lynpetra: Less than 50% gave sound advice...the rest just dey abuse the babe anyhow

dsgirl: I'm back again with my serious need for advice.
I have been engaged for a while now and i have started planning my wedding which was to come up in October. The problem now is that I just broke up with my fiancée last night.
We had an argument over him betraying me. I told him about what my family is saying about the wedding arrangement and told him not to say anything to this parents yet because my family haven't concluded, that I was just filling him in to know how its going. After about a week he told me that he told his dad what I said. I got really upset saying we had an agreement, he was not suppose to go tell anyone without letting me know. Its not the fact that he told his dad that im mad at but the fact that I specifically begged him not to say anything to anyone yet and we agreed on it and now he went behind me to tell someone without talking to me first, that got me pissed. After a long argument for two days he said I should keep my words and not tell him anything any more. I got really upset and told him I was done with him, done with the wedding plans and that he should go to hell and I hung up.
He called back to confirm I meant with I said and when I would not repeat it, he called me a coward n bla bla bla and because I am not a coward, i told him that I meant everything I said, that we were done and over. He said he wished me well and he prayed that God would provide my own man for me
Now, he hasn't called and I have not called, not that im expecting him to call me because i know he wont, but my mind is so running marathon now, don't know what to do and that's why im here.
I have made reservations here and there, don't know if to go and collect my money back...(I have limited days to wait)
I haven't said anything to any member of my family because I really do not know what to say and how to say it so as not to look stupid
I want to call him but with all that is on ground, the arguments, misunderstanding over the phone i'm having double mind about this marriage already
one thing stands though, i love him, he has been the closest person to me and its hard to let go.

pls advise me.
I can give more info if you need.

lynpetra: "You are not a wife material..you are not matured
...you are foolish...you are selfish....self centered....egocentric....blah blah blah".mtcheeew.Some
MEN here get wife wey dey beat them sef..come here dey talk rawbitch.

Nobody is perfect!!!Advice or keep ur damned muth shut go abuse anoda man wife wey dey mannerless for d hubby front na make him ask u
weda u follow am pay bride price

tashanja:

The pot calling the kettle black, what have you done if not criticize and offer the OP nothing; how about advising her on what to do, given that she still loves the bf and by all indications wants the wedding to go ahead but without having to back down and lose face for sake of her bruised & inflated ego.

@OP:
I am inclined to go with eeewise's advice; get somebody your bf respects and would listen to e.g. from your family or church to intervene on your behalf.

aejaywhite: U r too immature to get married...give urself time to mature emotionally and always kip ur anger in check...

dsgirl: Thank you all for taking the time to say something to me about this. To the ones who constructively scolded me....God bless you. To those who advised me, I am very grateful; and to those who have insulted me....let he who is without a sin be the first to cast a stone.
I have read all the comments and I wish I can reply everyone individually,but I cant. The reason I came here was to ask for advice because I know that everyone would be able to say something that I would learn from. Majority of you are right, and I can really see myself in your comments.
I do not have any further justification for my action other than I was really upset and at that point in time, all I felt was "I don't care" because aside from the summary that I narrated, words were thrown back and forth, big grammars had been used to qualify each other here and there and the only way to relieve myself of that headache at that moment was to voice that out, which I regretted afterwards but did not know what to do after, hence my reason for seeking advice here, and I'm glad I got what I wanted. Thanks a lot. May your household not crumble.
Maybe if I had a friend to talk to, I would not be here to expose the story of my life. All the same, I will make amends for my own sake to better my life and will pray for guidance, maturity, wisdom, knowledge, selflessness,understanding,and everything that you all mentioned that I lack.
The fact that this is a LDR is in its own adding a whole lot of tension to the relationship.

2sexy.us:
Stop being sentimental... Life is hash and tough, it does not need your sentiments.., deal with it!

Those who say why insult, you must be a clown.

Look into the future and tell me if the OP is fit to give the guy in question a happy home?

From her reply below, it quite obvious she hasn't apologised to the guy yet but prefer to reel in sentimental defense over what people have said about her.

Truth is bitter and it hurts...

Let the guy be; he does not deserve someone like you! As far I am concerned, I cant date a hot tempered lady let alone marry her.

bodejohn:

Are you married?

2sexy.us:
NO!

dsgirl: I'm back again with my serious need for advice.
I have been engaged for a while now and i have started planning my wedding which was to come up in October. The problem now is that I just broke up with my fiancée last night.
We had an argument over him betraying me. I told him about what my family is saying about the wedding arrangement and told him not to say anything to this parents yet because my family haven't concluded, that I was just filling him in to know how its going. After about a week he told me that he told his dad what I said. I got really upset saying we had an agreement, he was not suppose to go tell anyone without letting me know. Its not the fact that he told his dad that im mad at but the fact that I specifically begged him not to say anything to anyone yet and we agreed on it and now he went behind me to tell someone without talking to me first, that got me pissed. After a long argument for two days he said I should keep my words and not tell him anything any more. I got really upset and told him I was done with him, done with the wedding plans and that he should go to hell and I hung up.
He called back to confirm I meant with I said and when I would not repeat it, he called me a coward n bla bla bla and because I am not a coward, i told him that I meant everything I said, that we were done and over. He said he wished me well and he prayed that God would provide my own man for me
Now, he hasn't called and I have not called, not that im expecting him to call me because i know he wont, but my mind is so running marathon now, don't know what to do and that's why im here.
I have made reservations here and there, don't know if to go and collect my money back...(I have limited days to wait)
I haven't said anything to any member of my family because I really do not know what to say and how to say it so as not to look stupid
I want to call him but with all that is on ground, the arguments, misunderstanding over the phone i'm having double mind about this marriage already
one thing stands though, i love him, he has been the closest person to me and its hard to let go.

pls advise me.
I can give more info if you need.

Mr Cork London:

..the main info without disclosin the original info & the real info so we can analise the simple info!

[size=38pt]ROTFLMFAOOO [/size]

dsgirl: @obyrich... I understand u. I thought was that he should have at least let me know he was going to discuss it. I know it was not enof reason to call it off but I was upset when he said I should keep my words to myself and not tell him anything any more, he knows communication with him is a big deal for me and I couldn't believe he said that and he repeated it. I was angry. and u are also right, maybe im not mature enof for marriage....lol

@carmelion: Thank you, i appreciate it. I thought about everything u said and u are right for most part. I just wanted everything to be perfect before we get married, it was before, but now.....
what if it was other issues and i told him in trust not to reveal to the next person, how do i trust that he wont. Thats my fear and instead of him to admit he was wrong to have done that, he said to keep my words to myself next time. that doesn't seem right to me.

@ralfo85....thank you

stpat1:

You seem to have a lot of secrets that you are scared he might spill. Lol

2sexy.us:
NO!

bodejohn:

I thought as much....