A bunch of elders in Masinga, Machakos County, Kenya were recently forced to eat humble pie and beg an angry suitor to marry their daughter, after he walked out of ongoing dowry negotiations, accusing them of extorting him. The suitor only identified as Mwendwa caused a stir after he ordered the people who had accompanied him to the function, to pack the goods he had presented as dowry onto a pick-up, leaving the home in a fit of rage. This was after the elders inflated the cost of his bride and fined him heavily for “misbehaving”.

As is the custom among the Akamba, Mwendwa had arrived at his in-laws’ home with a delegation comprising his extended family, friends, neighbours and workmates, to pay dowry. His in-laws had prepared food and were serving alcoholic drinks. As they dined and wined, Mwendwa got tipsy and without a care in the world, staggered onto the dance floor and began dancing with women inappropriately.

Fines imposed

This he did to the chagrin of his in-laws and wife-to-be. “His unbecoming behaviour upset the wazee (old men) who decided to fine him two goats. “He stopped dancing inappropriately, apologised and agreed to pay the fine,” intimated a source who attended the ceremony. Much later, during their stay at the home, one of the men who accompanied Mwendwa was accused of having kicked a dog.“The elders fined Mwendwa three more goats for the bad manners of a member of his delegation,” reveals the source.

Everything else went on well until later when Mwendwa’s family began to renegotiate the dowry, seeing as there had been a couple of fines imposed. Mwendwa had initially agreed to give Sh80,000,(N160,000) 82 goats and other material goods. Instead of the goats, he was asked to pay an extra Sh80,000,(N160,000) which would be the equivalent of 40 goats (at the cost of Sh2,000 each) and give the other 42 goats later. The in-laws however, consulted and made fresh demands, insisting that Mwendwa pay all the dowry at once because, they said, he was a man of means. To their shock, a miffed Mwendwa walked out and instructed his men to load all the goods they had brought onto the pickup and leave. When the elders discovered that Mwendwa was not joking, his fiance run to him crying and begged him to change his mind, telling him to just “just pay what you have”.

Elders joined her and implored Mwendwa to cool his temper, pleading and begging him to sit down and discuss but a tipsy, peeved Mwendwa would hear none of it. He left. The relationship now hangs in the balance.

http://www.standardmedia.co.ke/entertainment/article/2000140939/man-storms-out-of-dowry-negotiations-crying-extortion

A very interesting story

Coolness!!!

82 goats?

cococandy:
82 goats?

Nigerian men are screaming that what is being charged locally is too much.Kenyans don't joke with cows & goats for dowry & the groom must go with govt permit to prove it was not stolen!

Pavore9:
Nigerian men are screaming that what is being charged locally is too much.Kenyans don't joke with cows & goats for dowry & the groom must go with govt permit to prove it was not stolen!

this is serious

govt permit

Pavore9:
Nigerian men are screaming that what is being charged locally is too much.Kenyans don't joke with cows & goats for dowry & the groom must go with govt permit to prove it was not stolen!

cococandy:
this is serious

Don't be angry as that tribe charged nothing in comparison to the Turkanas of Northern Kenya, where a young man who wants to marry requires about 100 cows, 200 goats & several camels just to marry this beautiful bride!

Pavore9:
Don't be angry as that tribe charged nothing in comparison to the Turkanas of Northern Kenya, where a young man who wants to marry requires about 100 cows, 200 goats & several camels just to marry this beautiful bride!

chei. I don't envy them.

BTW are you Kenyan? You seem to know them well

If paying a high dowry is what makes a marriage successful, then people should pay any anything no matter how high the price.
But if it is just a tradition (which it is), let the couple be allowed to get married with what they have because after the ceremony comes the real deal - building their home.

Of what use is a high dowry if a marriage crashes before it even takes off?

cococandy:


chei. I don't envy them.

BTW are you Kenyan? You seem to know them well

Me Kenyan? l be proper born and raised in Lagos, l just live in Nairobi.

so these kenya girls are only after goat and cow. i shuld have known

Those guys are still learning.

Some places in Nigeria are very expensive as well. Even more than that.

Guys that love their wife,go there and do those stuff quietly and peaceful and receive their parental blessings waka. It is better than having a partner and your union is not leaglised and approved by the family traditionally.

However,it is not by force o,or a must to marry from such places,u can marry from somewhere else,there are always options . Everywhere can't have same high demand.

eleojo23:
If paying a high dowry is what makes a marriage successful, then people should pay any anything no matter how high the price.
But if it is just a tradition (which it is), let the couple be allowed to get married with what they have because after the ceremony comes the real deal - building their home.

Of what use is a high dowry if a marriage crashes before it even takes off?

may your days be long for this comment.

After all this, some still ask for gender equality.

#162000 for bride price,that means with less than #200000,a man can marry over there..

Where's my passport,I want to go marry 5 wives,and above.

And later, you hear these bought women coming here to talk about feminism!

And later the wife go wan dey misbehave



If i hear say that man no treat her f up...

Yomieluv:
#162000 for bride price,that means with less than #200000,a man can marry over there..

Where's my passport,I want to go marry 5 wives,and above.

What about the 82 goats?

Pavore9:
When the elders discovered that Mwendwa was not joking, his fiance ran to him crying and begged him to change his mind, telling him to just “just pay what you have”.
Elders joined her and implored

I Love this part bois were no longer smiling[img]http://smileyshack.files./2010/12/smileyslaughing_lol_rofl__100-100.gif?w=35&h=26[/img]

Pavore9:
Me Kenyan? l be proper born and raised in Lagos, l just live in Nairobi.

ok

wonders shall never end

Chai. chai, chai.

Elders, when una go get sense na?

dude was already tipsy otherwise I see no sense in him walking out on his wife-to-be and her family. no matter the attitude they put up, there's always room for negotiation and besides he's the one who needs a wife so no need for the haughtiness.

even aftr d fiance begged and d gals people said pay wot u have he still went away.he wey go marry go dey dance with other gals inapporiantely.d gal wants to put herself in bondage.if u check u will c she is pregnant dats y d man even wants to marry her.he does not love her

So Marriage Na better business for Kenya? lmao!

Goat and cow business go make sense there o

He shld have controlled his temper

He did the right thing, when you buy a woman she becomes your property and you can treat her how you like. The dowry should be a token.
That is why many poor decent men cannot afford to marry.
As for the girl, strange that extra goats can appease her for the mans behavior.
This is just sale of goods and not a marriage.

So when are the ladies going to start paying groom price?

wait o
is dis a movie script?
























just wondering how a potential groom would drink and b tipsy wen he has not yet paid de dowry.

Seems the man has a nut running loose in his head, a man who was dancing inappropriately in presence of his in- laws and wife to be is not going to make a good husband if you asked me, he even still left after pleas from his bride, I wonder what kind of marriage that would be.

All these elders sef, them too like to overdo things, 82 goats kwa? Haa na wa o.

Wen will this sink