chaircover: Lock up ke?!!!! In Nigeria? a man that will bail himself in 2 hours and come home and beat the hell out of them again . . . The policeman she wants to report to, probably beat his own wife up that same morning.

The only thing I can suggest to the poster is to get your parents involved. They are still his parents and they should still be able to talk to him in a language that he understands regardless of whether he is the one feeding them or not.

As for your SIL all you can do is to explain to her the dangers of being seriously injured or even killed one day and what is being instilled in the watching kids. Tell her to take this seriously and go speak to her parents/family and even if it means that she has a trial separation until the husband comes back to his senses so should it be. She has a job, and if the man was/is as generous and rich as you say, then your SIL should have some savings to be able to fend for herself for a while until the man behaves himself.

debrief08: Thankfully, we are begining to remove our head from the sand and speak out. Thank God people are actually living to tell the story, baby steps but Thank God.
https://www.nairaland.com/1055951/domestic-violence-video-how-frank

debrief08:
Thankfully, we are begining to remove our head from the sand and speak out. Thank God people are actually living to tell the story, baby steps but Thank God.
https://www.nairaland.com/1055951/domestic-violence-video-how-frank
The Walk Against Molestation in Lagos which encouraged Molestation victims to speak out; and the Peace Prayer Outreach in Kwara State which enriched the lives of those in need and advocated for understanding between religions. These efforts all served to promote peace, non-violence and solidarity within Nigeria and more importantly advanced the vision of Peace One Day.

Obiang who was once married to the 'Who Wants To Be A Millionaire' host, Frank Edoho said, "Just to dare to argue with your husband is like a challenge in your home. The woman is challenging the man and tempers flay and then you snap, then there is a slap. He says 'I am sorry it is a mistake' then says 'sorry I won't do it again,' then he does it again, again and again.

Narrating a particular incident, Hadiza, estranged wife of musician Zaki Adzay, said, "he slapped me on the face so (and said) 'get up you must abort this pregnancy today. Now that I am married to you, you want to hook me with pregnancy because I am a celebrity.' Then there was a wardrobe in our room so I put my tummy in there and then he continued beating me. He had some folic acid in his hand and said I should swallow it and abort the pregnancy. When he gave me I said he should allow me take water, thank God the door was open so I ran away."

Johndoe100:

Frankly women like debrief make me sick.

ileobatojo:

Really? If that's how easy it is to get sick, then I think everyone on here just died from an epidemic of the bubonic plaque or something just based on your foul presence here.

ileobatojo:

Really? If that's how easy it is to get sick, then I think everyone on here just died from an epidemic of the bubonic plaque or something just based on your foul presence here.

debrief08:
Seriously dear, why bother? This is the only attention some people get in real life, they will go as far as making up IDs holding a conversation with themselves and liking their own comments. .
Abeg allow them to have their own fun jor, insulting me makes their lives complete, am glad to be off service

ileobatojo:

Really? If that's how easy it is to get sick, then I think everyone on here just died from an epidemic of the bubonic plaque or something just based on your foul presence here.

Sisi_Kill: When someone sees nothing wrong in a man depriving his kids of their basic needs just to show their momma. . .that's your cue to end the discussion because you are obviously not having it with reasonable person.

debrief08:
Seriously dear, why bother? This is the only attention some people get in real life, they will go as far as making up IDs holding a conversation with themselves and liking their own comments.

jennykadry:

Seun has made things easy for us. We are able to identify the spam bots amongst us. Once you see a name startin with "John.." and "rich". it simply means "ignore me cos I am very irrelevant ". When you see the above mentioned ids, Just let out a nice long fart on their posts and move on to the important users here.

jennykadry:

Seun has made things easy for us. We are able to identify the spam bots amongst us. Once you see a name startin with "John.." and "rich". it simply means "ignore me cos I am very irrelevant ". When you see the above mentioned ids, Just let out a nice long fart on their posts and move on to the important users here.

They are spambots. Very unimportant spambots still looking for their identities, it is still where they left it -the bin.

Some of us have since learnt to ignore most times. I know they are lonely but that is why there is a place called a "Zoo" blessed with monkeys and gorillas to keep them company when the need for attention arises

cotton101: Moral of the story - women be financially independent.

When elephants fight its the grass that suffers.

Johndoe100: "Woe is me" has come again. Before you deliberately mislead those that are not here. There are in fact a community of damaged and activists in Lagos. To make them the norm is to show the lives of the Nollywood actresses and tell people that they are the "common folk". The truth is that in Nigeria a well to do man is virtually untouchable in the normal course of events. Let me give you an example of life in Nigeria in Lagos in fact:

A man I know, (yes, he lost his temper on a few occasions and had to put his woman in her place) was in a similar situation. His woman had found some damaged people similar to debrief08 and they started with this BS that she posted here. They tried to influence the kids all in secondary and universities. The children decided to support the mother. When push came to shove, the man went on strike, the millions ( and I mean millions that the ungrateful children spend in school fees etc) now was gone. The damaged ones now came with - get this " Yes, you were in University of London, but you can transfer to Yaba tech or Lagos Poly, they are good schools. Your younger ones can go to some schools around the corner". Needless to say before you could say Jack Robinson, the whole family had now discovered what an ungrateful woman their mother was. One of the boys actually drove the the "damaged ones" out of their house with threats of violence.

At the end of the day the foolish woman found herself alone and under very severe attack from all the members of her family, the children surprisingly now "remembered " what their mother does that would drive any sane man to violence. The Policemen involved became good friends with the man and drop by from time to time to "say hello" (those of you in Nigeria understand what this means).

Frankly women like debrief make me sick, they are just miserable people, who go around seeking other people to drag into misery with them. Lagos is as usual its hypocritical self. They make laws that everyone knows only apply to certain classes of people and certain people are untouchable. Sorry to say this , but as we all know Yoruba people just like strife and stress and in Lagos they have attracted a large number of nut cases to their inane causes.

prixxy:



Excuse me sir please i would like to know if you are a family man with children (especially girl children)If you do, how will you like some man whopping your child with a stick cane or belt or even with punches

prixxy:



Excuse me sir please i would like to know if you are a family man with children (especially girl children)If you do, how will you like some man whopping your child with a stick cane or belt or even with punches

Johndoe100:

Yes, I have children. No one would like their child to be beaten, I am sure you know that.

makdastar: I have been living with my elder brother for some years now, and he really hasn't been an easy person to live with.


I don't mind the fact that he beats me, along with the children, but sometimes he canes his wife too, after caning us.

prixxy:

Sorry if i am asking too much question,am only trying to understand your point of view,
I will like to know what your reaction will be if one of your children came to you crying that there supposed husband has beaten her up because
she offended him.

dayokanu: Is the woman enjoying it ?

berem: I think she is if not she would have done something fast about it! Why waste time when you have people you could talk to? I don't know why some nigerian women enjoy abusive marriage all in the name of answering "MRS"? How can an educated and learned married man dare lay his filthy hands on his wife for whatever reasons? Why on earth do we have marriage counsellors? I will advise the lady to do something quickly before she looses her life!

chaircover: Lock up ke?!!!! In Nigeria? a man that will bail himself in 2 hours and come home and beat the hell out of them again . . . The policeman she wants to report to, probably beat his own wife up that same morning.

The only thing I can suggest to the poster is to get your parents involved. They are still his parents and they should still be able to talk to him in a language that he understands regardless of whether he is the one feeding them or not.

As for your SIL all you can do is to explain to her the dangers of being seriously injured or even killed one day and what is being instilled in the watching kids. Tell her to take this seriously and go speak to her parents/family and even if it means that she has a trial separation until the husband comes back to his senses so should it be. She has a job, and if the man was/is as generous and rich as you say, then your SIL should have some savings to be able to fend for herself for a while until the man behaves himself.

monkeyleg:

Thanks you, this is exactly what I have been saying

dayokanu: Is the woman enjoying it ?