I have a girl in my life, she's caring and loving.
we started our relationship ten years ago, btw us everything was cool and calm but later at the long run, i mean two years in the relationship i got an admission into higher institution and she looses trust in me, with the believe that am dating someone in school and she started acting funny which led to ending the relationship. But two years later after i finished my ND we agreed to continue the relationship, while the first year coming back together she was so wonderful and marvellous with the way she handled situation with me and everything btw us went fine and okay. The girl fortunately for her joined a force and after training she started working and ever since i hardly undastand her but somehow i still believe she loves me.
My problem with her is that if i don't call her for a week she will not bother to call and whenever i eventually called to complain she started bragging that i refused to call her all this while. If i may ask, my believe is if she does not hear from me i expected her to show some care because that was her for me at the initial stage.
Presently we've been quarrelling for more than three months now all because she refused to show me love and care and now she intend coming to my place on Friday.
What do think i should do or say?

NAWAOHHHH 10YR RELATONSHIP? WETIN B ND?

hesky84: she started working and ever since i hardly undastand her but somehow i still believe she loves me.

Let her action speak for her,stop assuming.

hesky84: My problem with her is that if i don't call her for a week she will not bother to call and whenever i eventually called to complain she started bragging that i refused to call her all this while.

Simple you are not as important to her as you think.
If a girl love's you no matter how busy she is she will always create time to call the one she loves

hesky84: If i may ask, my believe is if she does not hear from me i expected her to show some care because that was her for me at the initial stage.

Dude forget about the past(initial stage)
So since she is not showing concern what can you deduce
Ofcourse she is just not that into you again(she might have initially but now ****)

hesky84: Presently we've been quarrelling for more than three months now all because she refused to show me love and care and now she intend coming to my place on Friday.

Dude if you love someone you show them.Ofcourse she doesnt love you

hesky84: What do think i should do or say?

Guy break it off.
Matters like this require drastic measures.
Think with your brain and not you heart
It is better to be single than to be in a miserable relationship
She may tell you she will change but trust me its a hoax.
There are certain traits that people have, and you cannot wish or hope them to be different; they can only be accepted.to argue against the way things are –is to cause certain frustration, anxiety, and anger.
To expect otherwise would not only be slightly crazy.
she wont change.

k2039:
Let her action speak for her,stop assuming.


Simple you are not as important to her as you think.
If a girl love's you no matter how busy she is she will always create time to call the one she loves


Dude forget about the past(initial stage)
So since she is not showing concern what can you deduce
Ofcourse she is just not that into you again(she might have initially but now ****)


Dude if you love someone you show them.Ofcourse she doesnt love you

Guy break it off.
Matters like this require drastic measures.
Think with your brain and not you heart
It is better to be single than to be in a miserable relationship
She may tell you she will change but trust me its a hoax.
There are certain traits that people have, and you cannot wish or hope them to be different; they can only be accepted.to argue against the way things are –is to cause certain frustration, anxiety, and anger.
To expect otherwise would not only be slightly crazy.
she wont change.

You just spoke into my current situation.

Best post ot the month!

The only reason I think the OP came here is because she refused to come over on Friday