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Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by BabyLi: 10:41pm On Apr 03, 2013 |
All d listed points are true |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by Songitto(m): 10:46pm On Apr 03, 2013 |
Among all number 14 is real and common |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by buchhogonzalez(m): 10:52pm On Apr 03, 2013 |
nenergy: In addition; another sign is when you say i love you and they say; "yes, i know". #Scaryyesso ...at that point, na to start the ultimate search all over again na em sure pass |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by buchhogonzalez(m): 10:55pm On Apr 03, 2013 |
Nuzo':i am very happy for u ooo |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by Egbagirl(f): 11:03pm On Apr 03, 2013 |
shymexx: Hey bro, what's going on?! Uh okay, so I am not a relationship expert or anything like that but from what you said, I doubt that was love and if it was, then it was under the wrong circumstances. You talk about emotional blackmail, you not being mentally ready and not even wanting the relationship. If all these factors were non-existent, would you still have done the same? If you really loved her, would you have felt blackmailed? Did you feel like you were under pressure to be in a relationship with her? and you had to prove a point? I don't think you loved her too much and you prolly weren't obsessed with here. I honestly can't identify/name what sort of emotional/psychological trigger that made you do all that but I would say that it all stems from the conditions/factors you mentioned. (Note: you said you "had" to ask her out,you did all that stuff 'cause she was a nice girl etc. I did not see any mention of I liked/loved her?) I honestly think that if you love someone, you would know that he or she is an individual that needs personal space sometimes, no over protection, none of all the stuff the OP mentioned. And for me, there is nothing like loving too much. When it gets to the stage that the OP is talking about, then it has gone beyond love to something else. . Btw, that one experience should not change your whole perspective on relationships. I guess it might be a personal fear of "losing yourself", which does not have to be the case. Thing is, I think that relationships change people (and it should be a positive change anyway) but you should not be afraid to change. I don't have the guide book to relationships (as far as I am concerned, it doesn't exist) but being aware of the fact that being in a relationship will change you, will make you mentally prepared to handle that change. If you begin to see yourself doing irrational things out of fear/insecurity and what not, then yea... time to reconsider. BUT don't be afraid to love. (I guess it also involves loving the right person - one that won't take advantage of your love and who loves you back). *To be real with you, I am no expert on this. Just using my head and experience.* |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by larayat(f): 11:34pm On Apr 03, 2013 |
Sum r tru |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by MayorSchwags(m): 11:38pm On Apr 03, 2013 |
christygenius: @ Op, its like u know exactly wat am going thru right now, infact all d signs u listed re wat am exhibiting.... It got an extent that i'll just delete his numbers and pix frm my phone to enable me reduce d amt of love i ve for him but its not working. And anytime he calls, i'll restore d number. I've even thought many atimes to just call him and end d relationship, bt each time i hear his voice, i'll just melt inside and forget everyting i want to say or d hurt am passing thru. I think am going crazy for dis guy, i just love him so much. May God help me oooo i wud neva av tot sum1 els feels d exact same way im feeling. Ts lyk uv bn spying on me. Typical! Walahi,d shit hurts,i telya. Sum tyms i tnk its karma, Cos i knw a few ladiz iv trtd almst dsame way al cosof ds same babe 1 Like |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by ini4brandon(m): 11:40pm On Apr 03, 2013 |
also ; if he or she distances his or herself. from your dear family members and friends. refuses to draw you close to his/her family. |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by lorddarshwood(m): 12:04am On Apr 04, 2013 |
Abegiii...there's nothing wrong in loving too much,if its meant to be,it will surely be,love is spiritual+physically feelings and it doesn't have manuals,so my people abeg make una love well well jo,if its meant to be it will surely be,@ op go sit down some where if dem don break ur heart,buy big bottle of alomo and the heart will mend...shikena 10 over 10 |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by Balad: 12:20am On Apr 04, 2013 |
Nop, it means she doesn't love U̶̲̥̅̊ @ dt moment. Ijele-igbo: |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by Nobody: 12:38am On Apr 04, 2013 |
nice list. very accurate...but sometimes the other person like to play the "chase me game". Nobody got time 4 dat! if you chase, you'd exhibit the signs the OP has presented. So it's best to NEVER put all of your eggs in one basket. Life is 2 short to be chasing ppl who want to play games esp. if they are grown!! |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by silverluci(f): 1:27am On Apr 04, 2013 |
What is a REAL relationship about if we cannot love wholly and truly Even the bible says "whatsoever ur (heart) findeth to love, (love) with all ur heart". It is really unfair to see all this signs in ur bfriend/gfriend and not reciprocate just because "you want to have an upper hand in the relationship!" If u are not interested or u feel ur goals and ambitions is not equal to ur mate's own, o'boy tell the chick sharp sharp and find ur way out so that she wouldn't be wastin all her love on you. REAL Love is very hard to find, help us to give it to one who really deserves it! |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by ORAFA(m): 5:57am On Apr 04, 2013 |
I think I loved too much. This write-up points to me directly. |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by donigspain(m): 6:30am On Apr 04, 2013 |
Aaarrrhhh, thank God I never read this article before breaking up with her on the 26th of March; it goes to show I still have even a little brain/normalcy left in my skull. I really loved her too much for NO reason. Still can't point at a particular attribute of hers that would warrant such energy and time (minus money) investment. Hmmm, people should take heed of these signs. 1 Like |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by pak: 6:42am On Apr 04, 2013 |
Now I think the OP knows what I was feeling when I wrote this piece https://www.nairaland.com/1234051/love-comparable-death The pain of unrequited love can be unbearable really |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by pak: 6:56am On Apr 04, 2013 |
@OP, this is not a sign that 'one is loving too much' but a sign that you love someone more than they do to you and they are taking advantage of it. In my case rule 14 didn't apply to me, Am mentally strong wiled, I actually did pull away from her (3 times) but the helpless part was that she knew deep down that regardless of what she did, it takes just a visit, a call or even a text and we are back on level terms. In fact, it gets so bad that all she has to do is just ramble an apology, whether sensible or not and everything gets cleared out. Am trying to give the relationship one more go cos I really do love the girl but if things continue the way they are, I have an ace up my sleeve, so terrible I might not be able to say it here. It's somethin that will surely break the crazy circle. |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by Ijeleigbo(m): 7:06am On Apr 04, 2013 |
pak: @OP, If you still do got feelings for her, I recommend you make up with her.... 1 Like |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by Nuzo1(m): 7:26am On Apr 04, 2013 |
BraideBraide: I'm in a relationship like this...about 18points...but I can't leave and I don't want to leave...I just hope it will all change and work out.. You're just giving yourself an excuse to be unhappy cos he won't change. Even if you get pregnant for him. Such people do not love you enough for you to be in a relationship with them. Its quiet a difficult situation for you tho'. |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by Nuzo1(m): 7:29am On Apr 04, 2013 |
Ijele-igbo: See advice. Wuckedi! |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by nwgoziri(m): 7:29am On Apr 04, 2013 |
Wich planet r u 4rm....i mean wat r u insinuatin?/did anybody break urhrt?/are u in one nw dat u dnt feel secure?hmmm....wetin com be ur p....i tink u nid drugs.sick! |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by pak: 7:31am On Apr 04, 2013 |
Ijele-igbo: aaaah, bro First off, thanks for this thread. There is nothing as relieving as someone giving expression to the way you feel inside. two, seems like you don't get - its not an if, I will always have feelings for this girl, 'whether I like it or yes'. If you hear what she's done to me and you are my brother, you'll probably smash my head with a stick . . . . (can you imagine travellin like 3 hours to another city to meet someone, based on an arrangement between you two and you get there only for the person not to respond to your calls or text ! nothing ! nothing ! until the morning you r about to leave ! Am puttin this in small case cos its rather shameful and am not usually like this, infact never been this way. Mr regular friends see me as this emotionally detached, strong willed person.) but regardless of the pains, being with her is unbelievable, there is the surge of energy - mental, physical and every other way. Probably first time am so into someone and its not all about sex. Right now we are back on good terms and should see each other today but what am sayin is this might be my last try. If it goes awry again, I might do somethin so bad the breach will be unrepairable |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by Ijeleigbo(m): 7:39am On Apr 04, 2013 |
pak: Okay then! Give it a try....... If everything turns out bad again, dump her azz |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by Ijeleigbo(m): 7:44am On Apr 04, 2013 |
Nuzo': |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by pak: 7:46am On Apr 04, 2013 |
Ijele-igbo: Am not just going to dump her, done that like 3 times and she just strolled back in using the 'power'. but this time, my game plan is to simply 'hit' one of her closest and best friend who has serious 'hots' for me (and do it in a way that she'll know about it) I guess that will settle the 'ish' once and for all, it actually makes me feel more powerful already |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by nwgoziri(m): 7:51am On Apr 04, 2013 |
aaaah, bro First off, thanks for this thread. There is nothing as relieving as someone giving expression to the way you feel inside. two, seems like you don't get - its not an if, I will always have feelings for this girl, 'whether I like it or yes'. If you hear what she's done to me and you are my brother, you'll probably smash my head with a stick . . . . (can you imagine travellin like 3 hours to another city to meet someone, based on an arrangement between you two and you get there only for the person not to respond to your calls or text ! nothing ! nothing ! until the morning you r about to leave ! Am puttin this in small case cos its rather shameful and am not usually like this, infact never been this way. Mr regular friends see me as this emotionally detached, strong willed person.) but regardless of the pains, being with her is unbelievable, there is the surge of energy - mental, physical and every other way. Probably first time am so into someone and its not all about sex. Right now we are back on good terms and should see each other today but what am sayin is this might be my last try. If it goes awry again, I might do somethin so bad the breach will be unrepairable[/quote]see dnt mind op thy is notin lik lovin 2much....wateva u do shows ur level of maturity ok. |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by Imoy(m): 7:54am On Apr 04, 2013 |
The Power in a Relationship Lies with whoever cares less..... |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by Ijeleigbo(m): 7:59am On Apr 04, 2013 |
pak: You'd only make her jealous |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by pak: 8:04am On Apr 04, 2013 |
Ijele-igbo: now you get it, that's the power. She'd truly realise that she has taken things for granted for too long and truth is that her friend ain't bad either. |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by PAQ(m): 8:06am On Apr 04, 2013 |
The worst part of loving too much is when it hits u hard there is no solution... Mugu without choice! Only if there was a knob were one could just regulate love or turn it off, cos its not always about 'loving too much' but loving d wrong person, which is mostly d case. 1 Like |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by BecaciaBarbie(f): 8:24am On Apr 04, 2013 |
Yeaaa, these are true signs.....it chokes mehn! I dont love too much, cause they alwys love me more. |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by BecaciaBarbie(f): 8:26am On Apr 04, 2013 |
pak:I pirry you! |
Re: Signs To Show You Love Your Partner Too Much by preciousdemian(m): 9:20am On Apr 04, 2013 |
main u r absoluatly right Bravo main main u r absoluatly right Bravo main |
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