Hi brothers,
Am glad to be back.Well my last post on this forum was on 'AFFAIRS OF THE HEART'.I was looking for the thread but I couldn't find the topic.
Anyway, not to bother I will like to tell you that after watching the girl in question for some time and thought that she really liked me like I told you guys,I finally decided to do some thing I've never done before.I travelled all the way from my town to ABSU to see the girl and do you know what she told me?She said,'I am not serious!' and with that she walked back to her lecture room.I know the risks I took not to talk of the money I spent for transport.Boy I no fit shout.I was really shattered,but I took it like a man.At least it has saved me a lot of future stress with her.I hope she means what she says and not continue with her intrigues because I will just ignore her.
Well, this is to thank all those that gave me advice during the 1st time I narracted my story and hereby solicit for your needed advice.Should I totally forget about her or do I continue to pray she changes her opinion about me.I no fit cry over split milk.
Sorry guys I didn't say HAPPY NEW YEAR!

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=90311.msg1639274#msg1639274 here is the link to the original post

PLS could anybody help me in this forum before I commit suicide

amuki:

PLS could anybody help me in this forum before I commit suicide

SERIOUSLY??
is that serious.

if u kill ursef. . . life still go on for the rest of us.

brace ursef and move on with u life!


***hiss out loud***
want to f**king kill ursef cos of a girl. u neva start!

Busta:

SERIOUSLY??
is that serious.

if u kill ursef. . . life still go on for the rest of us.

brace ursef and move on with u life!


***hiss out loud***
want to f**king kill ursef because of a girl. u never start!

LMFHO!!!!!!!!!!!!

Pls where are the nairaland adviser!!
lets save this guy b4 he commit sucide

Do we still have advisers on this forum?

guy the reason why you are not getting any advice is obvious by now, you have to start the story over again because many people did not see your intial post, and about the suicide issue , you had better have a rethink because if you do, she probably woulddn't even hear and even if she does; the fact stil remains that she would still date another guy and tell him how pretty and important she is, .that you had to kill yourself. pathetic isn't it?

The initial post was given by 'baby4u2' on the link provided with topic, 'AFFAIRS OF THE HEART'.

go and commit suicide now, because of a girl who is there having her fun.

she doesn't want you, so what has the world ended, abeg move on with your life jare.

please don´t be so sad, I know it´s very hard, but there are other people u love, so think of them and it´s not the end of the world!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

na u sabi. just continue to dey try disturb am but dey put head for another one oh

Do you know what they do in Puerto Rico (look it up in an atlas)
when somebody stands on top of a building threatening to jump and kill themselves people actually stop in the street and scream "JUMP"   

if you wan kill ya sef for woman wey no want you abeg do am quick before you see the woman for town with the other guy wey you no like

I am not sure If i can be assist you, the heartbroker, based on your profile. You seem frustrated how to approach girl.

However you have plenty of your life ahead pursing your interests trying to forget the pain you went thru. Forget that girl you have a chance to ask for date previously. Move on your life finding someone new!

Next time when it come to date a girl, make sure you follow the helpful tips at below:

10 Insights You should take steps into serious relationship before you get marry her/him
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-95533.0.html

Some girls self, it's when you open your mind to them and tell them your heart, they start bullshitting you, and your affairs becomes worst, she start behaving like a queen that has superb levels, this happened to me once, I latter notice this type of girls are hore and stupid slot.

Bro, it would be better if you dont say anything to her but instead play along. This kind of girls prefer it that way, after then, you can even turn her into a sex machine if you want, you call and she's always there.

amuki:

I travelled all the way from my town to ABSU to see the girl and do you know what she told me?She said,'I am not serious!' and with that she walked back to her lecture room.

amuki, which part of her response did you not understand? is it the 'you are not' or 'serious'? if you like commit suicide, it will only be a 'stupid' loss to your family and she wont even give a bloody damn. get hold of yourself and be n control of your head. u have your studies to face. get a life and she will come begging.

@poster
You are hereby advised.

Amuki?

What is the problem now? You wanted a lady badly, you went there to meet her and she turned you down. Sure, you have the right to feel bad. You okay if you felt like taking the next trip to the world beyond. It is normal to feel that way. I congratulate you for passing through that stage. You are growing up.

But we human must never act everything that come to our mind during crisis period. We must behave like humans and not animals.

So far, you didn't kill yourself. You have the opportunity to make amend and learn from your mistakes.

One, did she invited you before you went there? Or you simply made a surprise visit?
Two, when you first saw her that day, what was the first word that came out of your mouth? (FYI, the first word you utter and your body language can influence her attitude toward you)
Three, what impression do you have of her before and after your visit?

You can't tell us that she invited you only for her to act as if you never existed. Something must be wrong.

Whatever the case is, I can assure you that if you don't obey the spirit of suicide, you have alot to gain from that experience than you think.

While waiting for your sincere reply, I congratulate you, once again, for being rejected. It is well.

Amuki?

What is the problem now? You wanted a lady badly, you went there to meet her and she turned you down. Sure, you have the right to feel bad. You okay if you felt like taking the next trip to the world beyond. It is normal to feel that way. I congratulate you for passing through that stage. You are growing up.

But we human must never act everything that come to our mind during crisis period. We must behave like humans and not animals.

So far, you didn't kill yourself. You have the opportunity to make amend and learn from your mistakes.

One, did she invited you before you went there? Or you simply made a surprise visit?
Two, when you first saw her that day, what was the first word that came out of your mouth? (FYI, the first word you utter and your body language can influence her attitude toward you)
Three, what impression do you have of her before and after your visit?

You can't tell us that she invited you only for her to act as if you never existed. Something must be wrong.

Whatever the case is, I can assure you that if you don't obey the spirit of suicide, you have alot to gain from that experience than you think.

While waiting for your sincere reply, I congratulate you, once again, for being rejected. It is well.

@ Olanajim
Answers:
1: I was not invited and I wanted it to be a surprise visit.
2: 1st question I got was,'why are you here?I said,I came to see her then came that reply that broke the carmel's back.
3:Before I thought she wanted to see me and talk to me.After the encounter I guess I can say that wasn't the case or she was forming.

Anuki,

You committed a terrible blunder. Let this be the last time you would do such a silly thing. YOU WERE NOT HEART BROKEN. To the contrary, you were honoured. For all I know, you could have been subjected to public ridicule or humiliation of the highest order had the lady turned out to be a ruthless type.
Secondly, anything could have happened to you on the road and nobody, not even the lady would know what was wrong.

Once again, I congratulates you for being rejected. You should rather throw party and celebrate your rejection than contemplate stupid suicide. If you must commit suicide, Join Hamas. It is more honourable.

Lesson 1.
Never pay a stupid surprise visit to a lady that is playing hard to get. If you must "visit", make it a "chance occurence". You could tell her you come to see a friend in the town and feel you say "hello" to her. That is saver than telling her you came all the way from God knows where only to "toast" her like toast-bread while she is supposed to be in lecture room.

Lesson 2.
Always have a fair idea how your host would treat you. Don't expect anything possitive for a potentially hostile host. You are walking to her den, expect rejection and be prepare for it while working toward your success.

Lesson 3.
Never show desperation when approaching a lady. No matter how much you want her, don't turn her to your god. Treat her well, but don't demean yourself for love sake.

When she asked you "why are you here?" it wasn't what you said that made her said you are not serious. It was how you said it. You are probably shaking from head to toe. And I could see her scan you with amusement written on her face. She took a quick look at you and your attitude and concluded you don't worth her time.

You messed up a golden opportunity to make a good impression.

She was kind to you only for you to act "Mr Bean" stuffs. That she came out to see you in the first place meant she was curious to know something about you. She honoured you.

Lesson 4.
Learn to improve your communication. Communication and talking are far apart in term of result they produce. Everybody can talk, but not everybody communicates. From your posting above, you radiates negative mentality. And if you communicates that way in real life, God help you! You don't need Wole Soyinka head to do that. Just a simple common sense and self confidence could have helped you.

MY ADVICE
1. Forget her and let you fragile heart heal. But if you want her at all costs, then first extirpate the cowardly thought you haboured in you. Be ready for further disappontment. Anything can happen even if she had to pour pepper soup on your face. You must be ready to smile all the way home.
2. If you agree to forget her, face your study and make a good grade. She would love you for that. But if you want to try your luck again, send her a beautiful card and say sorry for wasting her time. Expect your card in trash can. But don't give up. Buy her things she can't resist even if it takes your last kobo. One day goddess of luck may smile at you.
3. Learn how to communicate. And stop talking. Take note that communication doesn't implies cramming Oxford Dictionary. Change your attitude and build your courage. You can still communicate with the lady. But pretend you are no more interested in her. Let her see in you why she need to fraternize with you. Let her see what you have to offer.

Make friends and socialise. That would ease your tension.

Finally, Anuki, always remember that every umpleasant experience you encounter in life were meant to impact a useful lesson in your life. Take that rejection like a man and celebrate your failure while consciously making attempt at success. Before you know it, you would be envy by those who rejected you.

Goodluck.

has he died

@Olajinam good posts.

@Olanajim

you have done well!!!!  very well!!!!!! Couldn't have been done any beta.

Ifyalways,
he is alive o. I don't think he want to die anymore.

Thanks for the complement.

Naja Haje,
thanks.