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Re: Would U continue being nice to girls inspite of these? by kalmebad(f): 1:25pm On Apr 24, 2008
@Poster

We can't stop being who God has made us to be. God gave u a good heart so don’t stop at it if you ask me, Being nice does not make u a weak man as most are speaking.
Unfortunately u missed the two girls u really love, in the midst of what u shared with them, did u ever show any intention of life time commitment?? That could be a reason, if you didn't show and they walked out, then a mistake on your own part as you don't expect them to read your mind. No one is a mind reader. And incase you did, well it only shows they were never meant for you, so be patient upon God and the best will come your way.

About letting her sleep while in town, I can't frown at that. A FRIEND IN NEED IS ALWAYS A FRIEND INDEED. Friends are not only for good times, if she is a good girl, i bet she will never forget your goodness 2m. She might also be in a position to render one to you someday.

Finally, well some girl/guys i bet don't appreciate so much of a weak partner, I don't if u ask me, weak in the sense that u cant stood your ground in decisions where necessary not just over ruling things ok. But a man has to be a man, be firm, we are meant to be under and not on top.

Don’t stop to be who your are but only learn to apply caution sometimes. Best of luck
Re: Would U continue being nice to girls inspite of these? by dutchmillionaire(m): 9:48pm On Apr 24, 2008
Well,I pray to catch up with the right one soon.maybe those are not meant 4 me and that was the best way to take them away from my thinking faculty.They have really taught me lessons which need make me stronger,but some women don't really know what they want.They don't know good thing when it crosses their way.
Re: Would U continue being nice to girls inspite of these? by frank316(m): 2:49pm On Apr 25, 2008
dutchmillionaire:

,but some women don't really know what they want.They don't know good thing when it crosses their way.


@poster
this is not true, most women know what they want and that is why no matter how nice you are to them they still dont feel you if you are not what they want (at that moment)

please dont ever make the mistake of thinking being nice makes you a good choice for women, or being nice will get you a girl

being nice does not make you a man, but being a man makes you a nice guy
Re: Would U continue being nice to girls inspite of these? by Jean2(m): 6:46pm On Apr 25, 2008
Dutch millionaire you are not alone. I believe it is strenght of character not trying to be like any other man.
Re: Would U continue being nice to girls inspite of these? by 4Play(m): 8:34pm On Apr 25, 2008
@OP

What a load of bullocks!
Re: Would U continue being nice to girls inspite of these? by SleekReek(m): 8:03pm On Apr 11, 2010
The key word is balance,when a lady says you nice to a fault what she is saying is not for you to be cruel but to act like a man and be stern.Some ladies have misplaced priorities,they want a tough guy then later in marriage you want a coochie! coochie! coo!kind of guy grin,no way babe,what you asked for is what you get,men don't just change.Ask for a guy who is balanced who can really be nice and loving,yet stern and disciplined to curb your excesses as a lady,if you behave like a man,she behaves more like a lady,that's her desire.

Dear poster,you acted like a gentleman by not sleeping with her and she now terms it as that you are soft,maybe she wanted you to force her then she will tell you,your the man,my guy nothing absolutely nothing is wrong with you,that lady has some issues,let her be.Please please be yourself,there is a sweet young lady out there looking for a guy just like you,if you change she may not recognize you ooh! wink You attract who you are so be warned.Take care.
Re: Would U continue being nice to girls inspite of these? by ajanuke23: 8:52pm On Apr 11, 2010
@poster o! Man don't sme1 is cmin to luv ur nice person in u she sleepin on da same bed wth u luv she need's ur intimacy dat why if it is true sh3's travellin abroad 4 anotherman OR nut true definitely she is only teasen u cus a woman sleepin on same bed with a man she say's did't luv is false forktails my dear broda continue 2b nice don't mind dem sme ladies nd guys lyke u bro
Re: Would U continue being nice to girls inspite of these? by hollandis(f): 9:11pm On Apr 11, 2010
All these Nigerian girls hates ''nice guys'' is a silly theory.I wonder where people devised this mentality from
Re: Would U continue being nice to girls inspite of these? by Princek12(m): 9:53pm On Apr 11, 2010
Poster,
I sympathize with you for being Mr. nice guy to a fault. All I have to say is that never seek advice on how to date girls from all these girls on Nairaland, for they will tell you to be a wuss till you find someone who will love you for you. While you may find someone who will love you for you, the person who will love you will probably be an ugly, unattractive girl who has been rejected by many, all because you are not being a man who takes charge and gives directions and says no when necessary.

If you want to approach and attract quality, stop being nice, especially to girls who sleep in your bed without giving up the goodies. Just like that girl sleeps in your bed without giving up the goodies, if any other girl sleeps in your bed and refuses to surrender the goodies after several failed attempts at entering the goodies, kick her out from your house at night and tell her never to come back. Trust me, she will be so attracted you thereafter that she will voluntarily come back and offer the goodies to you, for she will be shocked that you had the "balls" to kick her out of the house, a situation she may not have undergone in her life.

If you like, you take advise from all these chicks, for they will lead you astray. Girls, many of whom are patently notorious for claiming that they espouse a particular behavior while they show a negative response to the behavior they claim to espouse,  can never advise you accurately on how to pursue girls since girls are generally preys, not the predators, and, as a result, lack the inherently assertive masculine mentality that qualifies a person to recommend a course of action that will effectively decode the nebulous behavior of women, and which will result in attracting the women you desire.

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Re: Would U continue being nice to girls inspite of these? by bluespice(f): 9:58pm On Apr 11, 2010
proo212:

@Dutchmillionaire

Not to rehash what Blackman said but never take dating advice on how to get a woman from a woman, No no no no. They will advice you on the perfect scenario they would like. They probably will argue that they are women, so they know what works, (in this case, for them in an ideal world) but when was the last time they had to ask a girl out? The last time i checked, the guys had to ask a girl out. The guys giving you advice are not asking you to be a jerk to women, they are just saying; grow more of a backbone and have an edge.

Believe it or not, i was once a "nice" guy. I used to put women on a pedestal! You can imagine the rest. I had tons of female friends, but never a girlfriend. They all liked me because i was safe but will date my friends who had an edge and treated them like crap. Guess who they complained to when they got that kind of treatment? Me. I was always like why can't she my heart and know that I would absolutely treat her like gold? Some might argue that she wasn't into me. That is subjective. Not everybody can be into you, agreed (but you can also put your best foot forward)

But it took a me a long while to learn that they are just human beings like myself and have insecurities. If you want a new job or a new car, do you not do the groundwork to get it? Women might be complex in how they think (a lot of times) but they are still people. Cause and effect, try something unusual that you not normally do to your female friends and watch the reaction you get.

The sad thing is that once you get older, these same girls (women) will start looking for you to settle with. This will continue to happen as long as there males and females on this planet.

Got my protective shield on for the flaming responses.
this and the 'be yourself' posts pretty much sum up everything that could be said on this topic
Re: Would U continue being nice to girls inspite of these? by hollandis(f): 10:00pm On Apr 11, 2010
@poster
The best time to sc.r.ew that girl is in the middle of the night.If she agrees to fine,if she doesn't kick her out.Now tell me who will save her  silly a.s.$ in the middle of the night.Who evr wants to save her will end up scr.e.wing her
Re: Would U continue being nice to girls inspite of these? by bluespice(f): 11:00pm On Apr 11, 2010
hollandis:

@poster
The best time to sc.r.ew that girl is in the middle of the night.If she agrees to fine,if she doesn't kick her out.Now tell me who will save her  silly a.s.$ in the middle of the night.Who evr wants to save her will end up scr.e.wing her
how old are you again?
Re: Would U continue being nice to girls inspite of these? by hollandis(f): 11:17pm On Apr 11, 2010
Old enuf to be ya papa
Re: Would U continue being nice to girls inspite of these? by Nobody: 10:04am On Apr 12, 2010
@Poster: From times past up till 2day, Women have always been drawn 2 hard/mean guyz.Y? Cuz they r d ones they cant control. Being nice is not Originally on Mens' Specs by default. Ur mum brainwashed u in2 this and I wonder whr ur dad was when all dz waz happenin xcept he is a wussy himself(no porn intended). Alwayz remember NICE GUYZ FINISH LAST whr women r concerned. Just stop being "nice" 4 a change. Come back n tell us hw u fared.

P.S U WILL NEVA FIND THAT WOMAN WHO WILL "LIKE 4 WHO U R".The way u r rit now, I can confidently tell u dt there arent no woman on planet who will pitch her tent with u.
Re: Would U continue being nice to girls inspite of these? by Nobody: 10:32am On Apr 12, 2010
@dutchmillionaire i only have one advice for you.You are "too" Nice.being too Nice is also Equivalent to Foolishness."too" is the key word"
Re: Would U continue being nice to girls inspite of these? by BabaAgba001(m): 11:57am On Mar 28, 2016
steaming:
The sad thing is that once you get older, these same girls (women) will start looking for you to settle with. This will continue to happen as long as there males and females on this planet.

WORD!!!

I must tell you that there is this thing about the make up of a woman that even the women themselves can not understand. 18-25 yr old gals like men who would roughen them up, HARD or BAD boys, 26 upward when its time for marriage they want that loving nice good man but that is for the wise women though.

So poster keep being nice some gal somewhere is going to come ur way soon.


I believe u buh frm experience my girlfriend. Wen I was in my predegree days who spend. Days with me somtimes who we had agreement of no touchery abandond me latter saying I am not sexually active dat am "okobo" guy I weak to the core wen I know dat am more dan Rambo 4 machine Gun.

My broda not all ladies are like that just tell her face to face dat u r a man and all this has to stop. BRO u shall get a surprise responce.

It is well wit u , wen I did wat I told u borda was opened once and I cross saftly to the other side and since then I closed my boarder too for her to feel what I felt.

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