Yvete: Just curious to know if anyone has done this?

The idea is, just as you offer your first fruit of labor to God, likewise it is encouraged, not mandatory to offer your wedding night as a first fruit of marriage. Basically, a newly wedded couple should abstain from intimacy on their wedding night and instead spend the night singing praises, and giving thanks in prayer.

My pastors wife encouraged this "oath" or "offering" at pre-marital class. Although, some guys were straight up honest, " NO!". They weren't smiling. I think its a good way to start off married life (to pray against mis-fortunes, to pray for unborn children, ...etc). "Bring the best of the first fruits of your soil to the house of the Lord your God" (Ex. 23:19). Has anyone ever pledged to do this?

I.Joan:
You guys should be tired from the hustle and bustle of the wedding , so why not relax that night with praise and worship songs , then do whatever you want to do the next morning !

You should have been praying since courtship started, right?

lola.luv:
Its not too big a price to pay. After all, the rest of your lives is before you.

I know women could do this. But some men are just too impatient.

Two of my friends got married as virgins. One's husband let her be for about a week, while the other's husband went to get lube that same night.
At the end of the day, different strokes for different folks.

Ishilove: You can do the both if you have the energy. After some serious, spirit filled praise, worship and prayers, you move to the holy, gangster consummation chap chap!

Reference:

Morning Ishi, how's this sunday shaping.

Reference: Stop bringing emotion into Christianity. There is a reason Jesus came and died for us. To put an end to these so called sacrifices that He detests.

You can NEVER impress God. No man can. You are saved by GRACE not by works so that you cannot accuse God tomorrow and lower Him to your standards.

Stop all these performance based religious doctrines that get you no where. God ONLY honours HIS WORD. Has the word said so. Have you been specifically asked by God for that sacrifice because God will only honour/reward obedience not feelings or assumptions.

kkulaja: Definitely good xtians when newly joined together should not forego taking sometime out even in their tiredness to praise God and thank him for the success of the wedding,But when you call abstinence after wedding "Giving 1st fruit"then I think there is a misinterpretation somewhere,cos I see no 1st fruit anywhere unless the pastor tells you to bring your wife to stay the night with him,then I can understand the meaning of 1st fruit.I hope with time they won't discover the wisdom of the wife giving the pastor her 1st fruit.I'm only thinking of the mystery behind absitinence on wedding night as 1st fruit sacrifice,who is then having the 1st fruit?maybe the pastor should have used another word like advice them to pray thru D nite rather than term it as givin of 1st fruit in marriage cos if its starts now later fit be pastor food
God forgive me if I said wrong,

Yvete: Just curious to know if anyone has done this?

The idea is, just as you offer your first fruit of labor to God, likewise it is encouraged, not mandatory to offer your wedding night as a first fruit of marriage. Basically, a newly wedded couple should abstain from intimacy on their wedding night and instead spend the night singing praises, and giving thanks in prayer.

My pastors wife encouraged this "oath" or "offering" at pre-marital class. Although, some guys were straight up honest, " NO!". They weren't smiling. I think its a good way to start off married life (to pray against mis-fortunes, to pray for unborn children, ...etc). "Bring the best of the first fruits of your soil to the house of the Lord your God" (Ex. 23:19). Has anyone ever pledged to do this?

scobaba:

Rezzy has a 'daddy'.

supaeagles:
I hope the 1st husband was not knacking the house girl during that week oh !

Ishilove:
Morning Reference. I'm a walking mass of aches this fine sunday morning but the Lord be praised!

Ishilove:
Morning Reference. I'm a walking mass of aches this fine sunday morning but the Lord be praised!

vuduchild: i need a virgin too lola. If you can boast of having two virgins as friends..i think u still have more..lol. Abeg i dey wait for your reeponse ooo