1. Be certain you want to end the relationship . Don't use the threat of leaving as a tool to get your own way in an argument. If you say it, be prepared to back it up with the action, or else take the threat off the table before you make it. Discuss problems openly and directly with your partner before you make up your mind. Many men and women suffer for years andnever bring problems up with their partners. This isn't healthy.Feel free to seek couples counseling.

2.Make your decision when feeling calm and rational . If you're angry enough to walk out of a heated discussion between both of you, this isn't the time to make a break. Instead, leave after saying, "I need to calm down. I'm going to go talk with someone for a while. I will be back when I can be more reasonable." In other words, don't say, "I'm leaving," and walk out that minute without further explanation.

3. Choose your time wisely . Choose a time and place that will allow for both you and the person that you're about to dump to allow for the time and privacy to do it properly. Don't break up with someone right before they have a big test or are about to go to work. Fridaysare a suitable choice if it gives your soon-to-be-ex the weekend to recover somewhat. If you're in a hurry to leave the relationship (namely, you can't wait until Friday), tell your partner you need to take some time and you're going to stay with a friend for a night or two.

4.Do it ! Be firm in what you say––being wishy-washy in the vain hope you'll let the other person down "easy" will only cause more hurt. Hold strong, for you have already made your decision. This does not need to be a dramatic, escalating event. Get to the point and say that you don't want to be in the relationship anymore, that it isn't working for you. Avoid anycomment that gives the impression this is a trial separation and that you might resume things after a break. This is it.

5. Prepare for the worst . The dumpee will typically react with anger or with wonder, shock, panic. If she or he responds with anger, try to remain calm and attempt to calm him or her. If she or he begins raging, it is pointless to try to explain further––but don't just hang upor walk away. Instead, say, "It's not productive to just yell at oneanother. I've made my decision, and I won't change my mind, but I will talk with you if you can remain calmer. Take some time to settle down, and then call me - we can talk again then." If your ex does call, keep your word. Pick up the call. If there are questions, be honest and kind with your answers. Be prepared to answer their questions. Set up an exact time for you to discuss what went wrong, and do not cancel the meeting at the last moment.

6. Establish concrete boundaries for your future interaction . Once you have begun the process, be polite butfirm about these boundaries, and make it clear that they are non-negotiable. It is permissibleto cut him or her off without a chance to discuss what went wrong. Try to make the failed relationship as valuable as possible by turning it into a chance to learn and grow and as to what type of people to avoid.

7. Know when to walk away . One of the biggest mistakes made in ending a relationship isallowing the final death throes to go on and on. And on. And on. And on. It's one thing to finalize shared expenses, disentangle community property, etc. It's another thing to beat a dead horse endlessly.

8. Don't try to remain friends . Trying to "be friends" can prolong the agony of a breakup.Most often, it is best to make a clean break and spend time apart. After a time, perhaps three months, perhaps a year ormore, when you see one another, it won't hurt as much, and maybe then you can try to be friends with a clean slate. Even then, be sensitive and respectful about what your ex needs––she or may need more time than you. If that's the case, don't just foist yourself on the ex in an attempt to become friends some time later.

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How about you send the person an e-mail saying you are no longer interested and not call the person anymore? If the person calls you, answer it and tell him/her not to again cos you don't think it is appropiate and get on with your life

^y e-mail? Wrong button! That would be rude and insulting. Best thing is to invite †ђξ person for a chat and talk it over

Great

Too much story. Tell her you just lost your job. It will work anytime

you cant quit with ease if its a real relationship..some level of emotions must be involved so quit the instructions.....

You are here writting about relationship, forgetting the earth will soon be scourched clean by a solar flare.
Go prepare an undergound cave and hide with yoour families.
you moderators like putting anything boy/girl,relationship,dating on front page. Why ?

Bla bla bla, break up na break up.

What about just telling the person you have Aids or that you bedwet? saves you the stress of all those listed formulae jo!

9th to comment....retrogression

Hmmm........e be like say this Christmas go be break-up month. Guys dey vex ooh.

for men, just get another girlfriend , invite them both to a bar and let them fight it out, as the fight is on take ur car key and drive off.

gudluck.

Tanx 2da poster, cos i av bin tinkin about ao am gonna breakup easily wit diz gurl.. And i dont get it, but now seem am gonna do somtin.

just went through your profile and discover everything you post here is all about relationship.
relationship freak ! i bet you single and need a man badly.

^^
Seriously??....

9. Choose a good date.

why didn't you upload your pic ? grumpy old woman

God help you, if she tear for you

Okay

Relationship 101.

991: for men, just get another girlfriend , invite them both to a bar and let them fight it out, as the fight is on take ur car key and drive off.

gudluck.

LMAO!!!!!

alienware: just went through your profile and discover everything you post here is all about relationship.
relationship freak ! i bet you single and need a man badly.

You're so somehow, if you're not interested then why come to the Romance forum in the 1st place?? Mcheeew!

alienware: why didn't you upload your pic ? grumpy old woman

Wetin u wan user her picture do? You're just a Sadist! You seem to have a terrible attitude!

dabrake: Too much story. Tell her you just lost your job. It will work anytime

I see where you are going. Are women money wise in a relationship

How to end the dam relationship is very simple, it works for me why not you?... Simply told her or him that you have tested "HIV positive"

alienware: just went through your profile and discover everything you post here is all about relationship.
relationship freak ! i bet you single and need a man badly.

Op, why are you this wiickend

DUMPEE ...NA WA O! I WONDER WHY DIZ KIND OF TEACHING IS COMING OUT NOW THAT WE ARE IN THE SEASON OF SHARING.

NANSENSE!!!!

You arent talking about staying in peace rather you are stressing parting in pieces.

What kinda girls are we breeding nowadays?








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