toshmann:
And so she should remain unhappy for the rest of her miserable life?
This is the 21st century for crying out loud. I'm a man, if I don't like a girl, nothing she does can change that. I may like her actions, wish her the best, but if I don't have good emotional connection with her nothing can change that. If she fights to keep me, it's a lost battle I'll even be more scared she may get frustrated and poison me so no one will have me I she doesn't have me

What about her happiness?
What about her dignity?
What about her emotional and sensual needs?
What about HER?
Abi no be God create am?

coogar:

she's not staying for thr hubby, player....
her kids would take his place - the husband would become a 2nd class citizen in his own home. her focus would shift to her kids......as long as the kids have a father figure to coast them along, the woman cannot regret much and the hubby isn't beating her so no danger to her life!



how many single mothers in the eyes of the society, have dignity in nigeria? how many of them are happy? emotional and sensual needs are academic points, it's not like there's any man that would provide such after she leaves. you want her to be changing men like toothpaste with her kids in the house? what sort of example would she be setting for her children?

bukatyne:

Double post

bukatyne:

You need this Nigerian bible seriously!

The book of marriage will answer in details all the questions you have. It will also clear all doubts and interestingly it has the life application pages where you will see the kind of food, underwear and outing to do when been cheated upon, abused, lied to etc.

coogar:

what are you waiting for?
call the other woman's husband and warn him to keep his wife on a leash. whatever nonsense she's got going on with your husband would stop as soon as her husband knows she's been having an affair.....

at this point, you have got nothing to lose.
she's made your life miserable, you should do the same. throw an element of surprise into their affair and i hope to God her hubby is a traditional husband that would beat your hubby to stupor. sometimes, some men need to be physically beaten to get the message!

come on, dial her husband right now....

toshmann:

Lol
Somebody somewhere is making money. But I give it to Nigeria, marriage works better in Nigeria than here. My dear marriage here na nonsense.

devour129: this is so sad i swear,i feel so much for you.are you in Abuja ? do you have friends to talk to ? cant imagine what you are going tru.please my sister this is the time you need your family and good friends most. i cant tell you what to do cos i don't know your history but i will tell you what i might(because no one can be 100per sure of what they can do in a situation)do,it will take time but i will kill off every feeling i have for my hubby,continue with my biz,gym and other things i enjoy.we will live like brother and sister.and i will an open mind about finding love YES i will find love again .our marriage will be only in papers cos that's what he turned it into.

angelhair: Ok people I think there are some things we need to clarify cos I'm reading some posts and I'm wondering if its me they are talking about. First of all I am not maltreated or suffering in anyway so the suffering in silence part doesn't apply here. I am not a person to keep silent about anything and everyone knows that. Now the truth is, things were more or less back to normal for us, we were even out of town on holiday alone no kids when I saw that received call. So it's not like, I'm an abandoned wife and he is chasing the girl in question up and down. The whole thing has been going through my mind and I spoke to the lady in question. Apparently, she says he's called her a few times and she swears on her baby's life that nothing has ever happened since then. I asked her if she loves him and that I am willing to leave for both of them to be happy together and she said, "God forbid" that she has her own marriage and doesn't want anybody's issues. Well to cut the long story short, we are meeting up this week to talk. Things are pretty normal at home too so I'm hoping he's got the message. I will take the advice of giving him space and do things that make me happy. Thanks guys

angelhair: Ok people I think there are some things we need to clarify cos I'm reading some posts and I'm wondering if its me they are talking about. First of all I am not maltreated or suffering in anyway so the suffering in silence part doesn't apply here. I am not a person to keep silent about anything and everyone knows that. Now the truth is, things were more or less back to normal for us, we were even out of town on holiday alone no kids when I saw that received call. So it's not like, I'm an abandoned wife and he is chasing the girl in question up and down. The whole thing has been going through my mind and I spoke to the lady in question. Apparently, she says he's called her a few times and she swears on her baby's life that nothing has ever happened since then. I asked her if she loves him and that I am willing to leave for both of them to be happy together and she said, "God forbid" that she has her own marriage and doesn't want anybody's issues. Well to cut the long story short, we are meeting up this week to talk. Things are pretty normal at home too so I'm hoping he's got the message. I will take the advice of giving him space and do things that make me happy. Thanks guys

todayguest: Madam beta place no dey! Hold ur man well. So mny gals full town dey luke for husband ooo. If u giv chance 'll take ur plce shap shap.Rememba u arent getin yonga. U nd ur husbnd na divorce na im una bee. My word ooo.

toshmann:

Na wa o na so marriage desperate reach for my dear Naija?

oko-omoge:
Firstly I feel for you and understand your situation. Perfectly. I am a married man with a boy who is 5 years old, I was once like your husband.

Please I will beg you do everything to win back your man. Firstly please just forget the thought about your husband is cheating on you, see as if you have lost something so precious and you should do all to recover it.

From personal predicament, I was in love with another woman in a foregin land, where I can lose all I have worked for if my wife decide to fight dirty.

I knew I was heading for destruction by having an affair but I did not care anymore because what mattered was my happiness and peace of mind. I will not say you
are solely responsible for your husband actions. However,[size=14pt] you had definitely trigger is desire to seek for happiness elsewhere subconsciously through your behaviours/actions.[/size]

Always remember you are the neck of the family, the neck controls the head. Once the neck becomes stiff, the head is useless. Realise, your husband is your first son, most women don't know men are grown up babies. I am man and I am telling you the truth, forget how intelligent and strong he is and other stuffs.

You need to be extra patient, tolerant, and extra mature as a woman if you want a happy home. We men want respect, attention, being looked after. We are very selfish, we believe our wife's should forget their life's once they get married.

I tell you what, my wife woke me up in middle of the night with tears in her eyes and told me please find it in your heart to forgive me if I have done or still doing something that made you mortgage your love for me. She had a choice of telling me look guy, if you don't leave that lady, I will destroy you and make you pay dearly.

I came back to my sense and I realised I had just been given a second chance and if I screw up, I may regret it.

So in the nut shell, try and unravel why someone you exchanged marital vows with decided to love someone else after 5 years. Do a root cause analysis and pray for God to give you patience and uncommon preserverance.

Do this and your children will surely receive God blessings and uncommon grace. That's the way God pay back pious women.

My 2 cents
Yemi (Perth WA)

Dubemkelly:
Hey! There's a lot of problems attached 2 it, everybody is entitled 2 sum privacy, too much poke nosing causes more harm dan gud in r/ships n marriages, give ur partner a breathing space nd don't get involved in routine checks of his or her....Howeva,everybody z entitled 2 der opinions, if u guys r comfrtable wid it, so be it, as 4 me I prefer my partner staying off my fon nd I will do dat too.

SniperInADiaper: Mtchew! If my husband falls in love with another woman then his ass is gone. What kind of man does that?

angelhair:


No he started dating her after we got married. Infact it was when I went to have my baby that they started talking. She worked in his office so they saw everyday. Honestly the tin is weighing down my soul.

cursor system: You have done a mistake by searching your husband phone. The result is always distraction, mind unrest and lack of commitment. Therefore, always try to be focused on how you can make your wedding to be successful.
I will not advise you to give your husband a space by doing so, you are already a failure in your marriage. What do you know the other man you want to go to will do. All men are the same. The rule of the game is ALWAYS IGNORE WHAT CAN CAUSE MARRIAGE FAILURE.

angelhair: Ok people I think there are some things we need to clarify cos I'm reading some posts and I'm wondering if its me they are talking about. First of all I am not maltreated or suffering in anyway so the suffering in silence part doesn't apply here. I am not a person to keep silent about anything and everyone knows that. Now the truth is, things were more or less back to normal for us, we were even out of town on holiday alone no kids when I saw that received call. So it's not like, I'm an abandoned wife and he is chasing the girl in question up and down. The whole thing has been going through my mind and I spoke to the lady in question. Apparently, she says he's called her a few times and she swears on her baby's life that nothing has ever happened since then. I asked her if she loves him and that I am willing to leave for both of them to be happy together and she said, "God forbid" that she has her own marriage and doesn't want anybody's issues. Well to cut the long story short, we are meeting up this week to talk. Things are pretty normal at home too so I'm hoping he's got the message. I will take the advice of giving him space and do things that make me happy. Thanks guys

bukatyne:

This your post is a shame to men.

NOT ALL MEN ARE MINDLESS IDIOTS THAT CANNOT EXCERISE SELF CONTROL!

Stop giving idiotic advices abeg.

Daresh:

Yeah dude, are you? @beloved1993 no be small suffer o! Oh well I'm sure she has the licence to cheat now, he no go fit get mouth if she does her own cos his sin is much worse.