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Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by esere826: 10:33am On Apr 22, 2013 |
mirob: You're so on point. I don see this thing tire 1 Like |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by esere826: 10:35am On Apr 22, 2013 |
Ishilove: This actually takes me to strategies to move a ladies 'value strata' from money to some other thing that I can better control |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by esere826: 10:39am On Apr 22, 2013 |
devour129: why do you people always feel Nigerian girls are different all everything is centered around money for us ? Please we love like any other woman around the world,we compromise,we step down so our partners can step up etc. I think you should change your crowd and your mentality and believe you will find your gem cos there are a lot of them under your nose but guys prefer in your face 40inches hair wearing and make up like juju girls. Nigerian girls like all other girls around the world fall in love The idea behind my writeup, is that love is largely quantifiable and can therefore be valued Within the brutish nature of the Nigerian society, it is only natural that love shares the same denomination as money 1 Like |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by An0nimus: 10:40am On Apr 22, 2013 |
Emotional Mathematics. Differentiation don already enter am 3 Likes |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by devour129: 10:45am On Apr 22, 2013 |
AjanleKoko:no mata how you want to analyze it or explain it away,there's nothing that comes without compromise . Use everything in your life as an example n you will be surprised how much you have comprised to get where you are today so why would love be different 1 Like |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by masterpiecer(m): 10:46am On Apr 22, 2013 |
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Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by blancason: 10:48am On Apr 22, 2013 |
esere826: Biko please tell us |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by masterpiecer(m): 10:51am On Apr 22, 2013 |
devour129: why do you people always feel Nigerian girls are different all everything is centered around money for us ? Please we love like any other woman around the world,we compromise,we step down so our partners can step up etc. I think you should change your crowd and your mentality and believe you will find your gem cos there are a lot of them under your nose but guys prefer in your face 40inches hair wearing and make up like juju girls. The reason why naija guys keep saying naija girls are money lovers is cos the ratio of gold diggers and real love is like 10:1, that is not to say al naija girls loves money made relationship but in every 10 relationship in naija, 9 are base on the financial status of the guy. How many naija girls will want to seat under a starry nite with you and count stars? She will ask u if she b father Abraham . Very pathetic like I said, its not as if there no real ones these days, but finding the real ones these days is like looking for a Nokia 3310 in these days of android smart fones, the thing hard like rock. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by AjanleKoko: 10:57am On Apr 22, 2013 |
devour129: no mata how you want to analyze it or explain it away,there's nothing that comes without compromise . Use everything in your life as an example n you will be surprised how much you have comprised to get where you are today so why would love be different If you love someone, how does compromise come into play? I need you to explain that abeg. |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by esere826: 11:06am On Apr 22, 2013 |
esere826: blancason: Assumption: For long term mating, you want to start nailing a particular 'class' of girls outside ur present laegue Steps include, but not limited to: Like everything else in life, it first requires planning and an acceptance of some false start Examine the kind of men they seem to like What is the gap between the guys and u? What can be changed, that you want to be changed to breach that gap for example type of education, type of company those guys hangout with etc Identify your target place her on the the scale i have prepared What do u have that is greater than what she has, and she aspires for accentuate such value *isolate her if need be. This reduces natural tendency to compare you with others Get into her mind and then redefine and shape her values to fit into urs She's all yours when you are through with this *isolation should not be taken literarily in this text 2 Likes |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by biolabee(m): 11:11am On Apr 22, 2013 |
An0nimus: Emotional Mathematics. Differentiation don already enter am I dey feel the guy As Dxx ladies tend to infinity with more money, cars and bling Dxy men look downwards to get more manageable subservient females Dyy men just wanna get a mistress and poke @Op I dey feel you again... making a societal dilemma fun while discussing serious ish this however is not limited only to nigerian males it can be extended even to black males in the US who are even less successful than their women generally Carry GOOO!! 1 Like |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by Nobody: 11:14am On Apr 22, 2013 |
esere826: Nice analysis @bolded, have u forgotten your biology? xx na male, xy na female. |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by biolabee(m): 11:17am On Apr 22, 2013 |
esere826: (Post 6) Sweet!! |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by esere826: 11:18am On Apr 22, 2013 |
mekula: Na lie XX na female while XY na male nas why men are scientifically held responsible for producing male (xy) or female (xx) children 4 Likes |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by rash47(m): 11:21am On Apr 22, 2013 |
[/b][b][b][/b] Money brings bitches, bitches bring life 1 Like |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by biolabee(m): 11:21am On Apr 22, 2013 |
esere826: pls dont spoil this lovely debate with arguments in genetics that is so but as a propounder of esere's theorem of social mating mobility among upwardly mobile black women you are free to use subscripts, superscripts, symbols as you see fit ish |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by FXKing2012(m): 11:49am On Apr 22, 2013 |
esere826:You are worth following on NL. 5 Likes |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by FXKing2012(m): 11:51am On Apr 22, 2013 |
esere826: (Post 6)Truth is real. |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by Nobody: 11:55am On Apr 22, 2013 |
supercolez: WITHOUT MONEY NOTHING CAN BE DONE.Sir shina Peters abi? " you can be mr.africa o, you can be mr.nigeria; without money, nothing can be done!" 2 Likes |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by cooljoe(m): 11:58am On Apr 22, 2013 |
Best thread eva on NL. Op, so on point, nd quite smart. Nd nice comments too, no silly comments nd arguments, no derailing, no garri comments, nice. Kip t coming. 1 Like |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by esere826: 12:33pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
masterpiecer: Excercise: 1) Why did Kate Middleton marry Prince Williams? (A) Love, (B) Money, (C) Power (D) Status (E) All of the above 2) Do yo think Prince Williams bothers thinking if Kate married him for any other reason apart from love? (A) He agonises about it (B) He doesnt, (C) He does, but does not care 3) Do rich blokes complain bitterly that girls are gold diggers? (A) Yes they do (B) No they dont (C) They hardly think about it 4) Do rich blokes have issues having girls stare into the stary night with them? (A) yes they do (B) No they dont (C) The girls do the complaining that these guys have no time to stare romantically with them at stars in the night 5) When you complain that girls are gold diggers, what male demography are you likely to be in? (A) Dxy (B) Dyy (C) (less than)< Dxy Collate Scores......................... Comments............................... 4 Likes |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by Nobody: 12:49pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
esere826: Oh! My bad! E don tey o! Na so I don forget reach? (picks up 'modern biology') |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by esere826: 12:53pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
mekula: O sorry sa I should have known that you are one of the > = Dyy demographic specie My apologies again sa |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by chronique(m): 1:00pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
Nice post op. I think a more explanatory reason why there's a dwindling pool of male lovers is this. 20-30 years ago,most of the high profile jobs and positions in most organisations were largely held by men but these days,it's almost evenly distributed amongst both sexes. This situation,leaves most qualified male candidates struggling with middle class jobs and unfortunately,they are also not too successful here as a large proportion of the middle class jobs are being handed over to the ladies. This means that a vast majority of the male folks are left to struggle for the "third class jobs"(meaning jobs with lower earnings). Take for example,a bank recruiting marketers would hire more ladies than men and often times,it's easier for the ladies to hit target faster than the men. If promotion is based on performance,then it's safe to say the ladies would move up higher faster than the guys which makes them more available at the higher positions. Some of the qualified guys who can't get these jobs end up as contract staffs,drivers,messengers,security men,etc. You'll easily find male master degree holders doing menial jobs than their female counterparts. Courtesy of the high paying jobs,the ladies tend to move up the social ladder faster than the guys. They move up to a level where the guys they desire,are less available just like you pointed out earlier with your "dyy" description. Because there are so many of them at this level and a vast majority are not open to the idea of climbing down the social ladder,it therefore makes it look like the available takers are minute in numbers. I think it's safe to say that until the jobs return back to the men,there would always be scarcity of available takers for these females and if this trend is not arrested or checked quickly,this pool might shrink till it goes into extinction. Simple way of testing this is by asking most men why they're not married and the answer they'll give is that they're not yet financially stable. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by esere826: 1:03pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
^^^ Nna me and you apparently have this in common: We no dey use woman matter play Chei!! see scientific analysis 4 Likes |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by Ishilove: 1:05pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
Chrisbenogor: Who is this extremely intelligent fellow?He's my toaster 1 Like |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by esere826: 1:18pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
Ishilove: you forgot to add .....And cofee maker 1 Like |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by IamAthens(m): 1:40pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
Ishilove: I totally agree with you. Who wants to date a brokeasss? He might cover your destiny with the spirit of poverty troubling himYou are a foooooooooolllll. Its eida u do ashawo or wait 4 dangote et al pikin 2 kip u as a mistres. No go wrk 4 ur moni dey dia dy wait 4 man. 1 Like |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by chronique(m): 1:50pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
esere826: ^^^ Hehehe... |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by esere826: 1:57pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
IamAthens: You are a foooooooooolllll. Its eida u do ashawo or wait 4 dangote et al pikin 2 kip u as a mistres. No go wrk 4 ur moni dey dia dy wait 4 man. Guy U need to curse intelligently on this thread using statistics and analysis otherwise u wld be considered as part of the undesirable and despicable male demographics So for example, U can rephrase ur insult to read something like this: U are apparently a member of the Dxx demography that the Op is writing about U have apparently also been dissed by the Sons of the rich like Dangote Frolicking with the Dyy class will only further constrain your oppurtunities and define u as a Pro*** etc ......Be WARNED 9 Likes |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by FXKing2012(m): 2:08pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
IamAthens: You are a foooooooooolllll. Its eida u do ashawo or wait 4 dangote et al pikin 2 kip u as a mistres. No go wrk 4 ur moni dey dia dy wait 4 man.Why the anger? 1 Like |
Re: The Dwindling Pool Of Male Lovers In Nigeria -Love Ain't Blind by esere826: 2:27pm On Apr 22, 2013 |
To avoid angry and unproductive outbursts let us quickly move to finding solutions to the malady afflicting our societal marital/mating structure and clear the backlog of unattached females in our society The preceeding narratives should be useful to both guys and gals I'll be using Pastor Paul Adefarasin as a case study and weighing his relationship against my model developed in Post #3 |
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