Am not trying to say that am rich or that I have a lot but after the death of my parents, I devoted my life in making the poor ones and the widows around wherever I find myself happy. I graduated from university and presently applying to do my masters, so am stil like a student. Now the problem I have is this:
Among all the widows I have helped so far, there is this particular one, so young with a 2year old baby boy and just finished her NYSC programme, I bought a bicycle for the kid and gave her money to pay for the boy's skul fees without knowing that this lady's family is so rich and that the husband had so many things before he died. Now this lady storms my room most atimes, buys gift for me, sends me romantic and lovely text messages. And one of the things I hate in my life is someone getting involved with a widow or a married woman (God forbid). The latest is that she comes to collect films from my room almost all the time amd whenever she comes, I notice what she wants. Please how do I stop this? Have I committed a crime by being nice or doing something my heart says I should do for people? Please how do I stop this?

call her sit her down and talk sense into her

Richard.:
The latest is that she comes to collect films from my room almost all the time and whenever she comes, I notice what she wants. Please how do I stop this? Have I committed a crime by being nice or doing something my heart says I should do for people? Please how do I stop this?

Richard.,

What does she want? Please answer that first.

You've not committed any crime; you're only doing what you've a passion for: helping the needy and less privileged.

How can you stop it? Like the previous reader said, talk to her and do it politely. If she dresses provocatively, let her know you're not comfortable with it.

Is your door always opened that she can come in as she likes? Being nice shouldn't make one stup!d.

Don't stop your acts of kindness but do it with caution, be watchful and don't try to please people all the time.

^^^u sound like u know him well enough. OP,i assume your conscience is clear. So,if u can't tell her politely to quit the advances,give her signs.e.g,never reply her messages,quit picking her calls,collecting gifts from her,giving her movies to watch,letting her in anytime she knocks...etc. She will back off with time

So long as the lady hasn't made a move on u then u have nothing to be scared about.

Dont fumble,give her wha she wants but use a condom. Dont feel guilty about loving her bc she wont continue to be without a 'buddie'. If you fail to take care someone else will

I think U can cautiously do more of talkin 2 hr, leading with some question e.g
How close she was 2 hr late hubbie.
Events sorrounding his death.
Her plans as a widow n as a mother.
Finally what she thinks of U n her recent action.
But try 2 inquire into these politely, n let her do d talkin.

I think U can cautiously do more of talkin 2 hr, leading with some questions e.g
How close she was 2 hr late hubbie.
Events sorrounding his death.
Her plans as a widow n as a mother.
Finally what she thinks of U n her recent action.
But try 2 inquire into these politely, n let her do d talkin.

sexkillz: What have you been doing to the other widows?

The first step is to admit to yourself that this lady excites your senses and you have the hots for her, but that your foolish pride won't let you be happy with her because she is a young pretty widow. I guess if she didn't have a child, you would have gone for her but this is a double shocker for your pride: widow and child! Damn.

Wait, i am coming to wear your shoe for you. . . Just wait!

as alwys. Idiotic! The guy simply don't want a widow, or someone wit a child. it's a principle, and it doesn't concern you! Some guys might die for her, he doesn't. How didn't dt explain normalcy?

All join for helping the needy

Thakn you all though I don't know why some people take a crucial matter as a joke sometimes.

Her being widow was not a choice of her's, stop saying Godforbid and search yourself if you can give her the compassion she seek for....... Humans have a fragile nature, your show of concern and care sents a wrong signal to her and she's obviously emotionally into you.

Search ur hearth search ur sour if she is there, good! Marrying a widow is another way u cn help.