Inexperienced guys think if he talks for hours on a phone with a girl, he will become more "boyfriend material" to her. Very wrong! The opposite will actually be occurring and she'll lose respect and interest for you. Why? Because you would become too available, too easy and you signal you have no life. If a guy has value, his time has value too -- which means he doesn't waste it spending the next three hours on the phone. People value something when it's rare. If you give time too freely, then you're not valuable.

Often times, girls call guys for idle chatter when she's bored. If you think it means she likes you, try this experiment. Call her for idle chatter in return. I bet most of the time, she wouldn't want to talk when you need it. Or she'll chat a few minutes and want to hang up. That's because (duh!!!) she doesn't really like you. She calls you for idle chatter only because you've been identified as the schmuck willing to entertain her whenever she's bored.

Don't get me wrong, if something bad happened, you want to be there on the phone. Otherwise, never do a phone marathon session with her. Never. And if she calls, don't always pick up or return her calls. If you do pick up, talk for 10 minutes max and make sure you're the one who ends the conversation. Long talks are reserved for person-to-person encounters.

i dont lose interest and respect for him so long we are having a really good conversation

mondi_cheeks: i dont lose interest and respect for him so long we are having a really good conversation

But it gets to a point where you must fell bored. Just admit it.

busket:
But it gets to a point where you must fell bored. Just admit it.

not with me hey

My Boo loves me talking with her on the Phone because according to her, i am very fun to speak with and witty too....


Does your post apply to me still... #justwondering.

busket: Inexperienced guys think if he talks for hours on a phone with a girl, he will become more "boyfriend material" to her. Very wrong! The opposite will actually be occurring and she'll lose respect and interest for you. Why? Because you would become too available, too easy and you signal you have no life. If a guy has value, his time has value too -- which means he doesn't waste it spending the next three hours on the phone. People value something when it's rare. If you give time too freely, then you're not valuable.

Often times, girls call guys for idle chatter when she's bored. If you think it means she likes you, try this experiment. Call her for idle chatter in return. I bet most of the time, she wouldn't want to talk when you need it. Or she'll chat a few minutes and want to hang up. That's because (duh!!!) she doesn't really like you. She calls you for idle chatter only because you've been identified as the schmuck willing to entertain her whenever she's bored.

Don't get me wrong, if something bad happened, you want to be there on the phone. Otherwise, never do a phone marathon session with her. Never. And if she calls, don't always pick up or return her calls. If you do pick up, talk for 10 minutes max and make sure you're the one who ends the conversation. Long talks are reserved for person-to-person encounters.

Op I just can't fault your assertions...I was a victim to everything you said. When I got myself and cut her off she begged for a month. She gotten used to the attention, and fought hard to keep the status quo.

Another load of crap

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