her the trauma, she might find out u are nt good enuf in bed and move on.

Gmygmy its not fun getting attention when you are not interested, trust me. Its tormenting.
Frank 3. I can't sleep with someone I'm not attracted to, I'm not $ex starved. Lol at your last statement. If I touch her, hmnnn..

arki:
i can figure out ur trauma,dnt worry God creatd everytin nd said they are beautiful nd yours is no exception,atleast u fine past ape nd baba(obj). There is still hope. Cheers!!!

lol...i stil fine pass you na...anyway,u be my guy...launch d babe fastly nd shaperly

do you remember how miguel used to treat that babe who had a crush on him in passions back in the day....just flow till she gets bored

frank3.16:
Are u gay? Just askin...
At least have sexx with her and save her the trauma, she might find out u are nt good enuf in bed and move on.

bro, you do know that some damsel sees having s[b]e[/b]x with a man as the unwritten contract of dating, right?! so how will that help if she is that type of lady? it will be even HARDER to get rid of her after that act.