Tashamania:

Nobody is criticizing anyone here. And I'll demand that the MODs of this section ban anyone who even tries to do that, seriously. We or rather, some of us here are just saying how we feel about the whole issue, just the way you could be saying something different from anyone else here.

So, stop trying to accuse any one of criticism. Please!

Acidosis: How about those 'poor' parents that give birth to 12 children? 8 girls & 4 boys.
Dad is no more.
Mum a trader (sells groundnut).

Tashamania:


Believe me, i understand the circumstances that might surround the families of those who send their kids out.
But, I still stand up to the fact that sending these kids out isnt the best, not even to be counted.
These people we send our kids to would never train these kids or see these kids as you do. These kids can only enjoy parental love only when they are with their parents and that is what matters. I'm not saying that there arent very few good ones out there, all i'm saying is that no one can ever represent the role of a family in a childs' life except their rightful parents. No one can ever be like you. I'd rather eat stones and get maltreated or even beg for alms than giving out kids to other people to do for me. These are kids we are talking about here, kids!

I'm condemning nobody, just stating the obtainable. You might wanna refer to this previous post of mine for further details and to avoid repitition

Rukemi291:

Sincerely, i know an akara seller that has 8 children in French curve manner. Unfortunately, they are all so dull academically BUT very beautiful and handsome. They all go to school with their torn and very dirty uniforms.

I am sure whenever an opportunity for a 'better life' in form of boy-boy or girl-girl springs up, their parents will gladly release them.

debosky:

we should focus on stopping people having more kids than they can cope with - that's the only long term solution.

biolabee: @ItsModella excellent posts!
Its easy to be an armchair critic but how many of us have even been to the SOS Village in Isolo to do our bit for the less privileged

debosky:
I'm sure parents know the kids are their responsibility, but if they can't afford to take care of them, talking of responsibility at that point is medicine after death.

If the parents are unable to take care of the kids, then what? Like I said earlier, we should focus on stopping people having more kids than they can cope with - that's the only long term solution.

candygosh:

I so shook my head when I read this

To be honest I dnt have to be in isolo before I could give a token of my love.

coogar:

you are a hypocrite....
focus on stopping people having more kids and yet you are against abortion. focus on stopping people having more kids and yet you patronise these children hawking wares on the street thus contributing your own quota of child abuse.

what rights have you got to speak against the parents sending their kids to work as maids when your money is what motivates these parents to push their kids to work in the first place? you are as guilty as the parents. when one was the last time you refused to buy pure water from a child in lagos?

you people need some soul searching - every nigerian is guilty!

biolabee:

Of course that much is clear
The point is that house girl youve seen maltreated what have we done to provide succour
That boy that needs 5k to complete his SSCE examination have we helped

Even here on NL, how many of us supported the TeHN drives

It is not about candy so calm down

No parent wants to send his child to any to care for
Economic realities determine otherwise
Dont forget Filipinos and Indonesians also go to Saudi to work
Do they like the holy land so much


calm down...

biolabee:

Instead of Abortion read birth control
If family planning methods and techniques are ubiquitous, the number of children being born will reduce also hence NGOs are working hard in various indigent communities with mothers to teach birth control

However generally some die hard guys believe children are a store of wealth and are against family planning
If I no get money like rich man, I go get pikin pass am LOL.

biolabee:

Of course that much is clear
The point is that house girl youve seen maltreated what have we done to provide succour
That boy that needs 5k to complete his SSCE examination have we helped

Even here on NL, how many of us supported the TeHN drives

It is not about candy so calm down

No parent wants to send his child to any to care for
Economic realities determine otherwise
Dont forget Filipinos and Indonesians also go to Saudi to work
Do they like the holy land so much


calm down...

candygosh:

Lol am not high!

If u must know, I do my best to make this kids feel loved.
I drop by these homes and do the little I can.
I waas even plannin this year july on my birthday. I specially wannaa share it with them, tho its goin to be my first birthday attempt aat doin such

So also I believe most nlders here do their own quota too... That doesn't mean we should ignore some vital things.

Other families have been through much worse and still do not send off their wards.

Take the ccase of my coursemate. She sees herself tru skool by doin petty jobs, she's not shy to walk up to the computer centre in skool to ask the owner if she could type on weekends to earn stuffs to take care of herself.
Her parents are trying to make sure they all get educated but situations have been tough.
If for one thing I commend her parents, its for the fact that she waas not sent off to stay with anyone in bid to earn money.

biolabee:
Instead of Abortion read birth control
If family planning methods and techniques are ubiquitous, the number of children being born will reduce also hence NGOs are working hard in various indigent communities with mothers to teach birth control

However generally some die hard guys believe children are a store of wealth and are against family planning
If I no get money like rich man, I go get pikin pass am LOL.

coogar:

how many rural women have access to birth control pills? the ones who have access to pills don't even take medicine because of their staunch religious beliefs. some women don't like birth control pills cos they are scared of the side effects. this is nigeria not texas!



the pertinent question remains - if we nigerians don't patronise these kids, the parents won't have anywhere to send them. if every nigerian refuses to accept the services of any child that should be in school studying, there would be no motivation from the parents to send them out to work.

i reiterate, every nigerian is guilty including the useless NGOs!

ItsModella:
GBAM GBAM GBAM!! Birth control, family planning. Those are things that need awareness especially from those in the lower class.

At the highlighted, na those ones dey find girl pikin pass. They believe they can make enough money off their marriage..bride price et al.

candygosh: Mods its time to push this to fp
Enough of tonto dikeh drink garri et al
Let's get more views on this

Tashamania:

LMAO@ Tonto Dikeh drinks garri.
Abi, let's have new ideas.
Enough of the same word going round and round already. We need different views on this