ok, am dating this cute princess of chocolate goodness, yester night she brought up d ideal of confiding in each other with our past to know ourselves more beta, she told me about her escapades and i got a bit jealous and stuff (who wouldn't be), then it got to my turn to talk, so i told her about my fling with a married young lady and she got all vexed and quarreled with me, been trying to call her since and she ain't picking.
Was i wrong for saying the truth or is it that there are things one just don't trust with a partner.

Your thoughts.

Too bad
Ur GF is tired of the relationship and needed an excuse to opt out, if not, I don't think she can be taken seriously..

^ good point dude bt NAH, she just left my place, she said she was angry cus it an immoral act (imagine? Like wat we do isnt) so its all good, bt the point still is, do we really confide in our partners with our past?

What hurts more abt the truth is how it is been told... 4get d fact that am 2nd to comment again *winks*... @ OP frm ur secnd comment, it can b extracted dat u were nt remorseful abt such Act. Check... There re beta ways such stories could b told

@OP: If she has Big Brezz and Big Nyash, beg her till she forgives you.
If she looks like Slimyem Letter "I", let her gerraway!!!!!

I need to trust someone before confiding in them. Here's the bomb: I don't trust anyone.

However, I've come close to trusting a few persons but it scared the shit out of me so I never confided.

Back to the op's question. The last time I tried to confide in myself in front of a mirror even my own reflection mocked at me.

Bottomline. Stop doing that...to be continued

i thing ur gf dont want to accept the fact that u had an affair with a married woman

i don't really care as long as you haven't Bleep with the whole country so my questions to girl is : how many bf did you have before me..more than 5 i will just Bleep u and leave less than 3 or 2 ,you worth something serious...
ps: i can fake love
i don't have lover but gfs at least for now

U shuld know ow many pple she has killed. And eaten

I'm a criminal
we all are
so, why she c.um dey vex?

You are both sick

Did you say PAST? Let the past remain the past and don't allow it affect the present. If you allow it, You're obviously both high on something

If u both learn of each other's past, its a normal thing if its a bit dirty and if u know u can't deal with it when u learn about it, don't bother digging.

For not picking your calls, I repeat she is sick

YuzedoII: @OP: If she has Big Brezz and Big Nyash, beg her till she forgives you.
If she looks like Slimyem Letter "I", let her gerraway!!!!!

Very eloquently said.

it all depends on the type of past u had if ur past is too rough it is better u didn't discuss it with ur current partner to avoid unexpected break up

I believe there are things that are better left in the mind. If its a sin,confess it to God and no one else. Truth can be hurtful atimes. So,only tell your partner whatever it is he/she can handle.

Don't share ur past with someone who will use it against you now,or in the future.

Know ur spouse's past,only when necessary,some things A̶̲̥̅®ε̲̣̣̣̥ better kept it the past τ̲̅ȍ avoid haunting us.

Ur girl is a definition of whom never τ̲̅ȍ share ur past with.


Pls don't mind the type setting, A̶̲̥̅♏ using my colleague's fone.

The good ones only. wtf is the point bringing past event that might probably harm your present happiness. no time, yesterday will never come back so move on.

I can't even remember how many relationships I have had in the past. So wanting to know my past might take her all the time in her youthful age. By the time she decides on whether or not to go ahead with me, she is too old to go away.

truth is: learn not to jump the gun & reveal only as much as she herself does. else, u risk getting her jelous.
If my Chocoberry sabi how many water has crossed under my bridge, then London bridge will come falling down!

majour: that am dating a married young lady and she got all vexed and quarreled with me, been trying to call her since and she ain't picking.
Was i wrong for saying the truth or is it that there are things one just don't trust with a partner.

Your thoughts.

Mehn... See new tricks chicks are using to zone guys... I must not fall for this one... Thanks for the info @op

I don't think they have to know anything, I mean if they ask and have reasonable reasons for asking, you should always tell the truth. Including saying when your not comfortable disclosing something.

My brother, some things are better locked and they keys thrown away. Some dude wisely said: "Let sleeping digs lie"

The past belongs in the past. It should be left there.However,if the info is relevant/important to your patner and you must confide in him,anticipating his reaction would guide the mode of delivery and how detailed you should get.

yea, i think ur partner shld kno abt ur past cos sometimes d past affects d future...also, its gud she hears it 4m u intead f hearin it 4m anoda source....

Anybody dat loves wouldnt leav u cos f ur past..

Every sin is a sin but there are some that potrays one as completely morally bankrupt,a person bereft of any sense of right or wrong.Any reasonable girl will be as pissed as she is.Married woman??Gosh!wtf is wrong with some guys?Tomorrow you expect a faithful wife rightas you shag others wives,so shall people shag yours.A man's wife will cost you your life.Desist from such acts.

Answer to ur post,reveal all the pasts that might likely pop out to haunt you in future to avoid suprises.If your pasts are not too sordid,reveal all.If u love this girl,You really have to show complete remorse to win her back.Funny no one is seeing any biggie in your revelation.Not all truth is necessary, telling a girl that you bleeped a fellow man's wife is f***ked mehn.

@ posters question.
For the babes: He shld neva knw of hw many abortions you ve done.

For the guys: Dont eva let her knw u ve slept wit her cousin, frnds & colleagues.

Let all this remain in the past, were it belonged. For the sake of peace & trust. Shikena!!

I can share my past with the woman I love.

My man u shouldn't ave said dat. For me d only past to be told is atleast 1day b4 i met her. *but wont tell her*

which kind question be this?

Okay< you want me to tell her I once sha.gged her younger sister on Valentines day and proposed to her the next day huh?

"Some things in life are better not known. Things better left to rest where they lie". --- Louise Anderson in "The Mystery of Death" 2004

YuzedoII: @OP: If she has Big Brezz and Big Nyash, beg her till she forgives you.
If she looks like Slimyem Letter "I", let her gerraway!!!!!

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