charles316:

There are several types of single ladies.
1. Those who cheated on their partners and so were bounced from the relationship. These kind of women are so rampant. In this era,2 out of every 10 babes fall under this category.

2.Those that would prefer to wait and marry a made man than stick with a guy coming up. These ladies forget that the made men were once struggling. When these guys 'make it',they look for the younger women.

3. Those who have traded their bodies for few naira notes and electronic gadgets. Surprisingly,the news of the lifestyle of these women travel faster than light. No one wants to marry a h0e even criminals. Lol

4 . The wayward ones. These kind of women live wayward lives during their youth. These ladies do get admirers but lose the guys when these guys get their share of the 'public cake'. Just imagine if a girls gets like 3 admirers monthly
In a year,that will be 3X12=48.
In 8 years,say from age 20 to 28...48X8=424 men.

Damn!!! So why wouldn't a reasonable girl pin down one man out of 428 men.

I rest my case.

RedBenson:
No one is above mistake..
Which teatia (teacher) taught u dat 3x12=48? No wonder ASUU is still on strike. Smh!

charles316: @ logodwhiz and redbenson,
Hey girls,thanks for pointing that out. But was that all u could learn from the whole thing I wrote??

habib55: hello evry1,i knw dz might nt b d write thread but i realy need help,ther's dz gal at d mall where i work,she s prety,smart nd fun 2 b wit nd i like her,d problem here s dat i would lyk us 2 b frnd bt i probly dn't have an idea how 2 go abt it.pls i need ur advice.tnx

carmelion:

May I know how old both of you are?and if you have spoken to her before or you are just admiring her from afar?

Have you dated before?Does she work at the mall too?

habib55: Tanx i realy apriciate.2 ansa ur questions.1.Am 23yrs while it i she might b between 22-24yrs. 2.No i have not spoken 2 her in any form abt 4rm d occational hi's and hello's,nd i admire her alot. 3.i hv dated few gals it realy bn a while,d last i had a galfrnd was 2011. 4.yes she work n d mall.tnx

alutacontinua: Babylola, how are you? Long time!
Causetrouble, missblanche, ichidodo, 2sexy and others-how are y'all doing!
This girl here misses you!

carmelion:

Well.I don't encourage romantic relationships between two people working in the same place except if one of you is planning to leave.

Try getting close to her but are you sure she is not in any relationship as that might be another obstacle.Don't go professing your love for her immidiately.Be friendly with her,show her some signs(that should not include giving her money)though you can buy her lunch once in a while.

Women are quick to understand when a man is interested in them.If she encourages it and feels comfortable around you then you can go ahead and define your relationship.

Very important:Don't rush her or bug her life with phone calls,else you become a pest.Let her set the pace,just tag along.
I wish you luck

beau49: Hello everyone....well I dnt knw wat 2 call my situation buh lemme explain....

M in my early twenties n currently doin my youth service,aldoh m single nt dat I mind cus I enjoy being single buh the issue is lots of guyz(some gud n odas nt so gud) have cum 2 ask me out buh I always turn dem dwn nt becus I don't want 2 date buh becus m nt jes feeling dem(i.e I dnt see dem as pple I can date,nt in a bad way doh) n I dnt want 2 go in2 any relationship out of pity or becus m getting old or sumtin....m a believer of being friends b4 goin in2 a relationship buh most guys seems 2 tink odawise.

So also i bliv in d 'no sex b4 marriage tin' buh my fear is dat d guy may nt agree n dis is also anoda issue dat is stoppin me 4rm considering any relationship,which is y I av decide 2 b financially independent b4 going in2 any relationship wat so ever.

My question nw is m I deceivin myself or jes postponing d inevitable(i.e sex)cus almost everywhere u luk,u hardly see a relationship without sex even friends r nt helpin matterz n abt being friends first b4 becuming partners is it possible or I shud jes agree n start one immediately m asked?

#Wud really appreciate ur response....Thankz

passionate88: Are there girls who can date a guy without gifts or favours?.

carmelion:

When you love someone,giving them gifts and granting them favours won't be a task neither would it be news.

beau49: Hello everyone....well I dnt knw wat 2 call my situation buh lemme explain....

M in my early twenties n currently doin my youth service,aldoh m single nt dat I mind cus I enjoy being single buh the issue is lots of guyz(some gud n odas nt so gud) have cum 2 ask me out buh I always turn dem dwn nt becus I don't want 2 date buh becus m nt jes feeling dem(i.e I dnt see dem as pple I can date,nt in a bad way doh) n I dnt want 2 go in2 any relationship out of pity or becus m getting old or sumtin....m a believer of being friends b4 goin in2 a relationship buh most guys
seems 2 tink odawise.

So also i bliv in d 'no sex b4 marriage tin' buh my fear is dat d guy may nt agree n dis is also anoda issue dat is stoppin me 4rm considering any relationship,which is y I av decide 2 b financially independent b4
going in2 any relationship wat so ever.

My question nw is m I deceivin myself or jes postponing d inevitable(i.e sex)cus almost everywhere u luk,u hardly see a relationship without sex even friends r nt helpin matterz n abt being friends first b4 becuming
partners is it possible or I shud jes agree n start one immediately m
asked?

#Wud really appreciate ur response....Thankz

passionate88: What abt when you love someone and you dan't have something to give?.

ubong560:

This ur stinginess with ur pusssy might not land u well, if u like, mark my words. If u think ur pusssy is too precious that u cant giv it to guys to chop for whatsoever reasons left to u, then keep it to urself, better still, cut it, fry or cook it and chop am urself. I dont give a damn! If i may ask, are u a virgin? Even if u are, why 'no sex till marriage tins', after d marriage now, na u go still com back here com complain say ur man is not endowed down there, he cant perform well, he cant make u pregnant etc. Meanwhyl, this is when u would've exploited all the exploitables sexually and otherwise. Am off!

carmelion:
Hi beau,
There is nothing wrong with you,don't get worked up.If you are not feeling them,there is nothing anyone can do about it.Feelings come from within,it is not forced.

All I can tell you is you should not write all of them off.In as much you are not promising them anything,give one or two of them a chance.By chance I mean,let them hang around.Sometimes when we get close to people,we discover who they really are.You might like them you know.


Except if your reasons are based on tribe,religion,class,educational background.e.t.c.

In this case,Only you can make that decision.Please keep on being good.There are still men who will date you without sex.Very few,but they still exist.

All the best and keep us posted

beau49: Hello everyone....well I dnt knw wat 2 call my situation buh lemme explain....

M in my early twenties n currently doin my youth service,aldoh m single nt dat I mind cus I enjoy being single buh the issue is lots of guyz(some gud n odas nt so gud) have cum 2 ask me out buh I always turn dem dwn nt becus I don't want 2 date buh becus m nt jes feeling dem(i.e I dnt see dem as pple I can date,nt in a bad way doh) n I dnt want 2 go in2 any relationship out of pity or becus m getting old or sumtin....m a believer of being friends b4 goin in2 a relationship buh most guys seems 2 tink odawise.

So also i bliv in d 'no sex b4 marriage tin' buh my fear is dat d guy may nt agree n dis is also anoda issue dat is stoppin me 4rm considering any relationship,which is y I av decide 2 b financially independent b4 going in2 any relationship wat so ever.

My question nw is m I deceivin myself or jes postponing d inevitable(i.e sex)cus almost everywhere u luk,u hardly see a relationship without sex even friends r nt helpin matterz n abt being friends first b4 becuming partners is it possible or I shud jes agree n start one immediately m asked?

#Wud really appreciate ur response....Thankz

carmelion:

It depends on what you consider worth giving.first observe the kind of person she is ,there is always something you can afford.

If she likes music,get her N100 CD plate of that musician

She likes fashion,get her N200 fashion magazine,get her a beautiful scarf or even a N200 earing or N500 3-in-1 bangle.Let something just come from you!

You know one thing about gifts?Its not the price.Its the fact that you were actually thinking about her at that moment.

When you have N400 airtime in your phone,transfer N200 to her line.Such surprise gifts are just mind blowing.

I know you are a student,I just hope you find a good girl,but erase that mind set.Love is not expensive,though it will cost you something.

But out love,you won't feel it.

carmelion:

It depends on what you consider worth giving.first observe the kind of person she is ,there is always something you can afford.

If she likes music,get her N100 CD plate of that musician

She likes fashion,get her N200 fashion magazine,get her a beautiful scarf or even a N200 earing or N500 3-in-1 bangle.Let something just come from you!

You know one thing about gifts?Its not the price.Its the fact that you were actually thinking about her at that moment.

When you have N400 airtime in your phone,transfer N200 to her line.Such surprise gifts are just mind blowing.

I know you are a student,I just hope you find a good girl,but erase that mind set.Love is not expensive,though it will cost you something.

But out love,you won't feel it.

passionate88: Easier said than done. Think about when you started dating newly, if a guy had given you things like this would you have accepted it with happiness?, wouldn't u have discussed abt him with ur friends and laughd over his "brokeness" and hw he should go get money b4 thinkin of dating cos afterall "no b love u go chop".

It'salie:
wooooooooow!! Lyk big Wooow!!!!.

I took my time to read from page 1 to page 175, though it took me almost two wks but i didnt mind cos it was worth every second of my time.

Carmydoll, you are a darling, THUMBS UP TO YOU.

you might not know it but u hv really touched so many lives (especially mine) and prevented me from makin more mistakes, but at d same time understanding dat life is a risk only dat one should thread with caution and use ones head.

TUALE Carmydoll, infact i love u, (am not a lez though)

To others dat v made meaning contributions-- dailynews, maya, missblanche, nbright, aluta, 2sexy, passionate etc etc, 10 gbosas for una. 3 extra for passionate dat made it dis far.

am single and lonely though, i tot i was d only one passing tru d stage,and i was beginning to think am abnormal until i came across dis thrend. tanx Carmydoll, i hv learnt a lot!

It'salie:
wooooooooow!! Lyk big Wooow!!!!.

I took my time to read from page 1 to page 175, though it took me almost two wks but i didnt mind cos it was worth every second of my time.

Carmydoll, you are a darling, THUMBS UP TO YOU.

you might not know it but u hv really touched so many lives (especially mine) and prevented me from makin more mistakes, but at d same time understanding dat life is a risk only dat one should thread with caution and use ones head.

TUALE Carmydoll, infact i love u, (am not a lez though)

To others dat v made meaning contributions-- dailynews, maya, missblanche, nbright, aluta, 2sexy, passionate etc etc, 10 gbosas for una. 3 extra for passionate dat made it dis far.

am single and lonely though, i tot i was d only one passing tru d stage,and i was beginning to think am abnormal until i came across dis thrend. tanx Carmydoll, i hv learnt a lot!

It'salie:
wooooooooow!! Lyk big Wooow!!!!.

I took my time to read from page 1 to page 175, though it took me almost two wks but i didnt mind cos it was worth every second of my time.

Carmydoll, you are a darling, THUMBS UP TO YOU.

you might not know it but u hv really touched so many lives (especially mine) and prevented me from makin more mistakes, but at d same time understanding dat life is a risk only dat one should thread with caution and use ones head.

TUALE Carmydoll, infact i love u, (am not a lez though)

To others dat v made meaning contributions-- dailynews, maya, missblanche, nbright, aluta, 2sexy, passionate etc etc, 10 gbosas for una. 3 extra for passionate dat made it dis far.

am single and lonely though, i tot i was d only one passing tru d stage,and i was beginning to think am abnormal until i came across dis thrend. tanx Carmydoll, i hv learnt a lot!

temi4fash:

madam beau..

I like d fact dat that u av already laid down sum principle for ur self before u get into the dating game.

But wat m surprised abt is not feeling any of ur toasters.. Whats d prob with dem?? Are dai less than wat u wish ur kinda of man shld b or cos dai not following ur friends b4 dating rule..

Again, u said sumtin abt been financially independent which is a very great thing.. But weda u are financially independent or not a guy who wants sex b4 marriage would ask for it weda u r or u not. It doesnt matter u ask him for stuffs or not.. D probabilty is only higher when u do. Dere are guys who are willing to wait although very small.

To friendship b4 dating a lot of guys have been dere b4. One is when u try to b friends with a gal and u dont make ur intentions knwn frm d start dere is a high prob dat u might get friendzoned for life. And no one wants dat.

Lastly, ma advise to is
-ur principle are very great ones but try and b flexible in d sense dat no one is perfect. We just trying to attain dat.

-if u believe in no sex before marriage stick with it.. Ur faoth will work for u but b ready to face lot of challenges cos u goin against d status quo.

- if a guy ask u out, d fact dat he does not av ur desirable qualities at first galance dos not make him not ur dream man, if u want friendship first do tell him if he is urs he will stick around. But dont go friendzoning him.

- believe God and b prayerful

NB: not al relationship are meant to lead to marriage some are just to make us a better person and not b keept, some are just for us to av experience in dealing with human beings cos we complicated..

beau49:

Tanx 4 ur reply u made sum gud point....

Wat I meant abt nt feelin any of my toasters is dat d likeness n attraction is jes nt der n I dnt wanna force d feelings or date out of pressure...

I knw most guys wud ask 4 sex weda or nt he gives me money or gifts buh being financially independent wud giv me an hedge n I wud av a say unlike wen m overly dependent on him.

Me telling a guy let's b friend first b4 anytin else is lyk sayin'u don't knw me n I dnt knw u dat much,so let's take tinz slow n steady n if @ d long run we lyk wat we see den we can go ahead''...dis is after is has made his intensions of dating me known.

Thanks again 4 takin time 2 reply,u av really helped a lot...#cheers!

It'salie:
wooooooooow!! Lyk big Wooow!!!!.

I took my time to read from page 1 to page 175, though it took me almost two wks but i didnt mind cos it was worth every second of my time.

Carmydoll, you are a darling, THUMBS UP TO YOU.

you might not know it but u hv really touched so many lives (especially mine) and prevented me from makin more mistakes, but at d same time understanding dat life is a risk only dat one should thread with caution and use ones head.

TUALE Carmydoll, infact i love u, (am not a lez though)

To others dat v made meaning contributions-- dailynews, maya, missblanche, nbright, aluta, 2sexy, passionate etc etc, 10 gbosas for una. 3 extra for passionate dat made it dis far.

am single and lonely though, i tot i was d only one passing tru d stage,and i was beginning to think am abnormal until i came across dis thrend. tanx Carmydoll, i hv learnt a lot!