slimyem: Holier than thou people too plenty for this section..and all na lie.
This man na correct aka-gum.
His type is well known.
Money for essentials go hard am because his wife is independent.
Na she go suffer am.
His money go be his own money and her money will be theirs!
If it was some random babe demanding or expecting some responsibilty,she can be thrashed for being a long throat but not a fiancee or gf of for years.
She deserves better!!

slimyem: Holier than thou people too plenty for this section..and all na lie.
This man na correct aka-gum.
His type is well known.
Money for essentials go hard am because his wife is independent.
Na she go suffer am.
His money go be his own money and her money will be theirs!
If it was some random babe demanding or expecting some responsibilty,she can be thrashed for being a long throat but not a fiancee or gf of for years.
She deserves better!!

honeric01:

Why not let the OP answer series of questions asked her so far?

why jump the gun assuming you know the real deal in the relationship?

Vikin:

The guy na stingy ko!

I dey even suspect you too @honeric!

Don't be aka gum! Learn to give out when someone needs help. It's not even about being smart...it's all about caring.

Give when you know someone needs it, this world we are just guest o!

Learn to give!

slimyem: Holier than thou people too plenty for this section..and all na lie.

4 years and all she could talk about is phone? people should reason!

Vikin: The phone is just an example to show the insensitivity of the supposed fiancé.

You may call it prudent but I call it stingy!

If my fiancé is in the OP shoe, I would have given him my own sef!

You know all these are vanity when you misplace some items or some expensive things are stolen from you.

Yes, it's good to be prudent in spending but certain things should be overlooked if you wanna live long and enjoy this life!

cotton101:

maybe i'm being simple here - but when someone complains that her boyfriend did not replace her stolen phones and bought himself an ipad then there is a problem - she didn't say she feeds him and he NEVER gives her money or buys here stuff - from my understanding of the first post she only mentioned these things to assume that he will leave her to pay house rent and school fees is taking it a bit too far.

anyway everyone knows how they manage their own.

there is a difference between a man not buying BB and buying food for the family

honeric01:
Let the OP tell us if her man is this all round or just for "trivial" things like phone.

some men invest financially in their women in other valuable things, while others take up the phone and gadgets aspect.

My GF once complained about me not "taking her out more", i studied her and i got to know she was the "forgetful" type. i sat her down, outlined what and what i have done for her financially and otherwise. she was apologetic and ever since then, anything i do for her, she gets very appreciative of them.

Mind you, i am in a non-sexual relationship and it's almost 4yrs now.

so go figure.

bizgirl: Hello my family member kindly put me through in case i am wrong. I am in a relationship for over 4 years now ãn̶̲̥̅̊đ if based on my fiance's plan we should have been married by now but somethings are not really so clear to me hence this thread. i observe that my finace is so stingy.let me be briefed,i was robbed in may last year in which i lost almost 80k including my phone of 20k.this man just pet me ãn̶̲̥̅̊đ leave me to myself after which he bought his own BB.i have to buy a BB torch 1 by myself ãn̶̲̥̅̊đ when i challenged him he gave flimsy excuses. Now a month after my new BB was also stolen ãn̶̲̥̅̊đ i was forced to still go for another one without his dime again but today i saw my guy with a new i-pad worth 40k ãn̶̲̥̅̊đ since then i have been crying cos i feel so cheated. My annoyance is that his salary is abt 8 times mine. I have decided not to tell him my grievinces again because it might be termed as being nagging. Pls What do i do again.

Ole

honeric01:

Why not let the OP answer series of questions asked her so far?

why jump the gun assuming you know the real deal in the relationship?

Vikin:

My guess would have been you are just making this up to balance your argument.

Then again, it's your story, believe it or not for you to remember things you do for her shows your person. There are things I don't look into while in relationship. It should come naturally, and I will never bring it up when there is an argument.

If her guy was all around MAJOR things I wonder why she will bring the trivial things like phone as an example.

slimyem: Which gun am i jumping?
Aren't you assuming too..?
..or aren't you saying maybe the lady spends beyond her means?
...or didn't you see where someone else assumed the man is saving towards marriage even though the op didn't expressly state that..?
Abeg,we are all assuming until the op comes to answer the questions..

Mrs mansson: Why all this so much pretence on NL about independence. my ex sch mate is dating a medical officer,she is not working yet,but has done series of interview and hoping to get soon.this guy doesn't even assit her with a dime.her responsibility is now on me.I give her some of my used wears.get some things for her,even transport fare for interviews.shebi dat one na independence.someone is stingy and you guys are faking.

honeric01:

You're concluding but for me, i am not, rather i am using the word "maybe" "what if". hope you can now spot the difference?

the difference between people you quoted and yourself is that you're concluding while we aren't.

slimyem: concluding,assuming,specuilating,insinuating...all na use of english.I know what i see and interprete.i read in between lines and its enough to back up my submission.
There's no point making excuses here except you are purposely choosing to ignore the obvious.
This man doesn't care and his actions are loud enough to say so!!
There's no point being in a relationship if your partner(male or female) can't be or pretend to be your safety net in times of trouble especially not after four years!

victorian: Some Empowered women here are always screaming, they don't need a man's money, they can take care of themselves, while dating.. All na lie.. For how long, will u continue to always buy things with your money without him, giving u anything.. His job is to have s3x , eat your food, smile a toothless smile, saying u r the best of them all, then dust yansh waka... Story. .. Some women should stop fooling themselves. Op , if the guy is stingy.. Pls drop him, cos u will be the only one caring for yurself, even after marriage.. Av bn in a stingy relationship before. I was carried away by love, saying but I earn my own cash, y depend on him. Few weeks to finalise our marriage plans , I asked him a simple question.. That, dear u know av never asked u for money since we have been dating and uv not given me a dime since we started dating. Lets assume, am broke during our years of marriage, will u assist me? Will u help me out? He told me , with a straight face, No I won't... I was so shocked.. I asked why? He said because I have a job, that's better than his, so why shud he give me money, if am down. Can u imagine?
I angrily told him its over between us, to he'll with his marriage plans, am out. I cried throughout that nite sha o. But
Thank God , I made that choice... Am married to another guy , who is among the best of them .. Nice, caring.. Doesn't care abt my money, and sure takes care of me ,,our home financially....
Op, he is not worth the stress..and also be very careful on how u handle yur phones.

Busy_body:


Hmmm, watching the thread in 4D motion, sifting through the chaffs and sorting the hunted's from the hunters

Back to the "other thread" again to check if it is really Chaircover and Greatgod2012............

honeric01:
Now, back to the question.

How are you sure the guy doesn't take up more responsibility for her apart from this phone of a thing she's talking about?

We know some women are like parasites expecting you to take care of everything for them.

Let the OP tell us if her man doesn't add anything to her life financially apart from this phone of a thing.

4 years and all she could talk about is phone? people should reason!

greatgod2012:


and which thread is that?
I cant eat up my words, i mean what i wrote here and i wrote what i mean. I, personally dont subscribe to receiving anything from a boyfriend(not husband), so, i cant feel bad if he doesnt buy me anything.
Well, maybe because i never found myself in op's situation, i never see any reason for complaining dt my Bf didnt buy something 4 me, which even if he did, i wouldnt collect. So, to me, no big deal.



@somebody, i wish to know dt other thread that i've been inconsistent. Thanks.



P. S........... Im not used to argument on a thread, i just post my comment and move away or betterstill read other pple's comments, perhaps i will have something to learn therein, but i just need to reply this particular one.
Shalom!

Oahray: Damn, I like this! Every coin has two sides and even an edge. How is it she mentions only the phone side?

Four years of dating and only two cases of not replacing her phone and money, therefore he is stingy and uncaring? SINGLE STORY!

Busy_body:


If you can be bothered to read what i wrote again after you have calmed down, you would see that I wasn't talking about "you" nor "speaking" against you...