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Husband Catches His Wife Sleeping With Another Woman In Lagos / My Wife Pushed Me Into Another Woman's Arms / Help: I'm Married But In Love With Another Woman (2) (3) (4)
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Re: ... by Nobody: 7:24am On Jun 10, 2013 |
I would advise you to get right back to your husband and make things right. From all you have written so far i have a feeling you want to dominate him That could be the reason why his love is channelled to someone else. Calm him down reassure him of ur undying love and make him open up to you. pray ceaselessly for him(this has proven to work where all other methods fail). Finally disregard most of the evil comments on here, most of the ladies on here go through what you are passing through. Work on your marriage the more and refuse to be lazy on petty things that matters in marriage. I know you can make it work. GIVE THIS TRY ONCE MORE. |
Re: ... by princespatience: 7:25am On Jun 10, 2013 |
Why nt cal a family meetin n table d issue atlease dat way his family members who knw abt it n advise him while ur own family who also advice u cos in marrage u face a lot of temptation ur ability 2 over com is wat makes u a real woman bt divoce is nt d best option. |
Re: ... by vanitty: 7:30am On Jun 10, 2013 |
1. Stop being so damn understanding 2. He is a grown man, you don't need to "baby" him through this "difficult time" 3. Give him so space to sort out his demons 2 Likes |
Re: ... by hombre(m): 7:42am On Jun 10, 2013 |
1. Im pretty sure the information is incomplete 2. Im sure u want to eat your cake and have it at d same time. 3. Uve been married for 5years and all of a sudden things took a twist just like that! Im pretty sure if u dont change that attitude of yours He will be gone for good! Btw most of those ladies telling you trash r lying and/or facing worst fate as yours but would never back out.Abeg work on your marriage and stop being lazy. 1 Like |
Re: ... by slymm(f): 7:49am On Jun 10, 2013 |
@lamaroscar, there you go prescribing one pastor from a particular church. Gerraway from here. People like you and their obsession with their pastors irritate me. I have adviced the op as best as I can, there is no marriage counselling here, women and men are told to endure the crazy institution known as marriage. Let her talk to her husband, she married the man did she not? I am sure they can both work their way back to love and trust again. |
Re: ... by Nobody: 7:52am On Jun 10, 2013 |
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Re: ... by tchikelue: 8:10am On Jun 10, 2013 |
Madam thank God you are on the winning track. Glancing through your huzy's phone is no much deal,but taking to heart the content of the call log or maybe received text message is another.What should bother you most is sent text messages,but in this case what they discuss each time which you do not have access to. May be because of what happened you are bound to think deep,just take it easy their love story will die a natural death. The lady if am correct just got married,so she is the new baby on the hot sit and will do anything to kick start and keep her marriage. Simply advise her to change her phone number in her own interest or you let her husband know what she is into. Naturally,it is worse off when the wife is cheating than the reverse. With that your husband will gradually loose contact and interest. Most importantly,try and know your huzy's do's and dont's. Check yourself by continually improving in your strengths and relatively let him address some of your weaknesses at the moment. It is well ma sister, just keep handling it in a mature way good men/women are scarce out there. Good luck |
Re: ... by slimyem: 8:17am On Jun 10, 2013 |
lastpage:I believe she was just messing around with that thread. This situation is serious! |
Re: ... by angelhair(m): 8:42am On Jun 10, 2013 |
slimyem: I believe she was just messing around with that thread. My sister I wasn't even messing around sef. My sister opened that damn thread from my laptop. @ hombre of cours incomplete I gave you the abridged version of eveents. |
Re: ... by Dubemkelly(m): 8:50am On Jun 10, 2013 |
ewet:Hey! There's a lot of problems attached 2 it, everybody is entitled 2 sum privacy, too much poke nosing causes more harm dan gud in r/ships n marriages, give ur partner a breathing space nd don't get involved in routine checks of his or her....Howeva,everybody z entitled 2 der opinions, if u guys r comfrtable wid it, so be it, as 4 me I prefer my partner staying off my fon nd I will do dat too. |
Re: ... by bisiswag(f): 8:53am On Jun 10, 2013 |
babyosisi: Finally @ the posterMy dear i really smiled when i read ur post,e b like say u don fall victim b4' But on a more serious note u said it all,MARRIED MEN WHO CHEAT ARE GREAT MANIPULATORS, ALWAYS PLAY THE VICTIM,STRING YOU ALONG & MAKE YOU LOOSE YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE. @OP,just pray really hard & in making that final decision,let it be one that makes u & u alone happy cos my dear life is extra short to waste it on one silly man who disrespects & makes u crazily unhappy |
Re: ... by ujchief(m): 9:03am On Jun 10, 2013 |
This was from the thread you created last time angelhair: I have NEVER felt like this in all my life. Walahi, men have no idea how to bring a woman to her peak. I've had orgasms before but the one that vibrator gave me, damn, I'm weak in the knees just thinking about it! Please, ladies, get yourself a vibrator and experience that really heavenly feeling. And when sexkills attacked you, your reply was this: angelhair: Bia why are the guys vexing. I'm not saying u can't perform you're not bad but u aint got nothing on my v1brator. Why would someone take you serious now? Stop teasing us, inasmuch as there are kids on this forum, there are some of us who value our time and when we squeeze out small time for leisure, we wouldn't want someone insulting our intelligence with tales by moonlight. Btw, in case you insist that this story is real, then stop crying foul since you've obviously been cheating him with your v1brator. Ciao. |
Re: ... by joilin(f): 9:12am On Jun 10, 2013 |
Mistade Regal:I tire ooo |
Re: ... by poundsgeh(f): 9:24am On Jun 10, 2013 |
Sister, u can't give up. Marriage is a life time contract and u jst nid dt patience and prayer to overcome. . . . . . . . By the way..... holla @ me for marriage counselling. It is well. |
Re: ... by poundsgeh(f): 9:27am On Jun 10, 2013 |
Daresh: Abeg where can she get marriage counseling in this Naija because me sef I need it.Talk to me. God has given me d grace. |
Re: ... by Nobody: 9:45am On Jun 10, 2013 |
chaircover: Unfortunately in this particular situation there is no balance. The poster clearly wants to keep her marriage, while hubby has one leg in and one leg out and may be looking for any alleged "cockkup" from his wife as an excuse to run off so we need to be mindful of the advise that we give her.Hmmnnn....,this is d most matured advice I've seen here so far. U just nailed it.wonderful and thank u so much. Poster,re-evaluation,prayer, good manner(even when its hard)and most importantly patience r the vital key u need. Goodluck |
Re: ... by MsSpaqs(f): 9:47am On Jun 10, 2013 |
Wow!Personally i tnk goin 2 her husband is out of it.Av a hrt 2 hrt talk wt d woman n also ur husband,go 4 counsellin.After all sd and done and nothng changes.U nid 2 take a walk.No use bringin up kids in an Environment whr love is lost.Kids ar sensitive you knw n can sense wen smthng is nt ryt. |
Re: ... by Nobody: 9:49am On Jun 10, 2013 |
This is serious. But seriously its the other woman who needs to do the trick. The more you tackle your husband, the more he finds new ways of reaching that woman, except of course she does not want to be reached. If i were in your shoes, apart from holding God by his words, i would advice, you also talk to that woman quietly, to leave your husband alone. The only reason why your husband is still in contact with her, is because she wants him to still contact her. If she is really serious about facing her husband, your husband will move on. The other woman is the key. |
Re: ... by jidewin(m): 9:50am On Jun 10, 2013 |
This is one of my fears about infidelity.Once a committed man strays and feesl 'loved' by the strange woman,its often hard to let go.its more of a psychological and ego thing. The woman at home were either oblivious of some emotional needs or she doing it purpose.And there is the strange woman outside equally seeking companionship and perhaps financial support,but WILLING to give the married guy his desires. Just as every woman wants to be treated as queens even when they come up with their behavioral nonsense most times,likewise every hard working man wants to be treated like a King.I support the idea of couples spending time together alone.It doesn't matter if they have kids or not.Church,Politics,Extended Family,Business, shouldn't have overwhelming effect on your relationship. At the end of the day,its still gonna be you and your spouse or partner....wish you luck.. |
Re: ... by Truckpusher(m): 9:57am On Jun 10, 2013 |
SniperInADiaper:hmm...girls dem dey vex scatter |
Re: ... by biolabee(m): 10:06am On Jun 10, 2013 |
@OP I wish you all the best though... As CC has said. only God get this one funny the hard core feminazis and preachers of marital destruction are quiet Seems the man not wanting the marriage is not what they want to hear makes advicing the woman to leave sound like a hollow victory |
Re: ... by thehunted(m): 10:37am On Jun 10, 2013 |
op,u sabi lie? u said u werent searching his fone. your past post suggest that u installed a software that would track his calls. if u are his wife,u have every right to do that. so u dont need to lie. Besides u told us that u enjoy v!brator more than a real d!ck. Then allow your husband f0rk someone who will enjoy his d!ck.shoooooo. I tire for u o. Women like u just want to cage a man for no reason. |
Re: ... by Jay5000(m): 10:53am On Jun 10, 2013 |
Counselling in 9ja is a scam. Beware of scammers! |
Re: ... by 28Bukola: 11:11am On Jun 10, 2013 |
This story is so touching. My sister this act is called 'Soul Tie'. A Soul tie is the knitting 2geda of 2 souls that that can either bring tremendous blessings in a godly relationship or tremendous destruction when made with the wrong person. In your own case, your husband is in bondage and u have to act fast about it before it destroys your home totally. The two of dem can control each other because their minds, will and emotions are so opened to each other. That is why this act has placed him in emotional and mental bondage. Ur hubby is attached to dis woman with glue. I have a lot to tell you, but i cant use this medium my sister. The solution to this act is deliverance. Talk to him and go together for serious deliverance. Your home is very important. I pray your home will nt be destroyed. |
Re: ... by hardbody: 11:12am On Jun 10, 2013 |
babyosisi: o mashe ooo. God please deliver us from temptation and may we not have mistresses who will divide our homes in Jesus mighty name. Amen |
Re: ... by jidewin(m): 11:13am On Jun 10, 2013 |
ujchief: This was from the thread you created last timeOl boy...thank you o...see as you come expose the babe,when in my heart I was almost like 'why are some men like this' gbaun. So your. Vibrator gives you more pleasure than your oga? I said it.When the man may have realise his 'sexual effort' is not having its effect,and the woman outside is giving him. Sicch,why won't his heart be with her?.see the side effect of intimacy gadgets. .mthcewwwwww. |
Re: ... by bukatyne(f): 11:14am On Jun 10, 2013 |
Valeree: So sad dear, I think I can relate with ur pain. my boyfriend of 2years is currently doing thesame to me now for d past 3 months, with a girl that is seriously engaged to be married, once I found some messages were the girls fiancee was verbally abusing and threatening my boyfriend and my boyfriend was also threatening him back can u imagine, I felt so shattered, and pained and I know how it really hurts watching someone u love gradually slipping away. Are you waiting until you get married so you can start praying and fasting abi? 2 Likes |
Re: ... by hardbody: 11:14am On Jun 10, 2013 |
slymm: @lamaroscar, there you go prescribing one pastor from a particular church. Gerraway from here. People like you and their obsession with their pastors irritate me. I have adviced the op as best as I can, there is no marriage counselling here, women and men are told to endure the crazy institution known as marriage. Let her talk to her husband, she married the man did she not? I am sure they can both work their way back to love and trust again. And if the man refuses to budge, sister, i have a big and strong shoulder where you can lay your head. I will always understand, i always do...(that is for the OP) |
Re: ... by slymm(f): 11:15am On Jun 10, 2013 |
Limaoscar:stop it at once, this need to brandish God at every given opportunity is the reason why Nigerians keep praying and praying while folding their hands and refusing to attend to things before them.be diagnosing churches and pastor there. HOW SURE ARE YOU THE op is a christian? |
Re: ... by slymm(f): 11:20am On Jun 10, 2013 |
bukatyne:my dear are you not aware that majority of Nigerian women spend all day fasting and braying and binding the demon, meanwhile the demon is the cheating husband living with them and sleeping in their bed. she will go ahead and marry him, then move to the church campsite praying and fasting for Africa...... |
Re: ... by hardbody: 11:20am On Jun 10, 2013 |
chaircover: Unfortunately in this particular situation there is no balance. The poster clearly wants to keep her marriage, while hubby has one leg in and one leg out and may be looking for any alleged "cockkup" from his wife as an excuse to run off so we need to be mindful of the advise that we give her. For once madam, you had nothing to advise on a topic. This must be very very serious oo. Now i am really sorry for the OP. If a whole madam chaircover cannot fathom what advise to give, except the Lord intervenes, this case has gone past redemption. Lord please have mercy at least for the sake of the children who may suffer enstrangement if these two adults decide to pack it up. Lord you know i am not too strong spritually but i publicly confess that my heart is touched and may you hear our cries and help this woman so that her marriage will start flourishing all over again. Help her to find the joy that she sought in getting into matrimony. |
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