suggary: @ poster I think u have to look for a way to stop it if not it would end up like my gist.I am 31 and stay with my parents .I make my own money and not a liabilty in any way cos I make my own money and even train my younger one in school..on vals day I was locked outside the house cos I came 10 o clock.I just blanked and didn't complain.the next day I came home 9 and my mum was angry calling me names like LovePeddler and stuff like that. I got angry and told her not to call me names but correct me as her child cos I deserve some respect too.the next tin was dat my dad brought out a belt and was flogging me all over cos I replied my mum. I was too hurt to cry.he even threw my bag out and told me to return from were I was coming from dat night.
I felt really heartbroken cos I have never given them headache or stress of any sort.I stayed in a hotel for a week,later got my own apartment and moved.
Now they have been sending poeple,apologising on phone and even blaming the devil for what happened happened.
Sorry for the long gist but don't want u to go thru what I went thru,NIP IT AT THE BUD NOW before it becomes too bad like mine was.

greatgod2012: @ op im a mother, and i cant think of d last time i slapped my kids, not to talk of an adult, i guess your mum is naturally aggresive, what i will advise you is that, when you are both in good mood, walk up to her and tell her you have something that is really bothering you, and since you claim she loves you, she will want to give you attention, go to her, kneel down and tell her your mind, that you dont like d way she slaps or shout on you, let her know what you will likely do if such repeat itself, say whatever you want to say with all humility as well as with all seriousness, remind her that some of your mates are already mothers, and you dont believe somebody of your age should always be slapped like that.
Ask her if shes transfering d anger she has towards your dad to you, ask her if she will be happy if her own mother treat her like that at that age, ask her so many thought provoking questions, that she will know that she has actually gone beyond normal, let her know this is not d best way to correct you, even, if you err.
And one more thing, make sure you always behave well.
I wish you all d best.

ba7man: When next your mum slaps you, retaliate with this "special move".....

staicey: I no longer find this funny whenever it happens.

Hello? I just clocked 23 some weeks back and only for mum to slap me 2days back because i didnt make her coffee hot enough to her satisfaction. Wtf?
My mum loves slapping me around and this annoys me. Not that she doesnt love me because she still buys me stuffs and takes me out and for the fact that am the only issue, well...you know the rest but this case of slappings, i dont like. I've told her several times and after moments of apologies tendered from her, she's doing it the next minute


please, y'all whether singles or married, tell me if this sh-it is normal because am already loosing a hold of myself. I dont like this one bit

I might just move in with my dad or sue her!!

At the age of 23, She is still buying you stuff and you still probably feeding on her paycheque . . . Thus some of this.
However, it is wrong for her to be slapping you and serious talking to her might be the only way out, and u too might have to pay better attention to details with her, cos she probably expects more from you at your age than you are delivering . . .
The fact that your Dad is not under same roof with her might be an issue too, MAYBE each time you do wrong, you remind her of your Dad and she gets angry and taking it out on you . . . She might need counselling too

chiover: . hmmmm, u stayed in a hotel b4 getting ur own huz?? U must hav practiced this style at the hotel

991: next time, as she lifts her palms to slap you, hold her hand, look directly into her eyes and say, 'Don't You Dare!!' believe me fear go catch her.

991: next time, as she lifts her palms to slap you, hold her hand, look directly into her eyes and say, 'Don't You Dare!!' believe me fear go catch her.

Fhemmmy:

Common, where would you expect her to stay after leaving the house, on the street or with a man? . . Let us learn to appreciate good thing when it is done, Hotel is not only for xes, so many useful things could be done there

nitlad:


Are you an hotelier? Abi why you dey advocate for hotel like you've got the country's largest chain of hotels?

yuzedo: FXKing2012 needs to get the F*CK outta this thread.. Actin' all thirsty and concerned. I bet you'd like some of the OP's 23yr old punny innit?
Man, f*ck outta here with yo lame advice, talkin' bout "you need to get a boyfriend, i can help you up yo income, your story is really moving, you sound like a good girl, i'm impressed"... Go and help kids in orphanage first nuqqa!

staicey: I no longer find this funny whenever it happens.

Hello? I just clocked 23 some weeks back and only for mum to slap me 2days back because i didnt make her coffee hot enough to her satisfaction. Wtf?
My mum loves slapping me around and this annoys me. Not that she doesnt love me because she still buys me stuffs and takes me out and for the fact that am the only issue, well...you know the rest but this case of slappings, i dont like. I've told her several times and after moments of apologies tendered from her, she's doing it the next minute


please, y'all whether singles or married, tell me if this sh-it is normal because am already loosing a hold of myself. I dont like this one bit

I might just move in with my dad or sue her!!

yuzedo: FXKing2012 needs to get the F*CK outta this thread.. Actin' all thirsty and concerned. I bet you'd like some of the OP's 23yr old punny innit?
Man, f*ck outta here with yo lame advice, talkin' bout "you need to get a boyfriend, i can help you up yo income, your story is really moving, you sound like a good girl, i'm impressed"... Go and help kids in orphanage first nuqqa!

staicey: I no longer find this funny whenever it happens.

Hello? I just clocked 23 some weeks back and only for mum to slap me 2days back because i didnt make her coffee hot enough to her satisfaction. Wtf?
My mum loves slapping me around and this annoys me. Not that she doesnt love me because she still buys me stuffs and takes me out and for the fact that am the only issue, well...you know the rest but this case of slappings, i dont like. I've told her several times and after moments of apologies tendered from her, she's doing it the next minute


please, y'all whether singles or married, tell me if this sh-it is normal because am already loosing a hold of myself. I dont like this one bit

I might just move in with my dad or sue her!!

Fhemmmy:

Since when it is a crime for someone to just to to an hotel to relax and no string attached . . . For the lady in question, if she had gone to friends or families, they would have known her business but she instead went into an hotel to kool off while making her next move and we yet [s]wanna call her names for that? Not kool, i would say[/s]

yuzedo: FXKing2012 needs to get the F*CK outta this thread.. Actin' all thirsty and concerned. I bet you'd like some of the OP's 23yr old punny innit?
Man, f*ck outta here with yo lame advice, talkin' bout "you need to get a boyfriend, i can help you up yo income, your story is really moving, you sound like a good girl, i'm impressed"... Go and help kids in orphanage first nuqqa!

FXKing2012:
If you are earning peanuts then you need to up your pay in order to depend less on her. You say she buys you things and I'm sure she also picks all the bills, that might actually cause her not to respect you as much as you'd have wanted even though she loves you.

As for the boyfriend, you need to be extra careful because most of them boys are only after one thing.

Well...might be able to help you out as regards upping your income.

staicey:

Yes!! Yes!! Its just me.
Forgot to add that part. Well, am the only child so i guess there none other to slap. But i know she's this mild person in her office and people around her seem to love her alot but me, sometimes i just hate her. I've threatened her with moving in with dad but each time i do that, she's always remorseful. I might just do it without her knowing, thats all.

For the other part, I have a job already but not too a strong one that keeps me away from home always (a part-time one) plus i earn peanuts for now and that still makes me rely on mum, plus am still a student and she does all the fees, have got no option. As for the boyfriend issue, do you really think having a boyfriend will make her stop slapping me?? Do you? If yeah, how?

Yoruba_Omoge:

Move out to where?

Will you offer her shelter?

nitlad:
I am not calling her names!


I just find your impassioned 'Uses of Hotel 101' funny that's all.