ZUBY77: little girls of nowadays, you people need serious lessons on marriage.

[size=18pt]So exactly what would you be doing in your boyfriends house?
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Lie on the bed all day or watch movies while he washes the plates and cleans the house?

Merging this silly American Mentalities with African way of doing things is destroying you twats.

How on earth am i supposed to even love some lazy girl who is only interested in my bed?

Caracta: Learn to read before jumping into wrong conclusions. Most of the ladies here did not say they can't help out. They said they can, ONCE IN A WHILE! I leave for work at 5:30am and get home around 9pm, rush home to cook for my family. Are you telling me to go to my bf's house first to do his dishes? Does that make sense?

The only little time i can spare on weekends and public hols can be used for visitations and "helping out". I'm soo glad he is not dirty and lazy and he understands. I love to cook, he likes to eat. I clean the dishes, he throws out the garbage. It is a RELATIONSHIP!

Yoruba_Omoge:

Boyfriend, not husband.

Yoruba_Omoge:

Boyfriend, not husband.

Idowuogbo:
In 2013, y'all still get dis kian mentality? Wots d biggie about sweeping, washing and cooking? I mean for Godsake, dose are d qualities a guy who wants to settle down would probably be on d look out for. All dis shakara dey ruin cv o! U were warned o! Hian! Smh.

Yoruba_Omoge:


Look at question. . . .

What exactly will you be doing in your gf's house?

Yoruba_Omoge:

Boyfriend, not husband.

Truckpusher: I personally hate it when guys take advantage of a woman's love and respect for stupidity,but again i'll not fail to say that if there is any attitude i dislike abt some of these ladies, it's their boisterous chest beating meanwhile, even in real world despite all the education it will only take a 16yr old boy to turn them into zombies....the victims i feel for are the ones, the worst of all the simpletions that will swallow their story of bravado hook,line and sinker only to commit relationship suicide each time she goes into one....GOD THEY WATCH UNA FOR 5D

olasmith10: It depends on the outcome the lady expects in d relationship.If d relationship has a gr8 tendency to lead to marriage,then I don't c it as a big deal to help whenever u visit him.As a mata of fact,it even serve as an avenue to measure and observe d house material qualities of u.
NB:dis depends on d nature of dier love.

anitank: SMH at some of the posts coming from NL ladies. Its really sad.

@topic, i ENJOY doing chores anytime i go to my man's house because i see him as my big baby. i cook, clean, wash and arrange, sometimes i even ask him to just sit while i feed him.......yea sue me
I barely let him touch anything when am around. I don't do all that because am desperate and want him to marry me immediately but becos i LOVE him and am the type that likes pampering her man.

How comfortable would a lady be in her boyfriend's place watching him cook and clean, but goes to bedroom with him, bleeps him and then go home And you expct him to take u seriously?? SMDH

Chilexeve: When I was dating my hubby, I wasn't doing anything for him. In fact, I pretended as if I didn't know how to do anything. It even got to a point that the sister became angry with him.

But when I found out that despite all those my 'lazy attitudes', he still loved me, I decided to bring out my real self, though I limited my chores to cooking n cleaning the house once in a while. My brother in law was doing the washing. Even up till now he still does the washing. In fact, the very first day I cooked for him when I visited, he couldn't believe I did the cooking cos it was so delicious even more than the sister's own. It even got to the point during my service year in kaduna that he started sending me flight money once in a while just to come and cook for him.

My point is, don't make your relationship to be all about doing chores.

Did I tell u pple that this is my first comment on nairaland? So haaaaaapppppyyyyy!!!!!

Chilexeve:
My point is, don't make your relationship to be ALL ABOUT doing chores.

Yoruba_Omoge:

Keep quiet. There's no chest beating here.

I personally hate it when men still hold onto to a Stonehenge mentality.
You all said acting like his wife while she doesn't even have a ring to pawn is not an issue, but when she she doesn't it becomes an issue.
Makes no damn sense.
If it's not an issue, then why are you popping veins? Why can't we just leave it be?
So admit it, it is an issue because it's a gender expectation of what a woman should do.
This ain't the bob marley period.
If you want wifey material, give wifey material. Period.

Doyensky: #shakes head#i pity ur condition

anitank:
well said. Most of the girls are probably dating "a nobody" who they know they have no future with, that's why they don't feel obligated to do those things. Good luck to them anyway

Truckpusher: You said boy friend and not husband ...my question is can you give what you don't have...or you think that the act of tolerating another individual into your life is an overnight task...abeg make i hear word...DO YOU EVEN HAVE A BOY FRIEND?

Idowuogbo:
U dey mad? Which condition dey affect u and ya ancestors? Ko shi mehn!

Idowuogbo:
U dey mad? Which condition dey affect u and ya ancestors? Ko shi mehn!

Yoruba_Omoge:

Thank you jare. Now you know why I loff you, Idowu.
Oya, you fit come to my house and do my laundry too?
E no be issue abi? Since you do it at home, you can do it at a friend's place too.

Ps I'm sure you boffy even expects you to clean up at his friend's place. I mean, the more houses you clean, the more wifey you become.
The man go propose to you while you're on your knees cleaning his "was once white now golden" toilet

Truckpusher: Oh oh i see where you're going sweetheart....you should've told me that you always run around with peeps that don't have any concrete plan to settle down then i'll understand......lemme summarize it this way: You really wanna do this for a man that is serious and not 'one chop clean mouth' guy wey no get plans for both of una abi?...if it's this i agree you won but say the guy dun already propose make the next three or four months things dun set you come say you no cook for me ,they ration everything including kpomo ..i go just vex carry ur friend go court go register her after all wife na wife.

Yoruba_Omoge:


Look at question. . . .

What exactly will you be doing in your gf's house?

If both of you enjoy cleaning each other's house, then go for it. But it aint one way.

Caracta:
lol...relax jor.

Truckpusher: hmm idowu i take God beg you no start with am

Idowuogbo:
Ileke, abeg if na play stop am. Am i dating him and his friends? So Ewo lo Oshi? Y I would I go cleaning and cooking for his friends, Na dem dey knack me? Gal plueaseeee!!

P.s- My bofy is a grown man wiv common sense, so save d noise making abeg!

eagle,eye:


Omoge, am sorry for quoting you again. But it seems that you live outside the country, if that is the case, I appreciate you view point.
Now, [size=18pt]for young unmarried ladies in Naija[/size], how many of you are truely living in your own house. I don't mean those who stay in an off campus accomodation and indulge in campus romance.
I mean graduates or self employed or employed ladies, living all by themselves. I mean girls I can visit at any time of the day, without anyone interogating them.
I believe those are the ones your quote addresses.
But for a girl who doesn't have her own independence and personal space, a girl who finds it more comfortable visiting me "her boyfriend" and spending time with me or even passing the weekend in my house to come up with this mentality of "I can't be seen doing house chores for my boiffy". Then I say SHE IS ON LONG THING. Cos my house is not a RELAXATION JOINT.
As I stated above, I pay for the services I need and don't expect any free lunch. But if you must tangle with me, and expect me to help you out sometimes, then you should equally help me out sometimes.

anitank: SMH at some of the posts coming from NL ladies. Its really sad.

@topic, i ENJOY doing chores anytime i go to my man's house because i see him as my big baby. i cook, clean, wash and arrange, sometimes i even ask him to just sit while i feed him.......yea sue me
I barely let him touch anything when am around. I don't do all that because am desperate and want him to marry me immediately but becos i LOVE him and am the type that likes pampering her man.

How comfortable would a lady be in her boyfriend's place watching him cook and clean, but goes to bedroom with him, bleeps him and then go home And you expct him to take u seriously?? SMDH