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Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by maclatunji: 3:49pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
Guitarlife: Don't you get it? She stood before God and man and made a convenant .She swore that she was gonna stand by a man 'in plenty and in want, in sickness and in health till death did them part' . What kind of woman makes a meal of such words. I know you don't really believe the ish you just typed there. Debrief you are on point. |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Nobody: 3:50pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
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Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Nobody: 3:55pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
This going back and forth with these same set of people is pissing me the fck off. Look at how all of you's yes you all no one is exempted, are working hard on derailing this thread? What a load of crap you all have typed so far. Abeg moderators should lock this thread that hasn't served it's purpose. Mschewwww |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Nobody: 4:01pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
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Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Nobody: 4:06pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
chaircover: guiter please correct me if I am wrong. Are you saying that it is better or debrief to have stayed and died so long as she fulfilled her covenant?Two wrongs don't make a right. Even if he fails to keep his end of the deal it's not for the woman to judge. The bible say the judgement is of the Lord. It sounds really scary but then these kids running off to marry just because they can afford to pay for a wedding need to see things from the proper perspective. Now talking as a christian I hope you know God's recipe for any type of misdeamenour is FORGIVENESS. That was why he chose to hang around even when he knew he was gonna be slaughtered. You see we cannot be sensational and spiritual at the same time. Did you read the 'in sickness ' part ? So why is it so difficult to admit that the husband did all he did to her cos he was sick. Which is part of the terms of the contract. Debrief is a lawyer and I bet she knows the marriage vow has been made to cover all loose ends. So debrief divorced her husband cos he was sick (perhaps mental case). You see how wrong she was don't you ? |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Nobody: 4:10pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
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Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Nobody: 4:14pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
chaircover: ^^^^^ i can see that you have no argumentI hate to admit but it seems the bookmakers are right after all. 'Truth is bitter' they say. 1 Like |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by tasandra: 4:25pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
![]() Pls,dont mind some JOBLESS thins,wit their mind set. |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Nobody: 4:40pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
No one is locking any thread, I have asked that people ignore some comments, if I who is insulted can do that why won't others do the same? Some people will always do what they do but I will not let them keep derailing threads with my name on it and make them get locked. I am on Nairaland not for anyone to impress or make any one like me but to share experiences. If I am attacked I respond constructively, when it comes from some people I ignore because it is the same issue. If you feel the need to defend me please don't, If they keep insulting and are ignored they go, when they are responded to then its derailed. Please let this issue be, these issues are very important for intending couples, even if 1 person picks from it I am happy. NOBODY SHOULD SPEAK IN MY DEFENCE, anyone who wants to insult should do so and be ignored by all. Please |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by 9lifes(m): 4:48pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
maclatunji: Thank god for him then.Unfortunately everyone can not tell the same story,he should give them a break. 20 years of marriage,and he talks like this...a good principle is a good principle and if he is a matured person,irrespective of who is dishing out the info,he would have at least acknowledged the wisdom in the post..but unfortunately gray hairs does not represent wisdom. Great men with great marriages are men that know how to stand from the outside and analyze situations, men with patience and verbal restrain..20 years and he still talks like this? And by the way, those deacons and pastors cheating on their wives have long marriages too...but if yours is perfect glory to god,amen..give others a break,especially when you don't know what they have gone through.People change,we are humans and sometimes we don't see these things coming...and pls don't start with your "prayer changes things and god will guide you" cappings,except you are not Nigerian ![]() |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Chaulay1: 4:54pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
Guitarlife: Don't you get it? She stood before God and man and made a convenant .She swore that she was gonna stand by a man 'in plenty and in want, in sickness and in health till death did them part' . What kind of woman makes a meal of such words. Seems you are just a bitter person and you dont make much sense. Who made you the judge over others? What exactly do you know about marriage? I know you claim to be a christian, so haven't you read the conditions for divorce in the bible? Do you know better than Jesus Christ Himself who said "Matthew 19:9 - And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except [it be] for fornication......." and "Matthew 5:32 - But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, ......." Infact, there are loads of bible passages that explains that adultery is a basis for divorce. So where did you get your acclaimed knowledge from. Debrief's case was not even adultery alone but was coupled with abuse, for you, she should have died in the marriage. SMH... Funny enough, you want to prove that you know it all (relationship and marriage) but this thread of yours explains the real weak you. Deal with your weak self before judging others harshly. https://www.nairaland.com/796329/making-terrible-mistake Guitarlife- you may decide to judge a post but not the poster and stop attacking people's personality. Now read Debrief's post again and criticize her write-up and leave her personal life out of it. |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Nobody: 5:15pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
Chaulay1:Okay here we go again. I guess I have to school you a lil. How many times do I have to educate your likes that you are misinterpreting the scriptures? When has fornication suddenly become adultery? I know you don't suppose christ made a mistake by mentioning fornication instead of adultery do you ? I expect now you are suspecting that passage does not make sense right, or possibly the issue had to be with the translators. Listen dude, you are lucky and today is your day. Take it from me you are about to be emancipated. Write down todays date cos the scale of heresy that you have been caring around for ages is about to the shaken off. Now answer my question : how can a married person commit fornication ? Does this submission mean that even adultery is not a condition for divorce but only fornication ? |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Nobody: 5:30pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
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Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Nobody: 5:32pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
Okay read this . Guitarlife: So painful that I am replying with a mobile but I will try my best. |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Chaulay1: 5:34pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
Guitarlife: Okay here we go again. I guess I have to school you a lil. How many times do I have to educate your likes that you are misinterpreting the scriptures? The meaning of the word "fornication" means any unlawful sexual intercourse including adultery. In the Bible the Greek definition of the word "fornication" means to commit illicit sexual intercourse. Source: http://206.135.15.32/answers/afornica.html Nelson New Illustrated Bible Dictionary defines Fornication as: Sexual relationships outside the bonds of marriage. The technical distinction between fornication and adultery is that adultery involves married persons while fornication involves at least one person who is unmarried. But the New Testament often uses the term in a general sense for any unchastity. Also note the use of WIFE in the bible passages. A WIFE IS NOT THE SAME AS FIANCEE as you claim in your explanation. Being married and being betrothed (now called engaged) are two different things and cannot be used interchangeably. So your explanation is very weak and unbiblical. So I rest my case. Learn if you want to, the choice is yours! |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Nobody: 6:18pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
You dey mind that Jenny? Pop in write 1 line and go back to bed. God dey |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Nobody: 6:27pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
i see that people want to continue the thread jenny locked off weeks ago. anyway madam debrief, jenny and CC how are you - some of us are working hard here trying to bring a hollywood christmas to their daughter, no expenses spared this year o!! |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Nobody: 6:43pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
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Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by bjcole(m): 7:01pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
I ve been trying 2 stay away 4rm dis section becos of some comments & bad advices from some people who r not married or could not hold their marriage.To find a gud spouse, it takes d grace of God, Debrief can testify to that, it is not just all abt what she wrote there, thats why i respect women that strives 2 keep their marriage in d midst of challenges, Our ladies r becoming too exposed nowadays & that is why marriages r nt working & will nt work. Endurance is d key. |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by maclatunji: 7:08pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
bjcole: I ve been trying 2 stay away 4rm dis section becos of some comments & bad advices from some people who r not married or could not hold their marriage.To find a gud spouse, it takes d grace of God, Debrief can testify to that, it is not just all abt what she wrote there, thats why i respect women that strives 2 keep their marriage in d midst of challenges, Our ladies r becoming too exposed nowadays & that is why marriages r nt working & will nt work. Endurance is d key. I once created a thread to try and see the big picture from all angles and sides. Kindly tell me the things that both sides in a marriage should be willing to endure for the purpose of a successful marriage in your opinion. |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Nobody: 7:10pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
bjcole: I ve been trying 2 stay away 4rm dis section becos of some comments & bad advices from some people who r not married or could not hold their marriage.To find a gud spouse, it takes d grace of God, Debrief can testify to that, it is not just all abt what she wrote there, thats why i respect women that strives 2 keep their marriage in d midst of challenges, Our ladies r becoming too exposed nowadays & that is why marriages r nt working & will nt work. Endurance is d key.Hey guy watch it. You are in danger of being shot. Hwo dare you mention the word 'endurance'. I hope staying less than three years before running away from your marriage qualifies a person to be called an 'endurer' does it ? |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Nobody: 7:34pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
Hehehehehe, World peace, Madam CC you bad, why didn't I sell that? Ohhhhhh, anyway next year, world peace it is, more savings for the RR fund |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by armyofone(m): 8:10pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
One thing is that when the love is intoxicating us, we are on top of the moon. Nothing else is important. One can only hope for the best. The thing is making that tough decision . . . should i stay, should i move on etc when the 'best' you were hoping for is absent. Good points. |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by bjcole(m): 8:25pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
maclatunji:i like d way you put it, in my own opinion, Endurance is also perseverance, both sides in a marriage ve 2 endure everything, u ve to go all way & all lenght to ensure ur marriage works, contd |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by bjcole(m): 8:42pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
contd...... 4 a marriage 2 work, i think a lot ve 2 do wit d woman, lack of trust these days & indenpence on d part of women, its very very easy 4 a woman that is so independent 2 walk out of her marriage when its nt working, some dnt even want any headache @ all, its nt wrong 4 a woman 2 be succesful, but she has 2 submit at all times 2 her husband, & that is where d problem lies. There r some few bad men no doubt, but i dnt think a sensible man wil nt want his marriage 2 work, ..... contd |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by bjcole(m): 9:19pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
cont..... after all d commitment, i dnt like men dat beat their wives, but hw did it get to that point, if d man was nt like that b4, what says he cannot change, infidelity is major factor 4 divorce, but hw wil a man that was having several girlfriend b4 marriage or a woman with other attachs other than her fiance not be an infidel, endure whatever u ve created 4 urself, but i believe d women ve lots more to do 4 a marriage 2 be successful. thats my thought |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by maclatunji: 9:52pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
^Thank you for making the effort to answer my question. Are you male or female by the way? I am getting your point but I hope you realise that there are many times that one of the parties in a marriage is on the edge of completely "losing it", more often than not it is the wife. Don't get me wrong, they may have contributed to their own predicament for several reasons such as looking at the less important things like only material wealth or being left with little choice after getting pregnant out of wedlock and trying to hide from society's scorn through marriage and so on. Irrespective of the circumstance that leads to such a dire situation, don't you think it's better for the one in desperate condition should be allowed to leave without rancour to preserve their sanity and maybe life? |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by ferhyntorlah(f): 11:26pm On Nov 20, 2012 |
chaircover: Mrs CC, sorry I had to include the blue part, which is mostly ignored by married couple. |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Airpure(f): 5:53am On Nov 21, 2012 |
Nice thread debrief, this is such good advice to singles looking to get married ve sent the link to my single Sis n friends ? On the negative comments on this thread I think what they don't like is the beginning part. That's wats derailing ur thread. debrief08: Somehow a lot of single friends seem to like getting my point of view on issues around relationships and marriage. I don't know why, funny enough they send their friends who also send other friends and I have joked about starting to charge them. |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Nobody: 6:28am On Nov 21, 2012 |
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Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Johndoe100(m): 8:05am On Nov 21, 2012 |
What else do you expect from a muzzy? Need I say more? maclatunji: |
Re: Before You Say "I Do", My 2 Kobo by Johndoe100(m): 8:12am On Nov 21, 2012 |
@Guitarlife They don't get it probably because they don't want to . At some level they understand. We will always fight the good fight. I see that our resident witch (iya aje) has become a self appointed moderator giving orders left and right, so sad. |
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