[color=#990000][/color]fertility issues has become a popular topic around the world today,with more and more people becoming aware of their fertility and seeking solutions medically n spiritually. It amazes м̣̣̥̇̊ε̲̣̣̣̥̊ when some people out there think a couple won't want to have babies after getting married,thus making life unbearable for them by calling them all the time to know y d wife isn't preggy yet,insinuating things like d wife has commited series of abortions dats y she can't have a baby even if she got married as a virgin. Inlaws ar usually d toughest to deal with,making life unbearable for d wife coz dey will neva believe it myt even b their son who Ȋ̝̊̅§ affected with d fertility problem. They care less if the couples ar going through heartache concerning d issue,they just feel its abnormal for a woman not to b pregnant immediately after her wedding. Sometimes the husbands don't help matters,coz they also contribute to the family interference into their problems. What's ur story and how did u cope with it?/ what's ur advice for such couples?

@safe06,for me,i dont call or pick calls of outsiders who ask anytime they call.As for my family members and inlaws,they are not that pestering,probably because we are not in lagos and Dh took care of d situation well.My younger sister will be getting married soon,just praying i wil be pregnant b4 then.hmmm,u know,pple staring at ones tummy,d daring ones wil cal me to ask questions,maybe i shouldnt even go for d wedding.d psycological stress may be too much.Just fedup.

[color=#990000][/color]its well zeezy. Its realy sad that women are the ones who get to take all the blames. Go for ur sister's wedding,u don't owe anybody anything,God's time Ȋ̝̊̅§ always the best,just make sure u put up a bold apperance all d tym n don't let anyone weigh U̶̲̅ down. As for d prog,I think u should take a break n face d ivf,coz u ll need a lot of rest during that period. I don't have any family member disturbing м̣̣̥̇̊ε̲̣̣̣̥̊,bur its friends who keep buzzing to ask when I ll b dropping my baby so dey can come visit,rily crazy. Its well with us jere.

@safe06,tnk jare.i wil try.

@safe06 thanks for starting dis topic,my sister its frustrating o especially when u r already more than a year in the marriage u will see peaple staring at ur stomach,for me its even more because all my friend re just having babies not that am not happy for them but the annoying thing is that they will not tell me n i will just here it frm another person nd i know is bcoos am ttc nd even inlaws av a way of asking u might not notice if u av a supporting hubby.for me is like i dont even have any other thing am
thinking aexept this ivf/ttc thing am getting more nd more frutrated this days.pls all the mamas in the house share ur experience nd how u were able to cope till God answer ur prayer.i pray d lord answer all our prayers this year o.loads of baby dust to us all.

Good morning mothers, dealing with infertility is unbearable but God is able

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Abibby,its well with us all. It just shows the level of our literacy nd sensitivity as concern having babies. Though I'm not up to a year in marriage,I av friends who ar up to n already worried dey ar yet to conceive. I keep saying it that its not by our power that a woman conceives,its when God says its time. My aunt of about 50yrs just put to bed late 2010 n a set of twins early diz year,dats God @ work. My advice to U̶̲̅ Ȋ̝̊̅§ to distract urself from pregnancy issues,coz thinking about it causes delay too ,ur body needs to b relaxed.watch comedy films,read inspirational books, pray,pray and pray for a healthy,blessed child not just a child, learn a handwork,or further in ur education, n most of all b happy coz good things happen to happy people. Sparkling baby dust ur way babes,diz year shall not pass us by insha Allah. Amin.

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Wonyi ,yeah God Ȋ̝̊̅§ able,let's kip our faith strong n put d devil to shame.

Well said ladies,i pray dis yr will not pass us by amen.

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@safe06,aslmn alykm.its long since we hear from you.hope there is no problem.kindly pop in to say hi.may Allah ease our affairs.Am inviting you to a thread i opened in the islam for muslim forum(prayers for muslims ttc) so we can pray together and our muslim brothers and sisters can pray for us.expecting the humorous safe06.

i just want to chip in here.

As difficult as this might be , believe me sweet hearts ,it really works.

ignore every stress that may come with infertility: what i mean here is, live life to the fullest while expecting your baby's arrival. do not occupy your mind with what you assume everyone (including your in-laws) must be thinking about you or your partner/hubby,during your ttc period.

Create a quite time for your self alone , it could be around 12am ,3am , any time at all 20 to 40 mins to your self,no gadgets, phones , tv should be left on. Say a.
particular prayer at this time,read a particular portion of the bible too ,say positive things to your self and just meditate and do some breathing exercise.You can do this any where, bathroom, bedroom , but just make sure you are alone and its quiet where you are.You can do this everyday.

This is a sure way of coping with any kind of stress.

[color=#990000][/color]@uzoo,thanx dear for Ʊя̩̥̊ contribution,trust м̣̣̥̇̊ε̲̣̣̣̥̊,its easier said than done,my only prayer Ȋ̝̊̅§ for God not to test м̣̣̥̇̊ε̲̣̣̣̥̊ more than I can bear. I like Ʊя̩̥̊ suggestions,I ll try them. Its well with babes.

safe thanks for startin dis thread.coping wit infertility is nt funny @ all.in my estate am d only one without a child.just last week dh cousin came to my house n was sayin i should do somethin b4 pple start laughin @ us.may God see us tru

yes dats d spirit.may we neva experience sorrow in our homes.Also i found multi-maca as in maca roots combo with soy.have been takin it bt noticed my libido is something i cant seem to keep up with.am thinkin of droppin it ohhh.wat do u think

safe hehehehehehe na true i dey talk oh.i go stop am abeg before i start followin bobo to d office.i don drop am abeg.tanx dear

Hello ladies!I de feel everybody. Una well done.infertility is one huge problem that has ended marriages and lives.but I thank God for his grace and science. Let me share a story of a collegue on her journey.married 8 yrs ago to d only son.she made d mistake of tellin d husband she had fibroid op a year b4 her marriage.recently she don't go home cause d inlaws said she knew she was barren b4 he marriage. 3yrs ago,our lady boss took her to her doctor and they commenced treatment.she don't mensurate,within some months,she started seeing her AF,ovulation was confirmed and she took in. Our office gave her house rest till whenever.we were at a weddin when she cald that she was havin serious pains.went to hospital and it was discoverd that it was ectopic.baby was flushed out.
She started again,yet to get there but she had hope.
I shared this story so that some will not lose hope.this woman has bn to hospitals,spent money,what has she not passed tru? I can't go into what she has to endure from her MIL.
So for eveyone tryin,its frustratin I know but God our maker sees and hears. Today she has takin in again and its progressing well.as it has happened to this wonderful aunty,I pray others will share their diff testimonies in due time. God bless u all

kai
d troubles women endure.reminds me of my uncles wife.dey have been
married for 5yrs plus.he kept telin us she is d one wit d problem dat
she doesnt have a womb.dis woman suffered ehhn.december @rd deir
anniversary she fell ill only to b told she is preggy.she is heavy nw n
dat is hw we discoverd it was d husband dat had attention dysfunction.May God give us grace to run dis race.me,i know delay is nt denial so we just need to b patient

Just seeing this forum for the first time.Coping wt infertility hmmm ....has nt been easy,especially when news are brought to my notice that so so so person that got married nine month ago has given birth and I keep wondering why mine is taking this long to come.But my dear mamas I leave everything in God' hand b'cos I've tried my best.
This TTC journey had make me distance my self from families and friends just b'cos I don't want any1 to remind me that I don't have a child yet and I hate when people stare at me trying to confirm whether I'm pregnant or not to the extent that I know.
There is this friend of my Dh that use to disturb us asking all the time what are we waiting for that we shud give him a child,when I couldn't bear it again I cut him off; I stop seeing him and stop picking his calls..My dear sisters this same guy is now married for 4yrs now wtout a child,now he knows the impact of those words he used to say to me.

I Always tell God this. " I WILL TRY MY BEST TODAY BUT IF I FAILED PLS REMIND ME THAT YOUR PLANS FOR ME ARE BETTER THAN MY DREAMS.
May Allah answer us all sooner than we expect amen.Baby dust to all.

safe,yes oohh.TTC is really gettin@me today.since morning its lyk everyone is justtryin to ask y e neva happen.oh God,where wil i find solace.i ran to church for a programme,wen i got home,Dh started pickin unnecessary quarrel oh.

@Iyabetajos, even dou me too de rant now. Abeg just ignore all of them. What I used to say is "anybody that has problem with me not having a child yet? Should go and query God, cos its him that gives. Make anybody no just disturb me"

SAFE,VENUS AM SO SO GRATEFUL

Just read a news that brought tears to my eyes; A 400 level student of OAU gave birth to a boy this morning in the hostel toilet and attempted to flush the baby thru the water closet.Thanks to one of the cleaner that heard a baby cry and called for help.This same babies is what sum of us are spending our fortune on just to have one.God only you knows why.
May God crown our effort amen.

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