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The Bad Boy Sex Appeal

Why do women always fall for the bad boys and leave the good guys?”

This is a puzzle that bugs the hell out of so many guys.

The theory out there — usually advanced by frustrated guys complaining about the “jerks” who get the women they can’t have and those who constantly worry that a “bad boy” might steal away the woman they love and they won’t be able to do a damn thing about it — is that women must somehow be “addicted’ to shady and scandalous characters who demean, humiliate and treat them like disposable objects.

First up, to generalize and say all bad boys are the same and that every bad boy is up to no good, is to have a serious tunnel vision on the sex appeal of the bad boy.

However, I have to agree that there are women who are intrigued by what they themselves don’t understand. These women fall fast and hard for jerks, gangsters, criminals, thugs, bullies, moochers, addicts, womanizers, abusers and emotionally unavailable men because these men mimic some of the QUALITIES that make bad boys so appealing but soon or later the women realize that these men are as cold, selfish, cheap, lazy, spoiled, calculating, bitter, cruel and controlling as they come.

This attraction to struggling or troubled souls that need fixing, protecting or nurturing has very little to do with love or even the men themselves, and a lot to do with these women’s need (yes, need) for men who bring out in them a deeply buried desire to be depended up on, or overpowered (or punished) by an aggressive, cold, ruthless, selfish, heart-less and even possibly violent male.

Many of these women fall for these men knowing too well that these men want a shag but not a relationship, or cheated on their last girlfriends, or have a long rap sheet, or have never held a steady job, or are zonked out on drugs and alcohol every evening etc. but the attraction is so strong because troubled souls create the outer chaos these women need to distract themselves from what’s really going on in their own souls. These women manage to somehow convince themselves that if they can somehow make him more loving, get him off drugs, help him succeed or whatever, then they can somehow have the love they didn’t get in childhood, or feel important (something they never made to feel growing up) or even get back the “power” taken away from them in their past. But they are only........continue reading @ http://coolpenny./2013/02/08/why-women-dig-the-bad-boy-sex-appeal-part-1/