Marriage is the dream of every woman, and every man. Finding a good partner, for life, is like finding your divine blessing, that can last you for a lifetime.

In this part of the world, we are more idealists than realists. If we face setbacks in our businesses, we are always comfortable with reciting the famous words: “it is well”. If rain soaks you on the way to the office, it’s “showers of blessings” and a promotion is probably on the way. If our right palm itches, it means some long lost relative will send cash soon.

It is no wonder that for many ladies, marriage seems to be the escape route from society’s pressures. Many of us fantasize, dream or even start planning a wedding before meeting “the right one”. Worse still, the romantic movies of heroes falling in love with less than perfect women and sweeping them off their feet in a proposal at the airport, add fuel to our flame of fantasy.

The truth is: idealism is great, but the idealist never knows what to do when the real situation hits hard like a deadly punch from a wrestler’s fist.

The Most Glamorous Part Of A Marriage Is The Wedding
A gorgeous cake, fresh flowers, wedding gown by Vera Wang, the exotic honeymoon, the paparazzi – all these come into play at the wedding. From the moment the bride wakes up on her wedding day to the moment she spends her first official night as a married woman, she feels on top of the world. Too bad, the party can’t last forever.

When you see an elderly couple retaking their marriage vows, with tears in their eyes, please note that those tears are not just tears of happiness; there are tears of a story well told – of joy, pain, courage, sadness and victory against all odds. If you’re not ready to deal with these, it’s not a sin to wait a little. Marriage is hard work and sacrifice.

The Word ‘Sacrifice’ Will Suddenly Come Up More Often In Your Dictionary
This word, we all dread – sacrifice. From the first day, you would find out that you may have to place the needs of others before yours, and if you are blessed with children, get ready for more sacrifices.

Will there be times you wish you were single? Yes! Will there be times you wish for one minute to yourself? Definitely! If given the opportunity, would you do it all over again? For most people, YES – especially if you are with the right person.

Marriage Is Not For Pretenses Or Show-Off
Whether you cook with diamonds in your Egusi soup, or look like a goddess, or even know a thousand styles in bed, a man always knows to whom his heart belongs. The meaning is simple: Be yourself before marriage, and don’t try to portray what you are not.

Let him fall in love with the essence of you, not with an image you have created. It’s difficult to fall out of such love, except either of you change sometime during the marriage.

You Never Really Know A Man/Woman Until You Get Married
Forget that you two lived in the same house for a few years before marriage, as far as there is no contract binding the two of you together in matrimony, you have not started.

People tend to let down their hair when they are married, and like an onion, the real us we have kept to ourselves start to unravel. The only thing to do is adjust and move on – you’re in it for real this time.

Marriage Is Team Work
Like a job, if you like team work, this role is for you. Just kidding. What I am saying here is that if you don’t work together as a team, you are heading for a major disaster. The unfortunate thing is that you can’t control the other person’s mind, and vice versa.

So, one just has to respect the other person’s boundaries, and it’s difficult if both of you are always bent on having your way.

Like A Rollercoaster, There Are Ups And Downs
Don’t think that in marriage, every day will be a holiday. You are kidding yourself. In fact, the most ecstatic moments in marriage come after a low period. Like every good story, you will be faced with challenges and tests.

Even if you fail one, life will give you an opportunity to repeat the test. But when you pass one, the rewards are priceless.

Marriage Is The Ultimate Gamble
Sometimes, marriage leads to happily ever after. Sometimes, it doesn’t. All is fair in love and war. If it doesn’t, dust your feet, learn from past mistakes, and start painting a rosy future without giving in to society’s pressures.

Many times, society looks down on divorced women. We are quick to point fingers that it is a woman’s fault that things did not work out. The fact is, it could be anybody’s fault. Either man or woman.

In the end, marriage is about two selfless people living together to achieve each other’s goals. If you find the right person to make that sacrifice with you, you are extremely lucky.

thanks for this may God bless you.

A great piece!

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Nice piece!

This is one of the worst threads I've seen, it's jam packed, no paragraphs or spacing.

Next time arrange your post in bullet points or paragraph, it makes it easier to read. I feel like giving you 24 lashes of the cane.

I thought I was the only one who noticed

nice.

Well done! U just hit d nail directly on d hammer

Good write up.

50calibre: This is one of the worst threads I've seen, it's jam packed, no paragraphs or spacing.

Next time arrange your post in bullet points or paragraph, it makes it easier to read. I feel like giving you 24 lashes of the cane.

shame on u

I agree with most of the points raised

Really, y'all didn't have parents before you got married?

[color=#006600][/color] eh eeh next time find fometin lucrative

Thanks i needed this now

50calibre: This is one of the worst threads I've seen, it's jam packed, no paragraphs or spacing.

Next time arrange your post in bullet points or paragraph, it makes it easier to read. I feel like giving you 24 lashes of the cane.

Over Sabi, you have not heard of Block style, his headings took care of the paragraphs, oga give yourself 48 strokes for ur idiocy.

For a lot of people, it's about the Wedding and not the Marriage.

NICE! I just hope others can get the real message in this piece of yours.
It will save them a whole lot of time and resources...

Nice write up. Like seriously, why do people change after marriage?is it natural? Just curious.

Summary:
Your marriage can make you or will mar you.
Don't rush into one cos it is not bed of roses.

Gud write up

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remecy: Nice write up. Like seriously, why do people change after marriage?is it natural? Just curious.

They don't change. There were just pretending before the marriage. Marriage brings out people's true colors.

50calibre: This is one of the worst threads I've seen, it's jam packed, no paragraphs or spacing.

Next time arrange your post in bullet points or paragraph, it makes it easier to read. I feel like giving you 24 lashes of the cane.

*brings out a horse whip, then gives him 10 lashes*

Durchmann: NICE! You make think about calling my wife back even though i've settled for a divorce already.
Anyway, my mind is made up. I just hope others can get the real message in this piece of yours.
It will save them a whole lot of time and resources...

Please call her up, there's something called reconciliation and forgiveness.

This is one of the best piece ive read on Nairaland. Truf is all u written.

Don't agree with you. For the fact that you gave it a little thought means your mind is not made up. Unforgiveness is the only thing that can lead to divorce. If you cannot find a place in your heart to forgive someone you claimed to love, tell me how you can forgive anyother. Unless you do not plan to go into another, then you will find out its all the same. Only if there is a threat to life at least you can start with separation to see if things can be sorted out. The cost of divorce is huge especially where children are involved, their hearts are broken.

Durchmann: NICE! You make think about calling my wife back even though i've settled for a divorce already.
Anyway, my mind is made up. I just hope others can get the real message in this piece of yours.
It will save them a whole lot of time and resources...