mumumugu: I observed that divorced people give good marital advice.

While married couple focus on patience, prayer and tolerance, teling u they have worse patner but chosen to over look it.

,divorced person begin by rèflecting on their previous relationship and spoting the major problem or hardship. They tell their fault and that of the patner. They tel u what they learnt from d broken relationship and what they would do difrently if entering another relationship. U hear things like WE WOULD DISCUS MORE ABOUT FINANCE,
;
to me, divorcd persons are better marital advicers

Brand_new:
That's another way to look at it.

mumumugu: I observed that divorced people give good marital advice.

While married couple focus on patience, prayer and tolerance, teling u they have worse patner but chosen to over look it.

,divorced person begin by rèflecting on their previous relationship and spoting the major problem or hardship. They tell their fault and that of the patner. They tel u what they learnt from d broken relationship and what they would do difrently if entering another relationship. U hear things like WE WOULD DISCUS MORE ABOUT FINANCE,
;
to me, divorcd persons are better marital advicers

OMO IBO: This makes me wonder why alot of people especially ladies run to and look up to oprah for marital advice.
I mean, whats her experience?

Anyways, I digress. . .

OMO IBO: This makes me wonder why alot of people especially ladies run to and look up to oprah for marital advice.
I mean, whats her experience?

Anyways, I digress. . .

mumumugu: I observed that divorced people give good marital advice.

While married couple focus on patience, prayer and tolerance, teling u they have worse patner but chosen to over look it.

,divorced person begin by rèflecting on their previous relationship and spoting the major problem or hardship. They tell their fault and that of the patner. They tel u what they learnt from d broken relationship and what they would do difrently if entering another relationship. U hear things like WE WOULD DISCUS MORE ABOUT FINANCE,
;
to me, divorcd persons are better marital advicers

Nashville:

By their fruits you shall know them (please attack me). If they were that knowledgeable about marriage, they would probably be married today. And you never know - misery loves company, they just may want you to join them too.

In my opinion, when choosing a mentor, I choose people I want to be like. I do not want to be divorced, so I would not want a divorcee to mentor me about marriage. I will look for someone whose marriage I like and ask for advice. I may be wrong but that is just my style.

baby_123: You can learn a thing or two from divorced people. Even married people half the time dont know what they are talking about. Every marriage is unique and comes with its own set of complexities. This is because every human being is different. I have learnt not to put all situations in a box, but be flexible in my thinking. Take the good and leave the bad. You can even learn from a child if you are open. . There is no one size fits all in life, and no one has all the answers or solutions.

ileobatojo: You should meet, smart, knowledgeable, level headed and reasonable people for advice; married or divorced.

If you are not able to take the advice of a divorced person and process it and apply it to your own situation for your own benefit, you may be a simpleton!

coogar:

so if you want to get a child, you would seek someone who's barren for advice? mama biology, it's monday and you are already brainfarting!

ileobatojo:
Is it possible that one might learn what not to do from said barren woman's experiences? Might that information be helpful? Might the barren woman have gained a lot of knowledge about the subject matter in her quest for a child that could be useful to others? Ehn, baba alternative to biology?! You berra start assimilating my brainfarts oh, they are more useful that some other people's 'brain genius'!!

coogar:

why learn "not what to do" instead of learning "what to do"? humans complicate things for themselves.....if the barren woman had gained some experience about the subject matter in her quest then why is she still barren? shouldn't she be using that experience to help herself first? there's a yoruba adage about "before you take a shirt from someone as a gift, look at what he's wearing". mama biology, you dey disappoint me o!

ileobatojo:
Kai, this old man, did you sleep well last night? Are you fatigued?

The fact that she can't help herself does not mean she can't give advice. That's why I said it has to be a reasonable, smart person. If the advice is only in the form of, 'do this, and you will immediately get pregnant no matter what', then you have to question why it hasn't worked for her. That's why the 'advicee' has to apply their own little grey cells to the situation.

If her barrenness was as a result of an incompetent surgeon destroying her uterus from a fibroid surgery, if she advises you not to go to that particular doctor, will you not take that advice into consideration because she is barren?

'What not to do' is equally as useful as 'what to do'!! Ever heard the phrase 'dos and don'ts'? You're welcome, sir!

coogar:

slept like a baby.....what about you - did you sleep well?



so there's a condition attached - the adviser must be smart and reasonable, right? now how do we know who's smart and reasonable - is it tattooed on their foreheads?



that's a freak accident - too extreme sef!



a happily married woman can give dos n don'ts too....she also has a live evidence in her ammo to convince the advisee that her method works. i fail to see how someone who's not married can give a balanced opinion on marriage.......mama biology, you have disappointed me again this week - i am heartbroken!

ileobatojo:
Okay, pele. Have some aboniki balm for your disappointed broken heart. Make sure you rub it undiluted o .

I don talk my own, and ya know I'm right (as usual)

Guitarlife: Where is aunt debrief, cotton and supreme leader jenny to comment on this knotty issue?

ileobatojo: You should meet, smart, knowledgeable, level headed and reasonable people for advice; married or divorced.

If you are not able to take the advice of a divorced person and process it and apply it to your own situation for your own benefit, you may be a simpleton!

coogar:

the witchdoctor herself.......
she knows the exact substance to rub diluted or undiluted. you better go to dragon's den n make money from this precocious talents of yours. you are very gifted when it comes to traditional herbs.



na oversabi dey worry you - you are not right one jot on this matter! however, when it comes to witchdoctoring - you are peerless!

Tgirl4real:



No homo. Lol

Tgirl4real:

Don't start. Can't u leave their names out of your mouth?

Where have u been by d way?

Tgirl4real:

Don't start. Can't u leave their names out of your mouth?

Where have u been by d way?

Guitarlife: I've been travelling all over Nigeria. I need to get a wife before this year runs out and you know just how bereft lagos babes are.
So I heard from grapevine sources that 'em fulani gals are the most manageable and marriageable women left in Nigeria. I had to make the trip
you know.

Tgirl4real:

Hmmm...anoda attempt at derailing the thread.

What happened to Sisikill and Jidegirl, are they not good enuf?