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Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by Toks2008(m): 8:28pm On May 06, 2013 |
coputa: Courtship is a period when both partners pretend to be a nice and better person....they try to outdo one another in the game of deceit.....after marriage they begin to show the monster in them.....marriage is meant to complement one another,tolerance and making amends.... It depends on the duration of courtship. I recommend minimum of 3years. It will be very hard to pretend for this long especially when you both spend ample time together and not funny unrealistic far distant affair. |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by ProfOwah(m): 8:39pm On May 06, 2013 |
congratulations on ur wounderful piece, u v done great xploits my friend. |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by coputa(m): 8:56pm On May 06, 2013 |
Long courtship will actually help one to know his/her partner better..but long courtship dont always end in marriage,probably due to the fact that they 've seen their shortcomings..,marriage is fast when both partners are daydreaming lol,...that is,they are in fantasy land.. 2 Likes |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by biafranqueen: 8:57pm On May 06, 2013 |
Very well written. I have been happily married over 10 years and must say the OP hit it on the nail! |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by mollie12: 9:14pm On May 06, 2013 |
OP, give honor to whom honor is due. Plagiarism, in any format, is a crime. Please ensure you credit the author of any article when you copy and paste write ups. The original author, and her other works, can be found here: www.meetifesinachi.com |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by Durchmann(m): 9:20pm On May 06, 2013 |
Toks2008:Nicely said. However, the "bulge" thing might not last forever for you. Anyway, i still repeat that my wife doesn't act like one I should go back to. I also want to live long and not die of high blood pressure. Thanks anyway for your advice. 1 Like |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by Durchmann(m): 9:20pm On May 06, 2013 |
Toks2008:Nicely said. However, the "bulge" thing might not last forever for you. Anyway, i still repeat that my wife doesn't act like one I should go back to. I also want to live long and not die of high blood pressure. Thanks anyway for your advice. |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by Durchmann(m): 9:22pm On May 06, 2013 |
Toks2008:Nicely said. However, the "bulge" thing might not last forever for you. Anyway, i still repeat that my wife doesn't act like one I should go back to. I also want to live long and not die of high blood pressure. Thanks anyway for your advice. |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by HARDDON: 9:42pm On May 06, 2013 |
zizman: Marriage is the dream of every woman, and every man. Finding a good partner, for life, is like finding your divine blessing, that can last you for a lifetime. A tear in мч eyes with no fear in мч heart Come rain Come shine We will whither the wild Come now i pray thee Let us in time trail no more Мч melting mozzarella |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by mkoabiola: 11:26pm On May 06, 2013 |
Crap |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by nicflame(m): 11:39pm On May 06, 2013 |
50calibre: This is one of the worst threads I've seen, it's jam packed, no paragraphs or spacing.have we talked about a cane before? Mshew... Mr. English guru |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by Missonas(f): 11:59pm On May 06, 2013 |
Toks2008:p Datz nt all true.u spend a life time knowing someone.humans are unpredictable!u can jst learn 2keep living and loving 1 Like |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by nbright: 12:05am On May 07, 2013 |
salt 1:Pls let's try not to confuse someone here even though we meant him/her good. You can't just forgive an unrepentant person, let him/her show remorse for his/her deeds then you consider if you will forgive and for you to completely forgive you have to forget which is very hard that also means you haven't forgiven your offender if you don't forget. Mr. Man, many posters asking you to forgive will also turn against you if they read something like this in the papers or on net "man kills wife", they will be the first to say.. "men are beast", "why are men so wicked" etc... Guy if you know divorce will bring you peace and rest of mind, do it but think twuce before you do it.. Think of the kids, think of how it will be in the long term, you might see a lady that you like and want to marry again but she won't like the kids (she might want her son to be the first) so she might try to fatally harm the kids... But in anything/action you want to take, remember don't do/go about it in a violent way.. 1 Like |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by Excel30: 8:21am On May 07, 2013 |
marrying the wrong person means wanting to endure plenty nonsense. 1 Like |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by Durchmann(m): 8:49am On May 07, 2013 |
nbright: Pls let's try not to confuse someone here even though we meant him/her good. You can't just forgive an unrepentant person, let him/her show remorse for his/her deeds then you consider if you will forgive and for you to completely forgive you have to forget which is very hard that also means you haven't forgiven your offender if you don't forget. Mr. Man, many posters asking you to forgive will also turn against you if they read something like this in the papers or on net "man kills wife", they will be the first to say.. "men are beast", "why are men so wicked" etc... Guy if you know divorce will bring you peace and rest of mind, do it but think twuce before you do it.. Think of the kids, think of how it will be in the long term, you might see a lady that you like and want to marry again but she won't like the kids (she might want her son to be the first) so she might try to fatally harm the kids... But in anything/action you want to take, remember don't do/go about it in a violent way..Thanks bro. At least you understand my point. I don't want violence either. Funny enough, i still try to figure out why i married her when i did but recent events don't let me see reasons. I'm even scared that if i try to follow most folks advice here and get back to her, she might still go ahead to fool me again. Its happened a lot of times. That's my pain. 1 Like |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by Aigbehis(m): 8:59am On May 07, 2013 |
50calibre: This is one of the worst threads I've seen, it's jam packed, no paragraphs or spacing. Is clear that u have never been to school. Idiot! Posting rubbish comment on a beautiful and educating post like dis. I can sees this topic Ȋ̝̊̅§ too mature for a myopic non-entity like u.Does ur illiterate fathers knows wat is paragraph? Guy no let ♍Ƹ̴ vex 4u o. Stop am o, block head. |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by Emoska(m): 9:20am On May 07, 2013 |
The best post so far on nairaland.. You are blessed already. |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by Jencejyde(m): 11:11am On May 07, 2013 |
Not a great fan of going all over the threads on NL...but this one was quite exquisite...Well done op!! |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by Figoinc(m): 11:35am On May 07, 2013 |
Zizman, pls it will be nice if u can give credit to the person who wrote this article or the website from which it was taken from. Ofcourse, it's nice to share but it's wrong to take one's work as yours. Keep sharing. |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by SoaringSammy: 12:30pm On May 07, 2013 |
In the midst of all these life threatening realities, does one need as big as PROPHET SAMUEL OR ELIJAH to let him/er know that God is the answer. People, 1st things first, if you get God , it will be easier for you to get the right man or woman 1 Like |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by emmadejust(m): 1:42pm On May 07, 2013 |
i pray those that are in a marriage wil inspires us wit a better livin nd gud temperament response to any marriage chalenge..my neigbours here nt to copy in terms of lovin n carin home. |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by okwele1(f): 2:14pm On May 07, 2013 |
great piece, nice one |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by VULCAN(m): 5:39pm On May 07, 2013 |
@Durchmann As is the norm with the average nyja they thrive on hypocrisy. Most of the people screaming "forgive forgive" are holding grudges against at least 5 people and at least one of those 5 grudges is more than 5 years old. None have given you a practical technology on how to forgive. Na by mouth! Having said this; Divorce is a dark path. Its no joke. Aside from her saying the boy is not yours you havent said anything that most men are not experiencing in their homes so till you shed more light on your case I will say that is more of the norm than an aberration.The modern day life is one that places a primary importance on financial stability and most nigerian women are brought up to be dependent on a man. Few black wives mistreat a rich and successful husband. Please take the boy for DNA test as a first step as no woman in her right mind would joke about such a weighty matter. Im not a mindreader but for her to say that and coupled with her constant harrassment it appears she has built up a great deal of resentment against you. Perhaps she wanted to marry the father of the child(if it turns out the boy is not yours) but was unable. She definitely sounds like a woman whose heart is fixed outside. After the DNA test(hopefully the boy is yours) you should sit her down for a last ditch effort. If after that discussion she decides to maintain her trajectory then you call in a matured mind from her family. If no dice then you initiate moves for trial separation. Four months is long enough for her to decide if she wants to continue in her ways or amend. Pls note i am making a lot of assumptions here- from the calm way you sound I'm believing that you are the victim. It would be a shame if we later find out that you are the monster. Its only if after the four months trial separation that she remains intransigent that one should talk of divorce- not before. Pls note that spiritual counselling throughout all this is a very important requirement. Prayers coupled with meditating on the Scriptures will yield great dividends. 1 Like |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by Durchmann(m): 8:57pm On May 07, 2013 |
VULCAN: @DurchmannThanks bro... Your advice is very direct and practical. I'll give it a serious consideration. Thanks again. |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by Highjayklm(f): 9:03pm On May 07, 2013 |
Couldn't but save this article, makes sense. God help me with my marriage, promise i'll give it all i'v got. |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by tofeenab(m): 10:56pm On May 07, 2013 |
[color=#770077][/color]Have a lot 2 say abt dis topic but i guess i should just make dis comment in summary. 1. Marriage is to be enjoyed not endured! 2. Marriage challenges are usually specific in nature. Meaning that though there are 1derful counsels profered for tackling issues raised, it still boils down 2 d fact dat, d paries involved have 2 b matured enough 2 find a meetin point. 3. Friendship is the basic tonic dat vitalises a marriage. It den follows dat if a marriage is based on d "exterior" rather dan d "interior", there is bound 2 b a crack which most often lead 2 a seperation endind up in divorce! "Exterior" meanin what u c (beauty) & "interior" meanin wat come out (character). 4. Marriage is 4 matured minds! Maturity is not measured by age though. Maturity comes from wat u have been exposed to in ones life journeys. That is y u can hav a 25yr old being more matured dan a 40yr old. Guess we should chew on d above points. Maybe, just maybe we will hav a better marriage. Thats d way i c it. |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by ManOfThePeople(m): 2:30am On May 09, 2013 |
esn1:. As long as no serial adultery was involved, then reconciliation is good as gold! |
Re: Things Married People Wont Tell You About Marriage by mojysiola(f): 6:55am On Jan 05, 2015 |
bad mouth... write yours n let's see... learn to appreciate people . 50calibre: |
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