oly g: i prefer my woman to dress sexily at home in my presence than for she to go outside and do that to other men.AS FOR ME I CAN NEVER ALLOW MY WOMAN TO PUT ON TROUSERS OR ANY OTHER CLOTH THAT WILL EXPOSE HER SENSITIVE PARTS(THOUGH THIS HAVE TO BE WITH OWN AGREEMENT).also men must love to respect there woman,respect there rights as a woman and must not go outside running after other women when there wife is at my home.THEY MUST NOT HAVE SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE AND OUTSIDE MARRIAGE.MEN SHOULD LEARN TO KEEP THERE BODY AND BE SEXUALLY DISCIPLINED.

seyron: i tink her husbnd saw her d way she wz b4 marryin her n dt means he wz ok wif her mode of dresin b4, y sud he chng after marriage, if its against d lady's wish 2 go against her blif n d church blif she sudnt do it, d brother don fake tinz 2get her n its gradually b4 u knw it he wil tel her dt dy sud leav deeper lyf, cs deeper lyf ppple dt me i knw dy dont do al dt..d best tin is 4d lady 2confide in matured couples dt r der church memebers n xplan tinz 2dm, or better stil in4m a mutured marriage committee member /mc/ dts wt dy cal it in deeper lyf. Bt sincerely if i wer 2b in d lady's shoe, i wil pray abt it dt God sud touch hm 2av a chng of mind abt wt he ask hm 2b doin, cs i wudnt wnt 2go against God's wil n @d same tym wudnt wnt 2disobey my hubby

1920MaMa: [size=14pt]if i were to be in his wife's shoes, i won't! that man is not a true deeper life member, cos we all know how they dress. asking his wife to dress provocatively at home will mean living in deceit cos she'll always be on her toes so no visitor sees her wearing such. moreover, why dress like a whoar at home and look holy holy outside? who are you deceiving?[/size]

the truth of the matter is either:

1. the hubby is a backslider who is still going to that church. (we all know deeper life's principles)
2. the guy pretended to be born again and joined the church just to marry her; now he is showing his true personality.
3. the guy is in the church because of his parents and he was born and bred there.
4. he has been a faithful member but is currently being lured to worldly things

agabaI23: Op this your choice of handle sef.

Ok, your husband ia having issues with his faith and needs some help.

His requests means that those who wear such on the street are appealing to him. Those people were there before he married you, but he seems to have realised they exist. Has he been watching home video more lately. Watch closely you will notice there is a general change in him. He needs help.

switdick:

I've been reading through this thread and I couldn't help but call a halt to my reading as soon as I saw that !.....peeps tend to take things so seriously when not necessary and less serious when necessary,...please how is dressing to the taste of her husband a bad thing like provocative" as you say ?

By provocative,I want to believe you know the meaning,which in mine,everyone's and possibly the husband's opinion is solely to rouse feeling.....mostly in sexual interest !

Provocative is good for married couple regardless of any psychological norm that doesn't even hold water in any religion,let alone impede the crave for desiring it,if the husband want provocative,let him have it,that's what gets him.....not what you,or anyone that thinks he's a love doctor think it should be.
If am to speak in the eyes of the husband,he probably just wants her to loosen up a bit,where's the sin there knowing they're married ? There are no religious norms against such except you're making one up in the mind right now......peeps shld just chill !

jadajada: and what's bad if a couple watch p0rn? They need dynamism in d act. U 4 even say mak dem no dey intimate @ all

Abagworo:

Are you trying to say that they should bath and make love with their clothes on?

1920MaMa: [size=14pt]I'm not against a married woman puting on sexy clothes. the point here is their doctrine. deeper-life members have principles when it comes to looks (mary amaka) which i know wat the hubby is requesting from her is not part of, hence the confusion. if you ask me, i think he needs prayers cos from all indications, he's lusting after someone. [/size]

holy sina:

Were are you from! Definitely not a Nigeria!!!

1920MaMa: [size=14pt]I'm not against a married woman puting on sexy clothes. the point here is their doctrine. deeper-life members have principles when it comes to looks (mary amaka) which i know wat the hubby is requesting from her is not part of, hence the confusion. if you ask me, i think he needs prayers cos from all indications, he's lusting after someone. [/size]

bukatyne: ARe you for real? It's overzealous non understanding people like you that cause problems for yourselves and run helter skelter. So the wife should dress the way she dresses outside at home? Is the man asking her to wear those stuffs outside? What is the Church's business with how she dresses at home? I wouldn't be surprised if she refuses to kiss him in the bedroom because she can't kiss him outside! My dear, married couples use wisdom to build thier homes and not pull it down. I'M sure they couldn't discuss all these because pastor's wife and co were with them all through their courtship. The woman should better Dust herself up and make her hubby come to her everyday. Even muslim women who cover up still discuss they must look sexy for their husbands. Read 1Cor 7 and see where Paul said a married man/woman works to please his/her spouse.

konn: IF SHE CAN MAKE LOVE WITH HIM BEING NAKED WHY CANT SHE WEAR BUM SHORT, DRESS SEXILY OR EVEN WALK ABOUT NAKED AT HOME? REMEMBER ADAM AND EVE WERE NAKED AND THEY WERE NOT ASHAMED.

JallowBah: And, as for visitors suddenly coming by..I guess it depends where you live. Where I was born, you never know if someone suddenly ring your doorbell. In the capital, no-one EVER does that.

1920MaMa: [size=14pt]overzealous, you say? [b]if doing those things are ok, why then is she confused? did i hear you say they cudn't discuss it during courtship cos of pastors wives? how cud he wen he already had his plans of changing her, mapped out. is not just changing her looks at home, he shud also consider changing her looks outside. I mean, why go out with your husband looking like MARY AMAKA, while he's busy lusting after that sexy chick at the corner.[/b][/size]

tpia@:


he's also not man enough to move to another church, but wants to continue in deeper while secretly disagreeing with their doctrine.

sounds like he was faking all along.

bukatyne: Wearing sexy clothes in the home is wrong? O boy, It's well! Each one to his own!

1920MaMa: [size=14pt] you're so on point! [/size]

1920MaMa: [size=14pt] i'm not saying it's wrong. it's their doctrine we're talking about here. [/size]

geosegun:

How old are yuo Sef?

Sorry I have never taken on anyone on NL b4, Sorry to say this, You don't seems to know wat you aer talking about[i][/i].
So as d husband, are u saying asking his wife to dress sexily at HOME so as to spice up the relationship is a sin? GOD!
You moust be joking, seriously u need to check yourself. Your comments so far, shows your low level of marital maturity.
THE WIFE IS AND YOU NEED PRAYERS. PRAY THAT GOD DELIVER YOU FROM IGNORANCE, RIGIDITY AND LACK OF MARITAL KNOWLEDGE.

As a man, if you dont give him what he wants at home then he will go somewhere else to get it and you will now run to NL and
start screaming that your husband is a serial cheater. Who caused it in the first place. You better stop decieving yourself and face reality.
and stop blaming God when your rigity backfires.

1920MaMa: [size=14pt] in nigeria were people just turn up at your doorstep uninvited with the story "i was around your neighbourhood, i just thot i shud say hello". so wen she hears a knock on the door, she'd first run into the room to change b4 coming to answer? odikwa serious! [/size]

1920MaMa: [size=14pt] sorry, the emphasis is on DEEPER-LIFE COUPLE, not me, as i'm not a member. i know how to look real good, if that's all dat is required of me from a man, then i wud say he has no problem at all! [/size]

1920MaMa: [size=14pt]if i were to be in his wife's shoes, i won't! that man is not a true deeper life member, cos we all know how they dress. asking his wife to dress provocatively at home will mean living in deceit cos she'll always be on her toes so no visitor sees her wearing such. moreover, why dress like a whoar at home and look holy holy outside? who are you deceiving?[/size]