Culled from my blog: craymistress.
The word “virginity” has been a burning issue in various circles, in an age where such terms as; MouthAction, anal sex, fingering etc. reign supreme, it is relatively hard to define who a virgin is really. The general definition of a virgin is someone who has never had sexual intercourse but the belief is that the scarcest commodity in Nigeria are jobs and virgins, virgins especially and according to recent statistics this might be true. Much emphasis is not placed on male virginity because there is no restraint, no hymen, nothing. The attention is on the womenfolks. According to a website, 95% of the Nigerian teenage population cannot boast of being virgins. In an era where premarital and casual sex abounds, girls as young as fourteen have started to experiment with the “forbidden fruit” causing an upsurge in the cases of premature pregnancies, abortions and even psychological breakdowns (think breakups). A lot of factors are responsible for the above statistics. For starters, the mass media has over the years served as a source of socialization but it also has its negative side, one of such side is the portrayal of images with sexual undertones to an already vulnerable audience. Corporate advertisers are particularly guilty as charged, as a bit of sensuality is infused into every advert, even when it is not needed. Take the use of half-naked girls to advertise tires as a case study, it is not necessary. Peer pressure is also a causative factors. Teenagers who have not started to experiment with sex are seen as weird and obsolete by their peers causing these teenagers to make wrong decisions. Today's form of entertainment is also to blame. Songs with sexual undertones as “Keep On Rocking”, “Give It To Me”, “Lay On Me” are favored by today's generation under the guise that “we only love the beat” but in reality, these songs are like radioactive waste, slowly destroying whoever listens to them. A fourteen year old girl listening to “Lay On Me” will begin to get wrong ideas about sex thus the first mild seed of promiscuity is sown.

Some school of thoughts have however argued that virginity is not of importance in the jet age, buttressing with the fact that in prior generations, ladies married relatively early, say after the first shed of menstrual blood which is usually at the age of 15, and by so doing promiscuity is kept at bay. The changing times have changed this practice, the first twenty years or so is spent in the classroom and as the body is not wood, premarital sex is allowed. It is reasonable to an extent for an unmarried 25-year old to be sexually active because they have achieved to an extent but sex is definitely not for babies. It is so bad that many teenagers know things about sex their parents might probably never know. A newspaper cartoon clip was circulating sometime ago, a man was captioned telling his teenage son that it was time for sex education, the boy answered “Sure, what part do you wanna know?".
Everyone has a reason for making certain decisions but it would be advantageous if such decisions are not made based on external influence. Virginity is the surest way of keeping sexually transmitted diseases at bay, the slogan “Abstinence is the best form” attests to this. Incidents of divorces due to Infidelity have also sky rocketed. This is because the erring party was probably sexually loose before marriage. An individual that can control himself/herself sexually before marriage would be able to control himself/herself after marriage. Be safe and maintain your status quo if you are still a Virgin. Do not allow yourself to be looked down on. You can imagine the rest of mind you have when your menstrual cycle is delayed, you do not panic because you know it's as a result of stress and not pregnancy.Don't be decieved,sex is not love,If you must play,play safe. God bless you.

Lemme guess the moral of the. Long story: avoid sex, wait till marriage.

Its not easy to avoid all these things you mentioned, in the kind of environment we have now.

braine: Lemme guess the moral of the. Long story: avoid sex, wait till marriage.

Its not easy to avoid all these things you mentioned, in the kind of environment we have now.

How you see a problem is the problem .. keeping your virginity is easier than making money...

Acidosis:

How you see a problem is the problem .. keeping your virginity is easier than making money...

Dats right bro!

God Bless You Too!