sbm4real:

Hi all,

I wonder why men are very insensitive or rather nairaland guys are insensitive. I watch the way discussions go here and guys never seize to amaze me. they are always abusing ladies or calling someone mugu and all sort. Like the above thread, i see no reason why someone should call another one muguit just a simple case, advise and move on. you guys need to grow up

pmond:

I don’t see anything suspicious about your friend’s babe. If he is not comfortable her working there he could as well look for a new job for her with better pay or he could just take all her financial responsibility. Not except she refuse a new job offer or after he accept to take her financial issue on himself, can we now say he definitely hang in there for a reason.

But I most warn you my friend… Girls are literally vulnerable around someone she has once dated and definitely around one she as once dated who had been abroad and successful.

aisha2:

Yeh Reed, it could be that the Job came with an apartment.

Lord_Reed:

Nairalanders checkout this scenerio wit a boy of mine.

His girl works for her ex-boyfriend n sleeps in the guy's guesthouse though the ex does not stay in Nigeria. Now she has assured him that its purely business now n all social contact have ceased but I can not shake the feeling that sometin is going on n my boy too.

How do I advise him: give her an ultimatum to quit d job or just b cool wit d whole tin?

aisha2:

Lord Reed, one thing i notice from most of your replies is that you have a lot of fear and ofen make some misconceptions as it patterns to relationships.

You can't always  be in control and things can't always be the way you want them remember you are dealing with a fellow human being. What I mean is that most times in a relationship, you just do your part and let your partner be, its left to them to return your love and faithfulness or not, you have no control over that.

You have to live and let live.
If your friend is in love with her then he should give her some benefit of doubt, I am a christain and i believe strongly in Christain love and with that you can't go wrong. Perfect Love cast away all fear. I have been hurt before even when i love like that but i see it as their loss not mine, and most times they come to apologise.

Do your aprt and have an open mind, people could disappoint you but fear of the probable or the unknown will not help you or your friend, learn to take things simply or as easy as it comes,it saves a lot of stress. Dont worry about a lot of things because in the end what will be will be and we can't do anything about it.

almondjoy:

The reason black people will never see or smell progress is mostly because they concern themselves with other peoples' problems.

If only people will learn to mind their own business.


@poster
How does it concern you if I may ask?--No offence intended please.

opuro:

if it smells like cat, looked like cat and walk like cat, what is it?
it is a super story about the poster

almondjoy:


Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm!

The reason black people will never see or smell progress is mostly because they concern themselves with other peoples' problems.

If only people will learn to mind their own business.


@poster
How does it concern you if I may ask?--No offence intended please.

With all his negative vibes, he can only do worse to this relationship by sowing seeds of doubt between this couple since he has made it his headache to analyse the relationship at every waking moment of his.

This is sad.

Thank you wise one!

Lord_Reed:

1st off almondjoy I know u are Mrs Know It All but u can at least have the decency to post witout viled insults thank u.
2ndly my guy talks to me so if he asks me for advise is that pokin my nose? This forum is for discussion n I don't c why u think I am making it a 'headache'.

Hi all,

I wonder why men are very insensitive or rather nairaland guys are insensitive. I watch the way discussions go here and guys never seize to amaze me. they are always abusing ladies or calling someone mugu and all sort. Like the above thread, i see no reason why someone should call another one muguit just a simple case, advise and move on. you guys need to grow up

tkb417:

Bleep off. how does that sound? like i'm a kid aight.
take your sermons to your cathedral. who says we want to hear your megedefegede.
Bloody schmuck!!

Lord_Reed:

1st off almondjoy I know u are Mrs Know It All but u can at least have the decency to post witout viled insults thank u.
2ndly my guy talks to me so if he asks me for advise is that pokin my nose? This forum is for discussion n I don't c why u think I am making it a 'headache'.

no need for al that mate. He probably had a point and would think you'v proved him right. No offense meant o before I bcm a vctim of insult.

Indeed, some of us should be more mature wv wht we post but to be honest, the dude probably deserve the insult. Well for insultin al the men here. clean your eyz before you clean smone elses gee.

tkb417:

lmao. points taken


@Almondjoy
so the war has begun?
Please, check my area code and don't fire missiles to my side o.
My desert eagles are ready to spot any aggression and im sure the pentagon will respond in no lesser measures
Abeggii o

Lord_Reed:

@almondjoy
Sorry I meant to say veiled. I did not attend Madonna for your info. If u think insulting people if the best way to teach go rite ahead but please I don't want your method of teaching. If u do not enjoy 'gossip' why do u bother to post comments on my threads? If u feel u can't stomach them don't post very easy.

But I guess your fingers itch u so much n your body can't resist being busy. Also for your info this is my first n only Id n have never been banned.

I believe that Nairaland is a forum for learnin stuff dey don't teach in school. If I can learn from some1elses experience where is the harm in that? If by responding u can teach a tin or too where do u come off sounding like Nairaland is only for u or those u approve of?
I know u respond positively to other 'stupid' topics so why do u single me out for insults?