Women say they want a nice guy, yet usually end up dating bad boys. Here’s why.

1. Not real. Nice guys are too nice. No one can always be that nice unless they’re a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real and women instinctively don’t trust that. Bad boys “keep it real.” Nice guys don’t want to upset the apple cart.

2. Respect. No one respects a doormat. Nice guys don’t set boundaries or make any real demands. A bad boy doesn’t let a woman walk all over him or control him. Women can’t respect a man they can control. No respect equals no attraction.

3. Predictable. Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they’re attracted to people who are exciting and a bit unpredictable. Bad boys are always a challenge. Nice guys are never a challenge. Predictable plus no excitement plus no challenge equals I prefer a bad boy.

4. Mother Nature. Women are designed to nurture. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys. They think their love will save them. Nice guys rarely need to be saved.

5. Fixer-upper. Nice guys don’t usually need to be fixed. Bad boys usually do, so they become a project. Women think if they can “create” the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they’re busy fixing someone else, they don’t have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives.

6. Sperm wars. Women are designed to procreate with the strongest possible genes. Bad boys are sending an unconscious message that they have great genes, so they’re not afraid of losing the woman by misbehaving. Nice guys are sending a message that they don’t think their genes are good enough, so they won’t misbehave.

7. Fear of intimacy. If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. A nice guy will eventually want a commitment, and that’s scary.

8. Low self-esteem: We don’t feel comfortable with people who treat us better than we treat ourselves. If you don’t think much of yourself, the bad boy is simply reinforcing your negative belief. A nice guy is treating you in a way you’re not familiar with.

9. Sex. Women feel a nice guy won’t be good in bed. They sometimes like to be manhandled and think a nice guy won’t be able to take control and get the job done. A bad boy comes across as being able to deliver, even though that may not always be the case.

10. Hot. Have you ever seen a bad boy who wasn’t hot? I’m sure there are a few, but they wouldn’t be able to get away with half the stuff they did if they didn’t look so good. Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as a nice guy, she means, “He’s not hot.”

11. Charm. Nice guys don’t always know what to say and are sometimes at a loss for words. Bad boys can be very charming and know exactly what women want to hear. However, they eventually switch over to being selfish. By the time they reveal their true colours, the woman has fallen for them and has a hard time letting go.

12. Protection. Historically, men have protected women — physically and otherwise. Bad boys give the illusion of being able to protect women, while with nice guys, women aren’t so sure. Life is about balance. Most men fall into either the bad boy or the nice guy category. The ideal man is neither, but walks that fine line between the two. Until men learn how to do this, more often than not, women will choose the bad boy, until they realize that his bad qualities outweigh his good ones.

http://www.ynaija.com/no-show-12-reasons-why-women-dont-date-nice-guys/

[b]All your reason are not real[/b]when they don't date nice guy,why do they marry nice guy after having fun with mr bad guy

Hmmmm! Interesting discussion.

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Op, d u have reasns y girls dont date mumu

13. they are ugly

Hmmmm!

Its because em babes have discovered that we choose to be or not to be nice (depending on the prevailing situation). This knowledge just keeps them on their toes cause they have this perspective that the good guy MAY eventually go bad after.........

By the way, is seun my lil bro a good or bad guy?

pleep: 13. they are ugly

14. They talk a lot. Babes want action not mere long talk

@op, don't underestimate some nice guys. Errtin works out perfectly for em'. You have to reckon that not all girls love bad boys. It is only a bad girl that is attracted to bad boys, like minds....Savvy?

djeezy: @op, don't underestimate some nice guys. Errtin works out perfectly for em'. You have to reckon that not all girls love bad boys. It is only a bad girl that is attracted to bad boys, like minds....Savvy?

Makes so much sense.
I can as well be a very "bad sharp ni**a" and pretend to a nice guy just like 2face. At least it always worked for him.

Ever thought of that?

wrong!!!!!!

all these behavioural sciences way una dey always do no dey gel.
I tink the disparity should be fast guy - slow guy.
A fast guy utilises all his opportunity and create oppotunity where theres none, while a slow guy might not notice opportunity even when it slaps his face( he might eventually realize what he missed when he sits down to reflect later). There a fast guys who dont meet all these standards but have created their own niche that works for them.

I'd rather go to bed with a bad girl, but to the aisle with a nice

Best combo for a guy = bad guy on the outside, nice guy inside.

I see!

Blah blah blah blah. I pray you sisters and daughters anchor with bad guys.

They jst want want an excuse to say that 'all men are pigs' after they inevitably get screwed and dumped

Abeg na lie. I never had the patience to tolerate a bad guy.

OP is very correct. However, some of us clicked to nice guys and never let go when we found them.

@op: so, which one exactly are you? Bad boy or good boy?

Most union with bad boys are always disastrous in the end.Eg Whitney Houston Vs Bobby brown.

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I hate girls jare....

@Op,it's obvious u are a bad guy so u want 2 give reasons to a get good girls.pls be real.there is nothin gud about being bad.bad guys to bad girls and good guys to good girls.well there is room 4 changes so dont get me wrong.

@Op,it's obvious u are a bad guy so u want 2 give reasons to get good girls.pls be real.there is nothin gud about being bad.bad guys to bad girls and good guys to good girls.well there is room 4 changes so dont get me wrong.

A nice guy is a ''REAL'' man

Nice right up....but i prefer bein real natural so that any gal that loves me, should do so for who i am.
NB: the real me nobi nice guy o, but wit a gud heart sha.

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I hate girls jare....

u must b GAY.

Flashaldrin: Best combo for a guy = bad guy on the outside, nice guy inside.

GBAM....thread closed.

Dondav: LOL! @Op.. I pretend to be Nice and I've dated few girls. I'm actually Bad and can't get a girl in that state, so.. I pretend to be nice to get a good girl.


[b]NB: Bad girls date Bad guys.. The girls also pretend to be Nice or Good, But naturally they are bad! Cos Nobody likes to date a Bad girl[i][/i] [/b]

may God bless you for making sense. genuine good girls always go for nice guys. one has to differentiate between nice guys and weak guys...the two are not synonymous! most girls are really bad and just pretending to be good.

This is bull.

A man can be both nice, loving, respectful and caring but also able to set boundaries, know that he's a man and wears the trousers. This is an ideal man every woman wants. Not one who disrespects or allows people to walk all over him.