what do i tell a guy who loves me but i dont have any feelings for him ?

we've been seeing each other for about 4 days now and he's been REALLY nice. gives me gifs and is quite totful. the problem is i dont feel anything romantic towrds him, i dont know if its cos he's 10 yrs older than me. he's a bit good looking and has nice prospects as a young man but when he told me he loved me, i freaked out and worse still, he wants me to promise him that ill not let him down. i think its a bit too sudden and im not really sure if i even like hi at all. what do i dooooooooooooooo!

well gurl you maynot like or even love him
but accepting his gifts , it means something else to him!!!!,
like maybe ur interesting but really your not
trust me i know what am talking about, so dont promise him anything or lead him
on expecially if you got zero feelings for him, stop accepting the gifts

* U shdnt av started seein him in da first place if U hd no feelins 4 him!
*U sdnt av accepted his gifts if ya knew ya hd no interest!
*now wht U must do is 2 tell him in Ur sweetest possible way dat U're sorry bt U do nt feel da way towards him n dat it'll only be selfish of ya to lead him on!

^^^ Great advice, Rho!  And a guy who tells you he loves you after only 4 days was probably just trying to sleep with you anyway, no matter how "sincere" he seemed. There are some hypocrites, you know! After they get what they want, you would hardly believe that this is the same guy who told you they loved you. So no hard feelings. Talk to him about this as soon as possible and stop leading him on!

yes,

the frist time i met my ex boyfriend,i was so i love with him and he too


the frist day i saw him it was the frist day we fell in love

I love Nairaland.

SO many good advisors, and people asking questions relating to others.

Okay nuff said, naijababe, i absolutel won't say the guy that told u he loves u within four days was lying. It could be true you know. Then again, u don't have to turn a blind eye to that. It could also be a lie.

Since u have no feelings whatsoever towards him, i think u should like consider telling him that u r not in for this. You dig?

everyone here loves nairaland we love u nairaland

thankss hot angel. i actually feel bad that i accepted his gifts but he saw that i needed those things and wouldnt take no for an answer.i confided in him concerning some family problems and he decided to help.
i know i should tell him that nothing can come out of it but what if im wrong?

eveseh:

yes,

the frist time i met my ex boyfriend,i was so i love with him and he too


the frist day i saw him it was the frist day we fell in love

me too only he's nt ma ex

yea me too,but he mess it up

damn!!!!!!! guys they always av to mess everytin up!
i always mk sure i mess up wit a guy b4 he mess up wit me!
do U still feel smtin 4 him?

ahaha,well in a way i do

becos i used to love him with all my heart but i dont just
know why he mess it up?

saince he left me i've never been in love yet it made me afraid of boys


becos he really used to tell me sweet sweet things i could believe it when he mess up all tha.

Even if he is not lying, I don't think it is love. It is infatuation. Some people dont know the difference and it is very easy to confuse the two. See, if at least yo felt something for him, I would have said that still go along with it and see what develops. Don't write him off as lying right away. But since you feel nothing, set him free already.

yea it's psossible,it happend every day

love is possible in 3 minutes but your case be like the case of long throat.if you don't have feelings for someone then don't take material things from such a person.you dont know wat sacrifices he/she has made to give them to you and then you later tell the person you dont want them or you start feeling indebted when you shouldn't.

Hell yea.

love is something that grows. it cant grow within 4 days, it takes time for it to grow. but LUST IS INFACT POSSIBLE WITHIN 4 DAYS. so which one do you want to answer

don't think so

I think love is possible in 4 days maybe he has watching you from afar who knows ,but return his gifts and gently explain to him how you feel .

Hey tell him b4 its too late co the more he buys and does for you the more you will stay there out of pity. There is clearly somebody else out there for him so let him go find her. Love isnt possible after 4 days it is more infatuation or lust. Just be upfront and set him straight.

naijababe1:

thankss hot angel. i actually feel bad that i accepted his gifts but he saw that i needed those things and wouldnt take no for an answer.i confided in him concerning some family problems and he decided to help.
i know i should tell him that nothing can come out of it but what if im wrong?

Going the last statement, i dont believe naijababe doesnt feel anything for this guy _{(or is it man, cos he's 10yrs older than u?),}, or am i misinterpreting you?

@Naijababe, what do u mean by what if im wrong?

within 4 days? nope i don't think that is real, too soon to know if it is love

@poster:Usually there's a spark b4 the big blaze! atimes pple feel/fall in love sub-consciously from day one (spark stage), at this point u av questions, but i dont think that such love should be professed until there's a strong conviction that its for real (blaze stage) at this piont u av answers. the difference between this 2 stages is all a matter of "TIME"

i dont think i wrong to feel what he feels in such a short time, but acting on it at once is rather too fast and i guess that why u freaked out.

u also should giv him time, u mite find out that there's more to the things u like about him apart from his gifts.

tushman:

love is possible in 3 minutes but your case be like the case of long throat.if you don't have feelings for someone then don't take material things from such a person.you don't know what sacrifices he/she has made to give them to you and then you later tell the person you don't want them or you start feeling indebted when you shouldn't.

fact!!!!!!!

yes its possible,but since you dont know what to do,'FRY STONES'

As some had already said, love is very possible in less than 4 days, he might be observing ur attitude 4 a long time before opening up

@Poster

naa waa oooooooo
within 4 days U don tell am ur family issue
b like say U 2 don ready 4 d man b4
bcus i no no how u go meet persn now and u go tell am ur family matters

persn dey different ooooooooooo

bcus me i no fit do dat kin tin

Rule ur HEART 4 LOVE

4 days?yeah! d problem is will it lst 4long,after the fallin?, 4 days,i hope im not the one o! coss i jst scoped a girl 4days ago,

4 days? accept gifts? fall in love?

Yeah! I think so.

Too bad it takes longer to achieve than to die---1 day!

Come oh?

@ilemobade
what is the purpose of those pictures or are you practicing how to "browse" here?

@almondjoy

what is the purpose of those pictures or are you practicing how to "browse" here?

dont mind the foolish boy. sadly he's from my state. . .i don suffer.