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Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by dayokanu(m): 1:13am On Sep 06, 2012 |
Kobojunkie: My dad and mom are a couple and I am using them as examples. If my dad text me complaining about my mom, If my mom text me to report my sister, My friend teling me about his new girlfriend, Which of these does my spouse deserve to know about? |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Kobojunkie: 1:27am On Sep 06, 2012 |
dayokanu: Why exactly can't your spouse know of these? I mean what exactly is worth hiding in the examples you gave? Are you sure you understand what marriage is about? If you trying info on your parents fight or is it . . . what do you think is worth hiding? |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by coded777: 1:30am On Sep 06, 2012 |
It depends my dear. |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by linearity: 1:42am On Sep 06, 2012 |
slimyem: Yes,i do! ..for these reasons shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife and they shall be one. The day you said 'I do' you give up that privacy; both spouse should be able to read each other's SMS and emails... 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by dayokanu(m): 2:59am On Sep 06, 2012 |
Kobojunkie: Personally I wont want my spouse to know what goes on between my parents, Or between my siblings Is that what marriage is about to you? |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Kobojunkie: 3:00am On Sep 06, 2012 |
dayokanu: WOW . . so you will never discuss what is going on with your parents, even when it bothers you with someone you are going to spend 50 or more years you have left on this planet with? WOW!!! You people get liver ooo . . . |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 3:03am On Sep 06, 2012 |
coogar: How?? I meant about the iPhone feature, this is my 3rd iPhone and I don't get notification like you do or is it a provider feature? |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by dayokanu(m): 3:09am On Sep 06, 2012 |
Kobojunkie: I dont see why I should discuss EVERYTHING about my parent with my spouse. No need for it in IMO. My spouse doesnt have to know everything going on |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Kobojunkie: 3:12am On Sep 06, 2012 |
dayokanu: I didn't say anything about discussing EVERYTHING . . . you are here suggesting you have to hide your text etc from your spouse, and I am trying to understand why you have to make such an effort to hide these things from someone you plan to spend 50 or more years with. This is a person who BELONGS to YOUR Family. She is a part of you, closer to you than your cousins, brothers, sisters, etc. Your shadow in human form, and you instead choose to HIDE information from her? Also, We all know that it takes effort to hide things from people than to have it out in the open. |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by dayokanu(m): 3:31am On Sep 06, 2012 |
Kobojunkie: Just like the spousal bond is special so also is the bond between parent and child. If I receive texts from my parents, I would want to vet it and decide if I want to share with my spouse or not. But if she is allowed unrestricted access to my text messages, then that purpose is defeated. Just like I wont share all what transpires between me and my spouse with my parent, I wont also do vice versa. I would hide such text because my parents issue is not her business until I decide to involve her hopefully with their consent |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 3:38am On Sep 06, 2012 |
dayokanu: Marry me. I am single |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Kobojunkie: 3:46am On Sep 06, 2012 |
dayokanu: So you intend to allow access, but not unrestricted access? If that is what you want for your marriage, that is cool. Sigh!! . . . . . From my experience, or should I say, I have lived long enough to know/learn that much of what we hide bubbles up the surface soon and hiding things takes too much effort that more times than not, it ends up not worth it. I personally have no secrets in my whole life . . . not one . . . and having an open-book relationship appeals a lot to me, because it means the communication part of maintaining a good relationship will be mostly taken care of that way. I don't talk much, especially when I am stressed, so if my spouse wants to get info on anything going down, my other-half can easily access my emails, text, phone etc. to get the necessary updates, or wait till when I am over the stress(which might be weeks) to get an update on what has been going on. |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by dayokanu(m): 4:30am On Sep 06, 2012 |
Kobojunkie: This is about respecting the parent child bond and not sharing everything about your parents with your spouse Just like my wife wont want me to tell my parents everything about her/Us. No one knows when such text message from parents or work colleagues would come in so to preserve the confidentiality its better the partner doesnt open texts at all. If my wife is sharing a gist with her sister on how wonderful her bf is in bed, I wont want to know such and I bet the sister nor my wife would want me to know, if I insist she might allow me but why would I want to? People regardless of who they are deserve their privacy. My siblings discussing their love and romantic lives with me might not be something they want me to share with my wife |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by dayokanu(m): 4:32am On Sep 06, 2012 |
jennykadry: You wey I dey see with Sagamite |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by thesherriff(m): 5:21am On Sep 06, 2012 |
afam4eva: U need to see the way some spouse reacts when a text message or call comes in when the fone is close to their partners.my take.... If u don't have anything to hide what's in a text message? |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by timilehing(m): 5:45am On Sep 06, 2012 |
It is. Doin that infers suspicion |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 6:35am On Sep 06, 2012 |
coogar: It's not a big deal maam, my husband sees my paperwork (client stuff) and even helps me with some stuff like say on my iPad , he will never say that info to a third party or even joke with it, that's the trust he'll never break. That's even the peak of being disrespectful . Abeg leave ethic code jare, you wan kill me with work when I have a extra hand (that has a knowledge of what i do and I trust) to help? |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 6:48am On Sep 06, 2012 |
dayokanu: Wow... marriage marriage!! So there's rule in what and what not to be shared between couple that's supposed to be one? In all the little experience I've had in my life and moving forward I've come to learn that ANY spouse that has any restriction on the use of his/her cell phone DEFINATELY has something they are hiding, PERIOD! |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 6:59am On Sep 06, 2012 |
dayokanu: Are you even serious about this ^^? What are you embarrassed about? I've read the most disgraceful email (forwarded btw us ) when it comes to inlaws and parents but it's our problem and we have to work it out together... I tire for this kind naija version marriage O! People really need to rethink what they're doing, are they just roommates or couple? I'm shocked!! |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 7:24am On Sep 06, 2012 |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 7:31am On Sep 06, 2012 |
My wife answering my calls is something I've never had any issues with, and vice versa. Generally, if my phone ring and I'm not within reach, my wife will holler. Sometimes, I'd ask her to answer it, but that's all. She would NEVER read my text messages, and I'd never read hers. It's no different from me steaming open her lettewrs, and reading them before passing it on to her. Or accessing her emails and reading those too. Anyone who feels the need to read their partner's text messages has security issues, and is looking for issues where there are none. Besides, reading a text message could have you misinterpreting scenarios, to the detriment of your marriage. I hope all who have responded so far are married? Because hypothesis is very different to real life. |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by ThaLokI: 7:52am On Sep 06, 2012 |
hw does dis affect the price of garri @ mama nkechi's?? hw does dis affect the price of garri @ mama nkechi's?? |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 7:54am On Sep 06, 2012 |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 8:08am On Sep 06, 2012 |
chaircover: Funny enough Siena, I tend to find that the people who really have issues with this and think that their partners are hiding things are the ones who are not allowed to touch their partners phone. You will find that your wife wont bother looking at your SMS messages because she knows that she has access anyway. Exactly! The moment there are rule and boundaries, one gets inquisitive! If someone has access to h/her spouses's phone, then reading a text message is NOT supposed to be an issue. But where there are rules on how and when text messages should be read, then things tend to get a bit tense! |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by freecocoa(f): 8:14am On Sep 06, 2012 |
Siena: My wife answering my calls is something I've never had any issues with, and vice versa. Generally, if my phone ring and I'm not within reach, my wife will holler. Sometimes, I'd ask her to answer it, but that's all. She would NEVER read my text messages, and I'd never read hers.God bless you sir, i don't know how people can equate answering a phone call to reading an sms. |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 8:15am On Sep 06, 2012 |
Siena: My wife answering my calls is something I've never had any issues with, and vice versa. Generally, if my phone ring and I'm not within reach, my wife will holler. Sometimes, I'd ask her to answer it, but that's all. She would NEVER read my text messages, and I'd never read hers. One question . . . Does you wife the password to your e-mail |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by thesherriff(m): 8:17am On Sep 06, 2012 |
[b][/b][q[color=#990000][/color]uote author=linearity] ..for these reasons shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife and they shall be one. The day you said 'I do' you give up that privacy; both spouse should be able to read each other's SMS and emails...[/quote][b][/b Well said |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by freecocoa(f): 8:22am On Sep 06, 2012 |
Ujujoan:If i remember what this thread and the first question on it is all about, it is Do you find it disrespectful if your partner reads a new sms on your phone before passing it on to you? Now that's different from them reading an sms you've read and left on your phone. Whether you believe it or not, there are things meant to be kept to self and many examples have been cited. I have no issue with my partner checking my phone for whatever(well he doesn't without asking first) but he has no right to read my sms before me, unless i ask him to, simple. |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 8:25am On Sep 06, 2012 |
Its nt desrespectful, if u cant cope with it, go n marry anoda man.... As i no hack ha phone ma sef..... Al dz lv and trust stufs are highly exagerated, dats y 1 man close to my place is been fooled by hs wife, hu cheats on him and he goes abt broadcasting hz luv nd trust 4 hz wife, if u tel him d truth, u turn hz enemy... Bleeping idiota |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 8:28am On Sep 06, 2012 |
freecocoa: If i remember what this thread and the first question on it is all about, it is So is it dis-respectful or just inappropriate - in your opinion |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by freecocoa(f): 8:42am On Sep 06, 2012 |
Ujujoan:It is BOTH.. |
Re: Is It Disrespectful To Read Your Spouse's SMS? by Nobody: 8:45am On Sep 06, 2012 |
freecocoa: It is BOTH.. Hmmmn . . . . Well that's just your opinion! |
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