Your advice is needed here. I left Nigeria for europe a few years ago. I was already married with two kids. However when the visa came, my wife insisted i go since we had planned she would join me later when i settle down. However on getting to europe i needed a residence permit to be able to do anything at all. Then i met this gorgeous lady then we started dating. I told her i had a wife back home but she said she did not mind. Not wanting to stay until my visa expired, i had to ask her to marry me. She was very excited. After about a year we had twins and i got my permanent residence. However she has become very demanding these days monitoring my international calls. She says i should forget about my wife and kids in Nigeria. This i find very insane to do. Advise me please

na wa for you ooo

OP wetin dey worry you na? See the kind wahala wey u cause for not only you but for your poor wife and children in naija.

Chai!this man needs flogging.Is this not a clear case of infidelity?Why scoop fire on your lap and expect not to be burnt?Anyways the deed is done.Here is what to do IF you love your Nigerian Wife and Kids- Dump the White woman and return home

I can't blame the woman for wanting you to forget your wife we American and Europeans do not like sharing our husband but she is selfish for telling you to forget your children and you are foolish if you listen.

You've bitten off more than you could chew! So Deal with it

Isi onye ocha adago!!!

You have a wife and kids back home, you are also married with kids to a white woman; this is a true moral dilemma. If I were you, since I have already gotten the permanent residency, I would divorce the white woman and bring the wife and kids from home over.

binger: Chai!this man needs flogging.Is this not a clear case of infidelity?Why scoop fire on your lap and expect not to be burnt?Anyways the deed is done.Here is what to do IF you love your Nigerian Wife and Kids- Dump the White woman and return home

the issue is more complex than you think since i also have twins here with my white wife. I also love them too but i really dont know what to do

...things we do for survival!
I have a friend whose case now is very similar to yours.
He is very passionate about his nigerian family and I see you in this angle as well.

Don't forget your nigerian family at all.
Both families deserve your love irrespective of the circumstance that produced the second family. The kids especially.

Very dicey situation. Does your nigerian wife know you have another family abroad?

Delfino: ...things we do for survival!
I have a friend whose case now is very similar to yours.
He is very passionate about his nigerian family and I see you in this angle as well.

Don't forget your nigerian family at all.
Both families deserve your love irrespective of the circumstance that produced the second family. The kids especially.

Very dicey situation. Does your nigerian wife know you have another family abroad?

she has no idea at all about my wife here. Its really dicey now since my wife in nigeria has been putting pressure on me insisting she is getting very lonely and been with the kids alone isnt too easy on her

binger: Chai!this man needs flogging.Is this not a clear case of infidelity?Why scoop fire on your lap and expect not to be burnt?Anyways the deed is done.Here is what to do IF you love your Nigerian Wife and Kids- Dump the White woman and return home

Why don't you add the white kids to the dumping of the white wife?

How could you ever believe a white woman could handle it? 1 in millions does. Well known!
How could you start a new family there knowing you want to return to your first family? Did you think of the children?
It wasn't difficult to figure out that it would break apart one or another family in the long run.
I pity these children. Shame!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yet, many Nigerians will complain why their reputation is so f..... up. Go abroad and see all these mixed race kids growing up without a father.

Jeeztinz: she has no idea at all about my wife here. Its really dicey now since my wife in nigeria has been putting pressure on me insisting she is getting very lonely and been with the kids alone isnt too easy on her

People running from but KARMA AIN'T no running.

candygosh: You've bitten off more than you could chew! So Deal with it

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Unfortunatel yinnocent kids are affected as well. The white woman is not smarter than the poster.

... this is too strong a riddle!

If truly i found myself in this situation --- i would come home and explain everything to my wife without fear and reservation.
I will tell her everything in details and i would only hope she will understand that i did it for survival.
Then we will take the next decision together. She will be dissapointed for just getting to know for sure.
I would let her know however that i am not ready to leave her for the other wife and that's why we must agree on the next step together.

You can't afford to continue to lie to her orelse she will start suspecting.

Jeeztinz: she has no idea at all about my wife here. Its really dicey now since my wife in nigeria has been putting pressure on me insisting she is getting very lonely and been with the kids alone isnt too easy on her

Jeeztinz: Your advice is needed here. I left Nigeria for europe a few years ago. I was already married with two kids. However when the visa came, my wife insisted i go since we had planned she would join me later when i settle down. However on getting to europe i needed a residence permit to be able to do anything at all. Then i met this gorgeous lady then we started dating. I told her i had a wife back home but she said she did not mind. Not wanting to stay until my visa expired, i had to ask her to marry me. She was very excited. After about a year we had twins and i got my permanent residence. However she has become very demanding these days monitoring my international calls. She says i should forget about my wife and kids in Nigeria. This i find very insane to do. Advise me please

This is sick.

really dicey if you ask me. even if you dump your white wife, on wat ground wud you be filing for your nigerian wife? wife or sister? if it's the former, when were you two married? and when it turns out the time frame coincides with that of your foreign marriage, wud your bottom not get bursted considering you committed bigamy? you really need to think it through b4 taking any decision and while you're at it, don't forget child support. gud luck!

Thank God I married a citizen!

LMAO@dump the white wife and take the white kids.

NL won't kill me!

carefreewannabe:

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Unfortunatel yinnocent kids are affected as well. The white woman is not smarter than the poster.

I don't think he knows what divorce is like over there or maybe he hasn't thought about that.
Smh

This is just nemesis if you ask me, just that when sinners suffer, the innocent are affected.

Nothing can be done to make you eat your cake and have it, so just keep taking your responsibility on all the children and know that you do not have any wife because the woman here in Nigeria wont take you back and the European will send you packing when your job is done.

She was using you all along, yet you tought you were using her.

timifakay: This is just nemesis if you ask me, just that when sinners suffer, the innocent are affected.

Nothing can be done to make you eat your cake and have it, so just keep taking your responsibility on all the children and know that you do not have any wife because the woman here in Nigeria wont take you back and the European will send you packing when your job is done.

She was using you all along, yet you tought you were using her.

Basically what you are saying...she was enjoying that inhouse condo?

Mrs.Chima:


Basically what you are saying...she was enjoying that inhouse condo?

She needed a man in her life, here he was ready to do anything for a permit, she got what she needs from him already (children), now she can do all she wants since his job for her is done, i wont be surprised if the European woman lets out his secret claiming that he didn't inform her (about the Naigeria based family) before they got married.

timifakay:
She needed a man in her life, here he was ready to do anything for a permit, she got what she needs from him already (children), now she can do all she wants since his job for her is done, i wont be surprised if the European woman lets out his secret claiming that he didn't inform her (about the Naigeria based family) before they got married.

Lol she will he is basically stuck between a rock in a hard spot from the way he described her the European woman would rather see him thrown in jail then deported before she would see him with his Nigerian family.

Please correct me but isn't what the OP did called Bigamy? OP don't even try diverting you white wife and taking the black woman with you cos that's a sure way to end yp in jail. As all she would do is report you to the suthorities and you ill be chagrin to court for being married to 2 women at once. Why can't you divorce the white woman and come back to Nigeria?

Wait why and we even pitying this dude sef? He decided to play this emotional game with aother human being and he asks for help? Abeg I hope they find you out and charged you

Mynd_44: Please correct me but isn't what the OP did called Bigamy? OP don't even try diverting you white wife and taking the black woman with you cos that's a sure way to end yp in jail. As all she would do is report you to the suthorities and you ill be chagrin to court for being married to 2 women at once. Why can't you divorce the white woman and come back to Nigeria?

Wait why and we even pitying this dude sef? He decided to play this emotional game with aother human being and he asks for help? Abeg I hope they find you out and charged you

she told me she did not mind at the beginning, however recently she has started behaving very funny especially when we had the babies together

God damn FOOL.

So..you actually cheated on your nigerian wife, instead of telling her you wished to get a second wife?
Men like you put up bad reputation for african men, you know that, right?

You made your bed, now lay in it.
If you do not love your white wife, and you have perminent papers, divorce her. Bring your nigerian wife to you.
A father have many rights in the western world, when divorced, as to seeing the kids, etc.

Jeeztinz: she told me she did not mind at the beginning, however recently she has started behaving very funny especially when we had the babies together

This is how we should know you are an idîot. If a man gave you a gun and tells you to shoot him that he does not mind, does that stop you from getting arrested for murder if you shoot and he dies?

You broke the law of the country you separately wanted to be a citizen of and you should be in jail

Now that you've legalised your stay in whatever country you are in, how do you hope it had benefit your wife and legitimate family.
IMO, you have been selfish all along pursuing your own selfish goals with little or no consideration for your family. I'm sure you know your marriage will be voided if the authorities get to know you've once been married in Nigeria and never bothered getting a divorce.

Jeeztinz: she told me she did not mind at the beginning, however recently she has started behaving very funny especially when we had the babies together

why shouldn't she behave funny? She has a family which is evry woman's dream,do you think she would want to lose it cos of another woman? Dude,asking 4 a divorce is risky,that's why i said dump.Run back to Naija...ok.lemme be more civil,accept ur fate and bring ur wife and kids over there. Tell her the truth and work to live like one happy polygamous family #rotflmao