I’m confused here, and I desperately need an advice. They said these days so many things do not matter anymore. But if that’s true, then how come I feel the way I now do.

What really happened is this. I was at a get-together about two weeks ago. Ella, a good friend just arrived in the country. She had been abroad studying in the cold and lucky her – she finished with a distinction and her Dad decided to proudly celebrate his daughter’s achievement. Worth it, hmmm?

I had been called upon to be the chief organiser. I was ‘used’ to helping my good friend invite all her friends and to do all the ground work. It was an open secret type of party – she knew there was going to be a get-together but she didn’t know all the details.

Anyway on the d-day, guests started trickling in and before you knew it, the whole place was jam packed. And there were “his” and “hellos” everywhere across the room. Once in a while, you would hear voices (usually a female) give a loud hysterical scream on sighting an old friend. It was a mature party; I really liked the ambience.

After Ella’s dad gave the opening remark (in short flaunted his daughter), he declared the party open. He also called me out to acknowledge my input. I really felt good as my friend also came up to embrace and appreciate me before all the guests. Thereafter, I felt some “eyes” following me around the room.

Later that evening, this very handsome guy walked up to me and I must confess I instantly liked him. He really looked, talked and dressed responsibly. He kept my company for the remaining of the evening. We spoke somewhat familiarly; it was as though we had known each other forever. He made me laugh a lot during the evening; there was never a dull moment.

I thought to myself “he fits the image of ‘my right guy’. I’m willing to give this a chance.”

At the end of the evening, I was glad he asked for my contact details, which we exchanged. As we parted ways, he whispered, “let’s do this again”. I nodded and walked away.

My worry exactly is that I have since then not heard from him. Can you imagine that? It is two and a half weeks after!!!

I really would like to hear from him again but I don’t think it is appropriate to be the one to make the first move. A hundred and one reasons why I should or shouldn’t have bombarded my head since then; which leaves me further confused.

I really feel if I made an ‘impression’, he should have missed me enough to want to seek me out. Probably the feeling is just not mutual. God forbid what if I called and he pretends he has never heard my name before? I’m sure I won’t be able to stomach it; I will just die of embarrassment. I just think it is so, so unladylike, he will lose all the respect he has for the budding relationship. Or maybe he’s just a Casanova that has perfected the act of wooing ladies. Maybe to him I’m lost among the huge number of girls he has to deal with.

On the other hand, I feel what if he lost his phone after we parted? It is a possibility. Or maybe he fell ill. Or yet still, he might be very busy at work. Should a lady let a good man slip by because it’s unladylike to make the first move? In fact who sets the rule?

Please help, this silence is SUFFOCATING.
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i don't know ooo but i think its better to call and be embarrassed dan not to call and forever wonder ' wat if'.

u don't ve to ask him out on a date, just call, say hi dat u just wanted to check on him..well his response should tell u wat u need to know...just call.

I think i second gree-die

just call to say hi..it doesnt take anything out of you.

Anything could have happened.

If you never try..you'll never know.!