Dear Women,

First of all, we're sorry. We're sorry that although we look like men, we often act like boys. We're not even sure what it means to be men anymore. As we grow up, we learn that to be happy is to be self-indulgent and self-centered. We try to make enough money so that we can have the right TV with the right video games in the right home. We want to date you and maybe even marry you but we are scared to focus on someone else instead of ourselves. Isn't it sad that we see committing to you as a potential threat to our happiness instead of a wonderful opportunity?

Here's what we don't understand: True happiness comes from being true men. We think and act like boys who don't want their toys taken away. We look up to "role models" in the media who teach us to get as much gratification out of life as possible. We may claim to be spiritual, or even firm atheists, but pleasure is the god that we worship, whether we realize it or not. Unfortunately, women tend to be just another part of our hedonistic lifestyle. Please know this: True men won't treat you like an irritating obstacle or a sexual convenience.


A real man understands that women are to be cherished and treated with care and honor. He sees marriage as the opportunity to be a real-life superhero—he leaves behind his old identity and becomes a new person, dedicated to serving his wife and children. Although he will struggle at first, a true man who marries eventually understands that he can't fit through the narrow doorway to happiness if he tries to carry all of his toys with him. There is just enough room for him and his wife, arm in arm, committed to their marriage.

Women, you can help us become real men! Most importantly, we want to feel admired by you. Help us to know that you love us just as we are, even if there is room for improvement. Do this by giving us words of validation; praise us for the things we do well. This means more to us than we let on.

In return, we will make sure that you feel loved and cherished by us. We will learn to talk with you so you can be heard and understood, not so that we can tell you how to solve your problems. We'll also try to learn to express how we feel without withdrawing or getting angry. With polished communication we can learn that what makes you happy makes us happy too! What a concept!

Once again, we're sorry. We are to blame, even though good male role models are hard to find these days. We've ignored our calling to become true men and instead act like we're in high school for as long as we can. Please trust that we are capable of more than this.

If you are frustrated with the man in your life, do your best to forgive him and start fresh. After a while, if it's clear that he will not become a real man, leave him. You deserve better.

A healthy relationship will make everyone involved feel happy. When we are happy, we are capable of living meaningful and fulfilling lives alongside one another. Thank you for your understanding and patience as we journey onward to find happiness and become real men.

Sincerely,
Men



http://www.youbeauty.com/mind/columns/cloud-nine/letter-to-women-from-men?utm_source=disqus&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=Disqus%2B-%2BCPC%2BCampaign

reply from women:

[b]dear Men
dont be sorry, as we women are just as clueless as you are, if not worst. we look like women but you all have noticed that we act like little girls. we cry and throw tantrums for no damn reason and all what we want is to be with our daddy (aka men). identity wise, we are so lost that we have to put all this fake stuff (make up) on our face to be able to leave the house. we are so lost that we have to put fake nails, fake hair, fake bre.ast or push up bras and fake everything in order to attract you guys, so our live can finally have some meaning. we do all this for YOU, so pls go easy on judging the fake version of us. the problem is that most of us are a sore to the eye when "au naturel".we hate that person we see in the mirror every morning and thus we need to pretend to be someone else. we know we have an identity crisis, and we know that it is crazy to expect a man to marry a woman based on the fake identity that we (women) have adopted, but we are desperate. this is what our lives revolves around: to find a man, and we will use ALL THE TRICKS in the book to achieve it......so be warned!

we know we like to run our mouth and get you in trouble, but fear not, a good a.ss-whooping has never hurt anybody. so next time we run our mouth, let the person we insulted deal with us ACCORDINGLY! thats the only way we can learn.

we like to pretend, we are highly skilled in that art. we love sex but will pretend that we dont, until the koko enter our honey pot, from that moment on, we just lose our damn mind like animals in heat. we love to be submissive and under your thumbs, but we shout about independent women (thanks to beyonce) and women rights, but deep down we just love it when you tell us to shut the hell up, or control our every moves.we badly need the affection of men, their attention, their time and their care, but sadly, most times when a man gives us the time of the day, we pretend that we dont want it, while in fact we are so happy inside that a man has noticed us. isnt it sad that our whole lives and happiness lies in getting married with a man?!

we rarely know what we want and when we do, it is some flimsy stuff that is irrelevant to our lives. most of our fellow sistas have nothing to offer a man, and yet we want to act like the center of the world. we all know that we should be begging men to date us, let alone wanting to spend the rest of their lives with insane/jealous/erratic person such as a woman....... we know we are not of much use and thats why we have dedicated ourselves to simple duties such as cleaning/cooking/childbearing, or to take care of men who mostly do all the hard and important work in the union.....like bringing the cheddar, making sure we are SAFE, putting a roof over our head and most importantly give us money so that we can indulge in our favourite passtime: SHOPPING!

i can fully understand why men prefer to play the field rather than getting stuck with a confused person such as ourselves but, do find it in your hearts to settle with one of us. what would become of us women if ALL guys did "touch and go" with us (aka chop and clean mouth)? working to get our own finances has never been the plan!!!!

we know that many women are cunning, pretending to be holy but deep down they are jezebels. you see them in church at the front, singing louder than everyone else, but you men have been wise enough to see that this was just an act. yes many of these holier than thou women are ashis/run girls in their spare time but pls dont judge all of us because of the act of the majority....... out of every 1000 of us, you may find 10 that are good, and i want to take a stand for these 10 good ones.

last but not least, we know that the only thing that interest you is the coochie, and that they come a dime a dozen in this day and age, but if the toto is sweet enough, then pls find it in your heart to marry us. after a few years, when the toto loses its elasticity (and we have become whales due to childbearing), you can always find a second wife (there are many desperate women out there for that) and get yourself a NEW tight fresh and young toto to mount and parade with in the city......but keep the old wife by your side, for pity sake, as no other man would dare settle for some second hand busted out coochie, especially not today when most "desperate" 20-30yr olds are throwing totos at you guys like frisbees, in order to catch your attention.
yours truly
women[/b]

@OP, sorry for yourself.

@MrJAy, lmao@ 'second hand busted out coochie' and 'throwing toto at you guys like frisbees'

@Op, you have serious issues. Seek professional help.

MRbrownJAY: reply from women:

i can fully understand why men prefer to play the field rather than getting stuck with a confused person such as ourselves but, do find it in your hearts to settle with one of us. what would become of us women if ALL guys did "touch and go" with us (aka chop and clean mouth)? working to get our own finances has never been the plan!!!!

I guess we can only get what's within our reach, maybe wen u mature u might be able to find a good lady...wch for now is obviously way out of ur reach it takes a real men to find the right lady...clearly that's something u know nothing of

Lol orisirisi.permit me to laugh for 5 minutes op is this one remix or freestyle,nawa o this nairalanders ehen,una no go kill person.every day na battle of the sexes

mondi_cheeks: I guess we can only get what's within our reach, maybe wen u mature u might be able to find a good lady...wch for now is obviously way out of ur reach it takes a real men to find the right lady...clearly that's something u know nothing of

^^ and i suppose u're a ''right'' lady, right?

I find it extremely hilarious that a human being with all her brain function in order, could actually be standing somewhere right now - like some good on display in a supermarket - waiting for a ''real'' man to come ''shopping'' and discover her!

^you need to log off the internet, you're just all over the place like a bat, pouring out insults and contributing nothing of value.

give yourself a break, or go post in a blander section where you can pull yourself together.

^^ Oh ohh. Did i touch a nerve?

kay9:
^^ and i suppose u're a ''right'' lady, right?

I find it extremely hilarious that a human being with all her brain function in order, could actually be standing somewhere right now - like some good on display in a supermarket - waiting for a ''real'' man to come ''shopping'' and discover her!

Where in the hell is this coming from though

MBJ has lost it

^ im 100% sure that you are a female.

@ mrbrownjay hell yeah haha!

@ the OP, speak for yourself, i ain't sorry for shyte

pleep: ^ im 100% sure that you are a female.

@ mrbrownjay hell yeah haha!

@ the OP, speak for yourself, i ain't sorry for shyte

Words from the fingers of the brainless one.

How are you doing?

good, u?

Great

Mrbrownjay who made u a spokesman for women
I don't agree with half of that shit

queenofhearts: Mrbrownjay who made u a spokesman for women
I don't agree with half of that shit

You don't have to