dammytosh:

Did you post this at midnite or are u on drugs ?

riyageh: @Logica: oh I can read, and it appears better than you...The other issue is that the article clearly is based on American laws which are very different from Nigerian laws

riyageh: No where did it say it was the law, rather it said it is difficult to prove not that a wife or husband cannot steal from their spouse. Law as a noun is defined as "a binding custom or practice of a community : a rule of conduct or action prescribed or formally recognized as binding or enforced by a controlling authority"

dammytosh:

How sure are you that she is not just a spoilt brat trained by people like you and she probably believes she can get away with it since her in-law appears as the prime suspect until the day she was caught red handed.

About the security you advised. I don't need it. My wallet stays on my table and some in my pocket as the case may be. I trust my household.

They won't allow me to get to the filling station without knowing that they have emptied the wallet and leave me to take bike to get another cash at the nearest atm because of some silly 'ladies men/romantic' advice on Nairaland.

babyosisi:

All you stingy men
How dare you call your wife a thief
U need to ask for forgiveness immediately


My husband was hiding his wallet and sometimes putting it under his pillow just because I was taking little chicken change from it for lunch
Nonsense !!
How can a woman steal from her own husband
Are we not joined in holy matrimony again?
In Igboland wives are lovingly called odoziaku which translates to mean " the one who arranges the wealth"
Your own is to bring in the money,allow me to arrange it na ,as expected
I pitied him sha one day long ago when we had no credit cards ,he came home ranting about how he was so embarrassed at the store When it was time to pay and he Opened his wallet and the cash was depleted
I said ewoooo, di m oma
I am so sorry
But did it stop me ?
Whosai
If a man has 5 $20 bills in the wallet I bought him for Christmas why can't a woman who bore him bouncing baby boys take one or two $20 as the spirit leads
I don't do it as much anymore
I now ask him first and if he says no i have no cash on me and I go to the wallet and see cash,he can't come back and claim that he had cash
Abi?
Love u boo

ahhh ahhh babyosisi! Chai if me u be couple we g dey do kung fu daily ohh..hahah..u real funny...me no go gree 4 dat 1 ohh.
If u minus 2 frm 1 e go be what 1 remainin...so stealin na stealin..one hubby didnt sanction/approve d cash to be taken..na stealin..biko..dnt do dat when u get married ohh!pls ju hear!! Helen paul needs an assistant/a new riva una u a good selction

Okija_juju:


still no sense to be made here:

a spoilt woman would first burn up the 50'k and then clean out his wallet.. no she didnt. prolly looks at the 50'k as rainy day money.

now lets be logical:: how much can the standard guys wallet accomodate comfortably? 50'k i guess would be a good estimate assuming its all in 1000 naira bills.. so she takes out some money from your wallet? kini big deal?

what i would have expected you to ask is; why does a mans wife feel the need to lie to her husband? even men who are married to kleptomaniacs, their wives still confide in them. my guess is that this OP probably abuses his wife.. either physically or emotionally. people only lie when they are afraid of the consequences. if the wife felt safe with the OP, then she would never ever lie or hide anything from him, not even murder.

there is a problem here and its bigger than just the act of taking money from 'her husbands' wallet without consent.

lastpage:
Okija juju, l've "known" you long enough to see that YOU ARE NOW PLAYING TO THE GALLERY!

Abi Eze-Nairaland election is around the 'corner' again?

The "amount" does not matter, whether it is one million naira or just one naira.
It is the "behavior" (stealing), that is in question. That is what is bordering the Op ....and to lie and 'deflect responsibility/culpability to an innocent family member

I hope when your own child or wife "steals" five thousand naira "only", you will repeat the same phrase, "Kini Big deal"?

You are proffering very silly excuses, just to appear "politically acceptable" to the women electorates here!

*People who "steal" (going by the definition of stealing) do it with the sole belief that they would NOT BE CAUGHT!
Not because they are afraid of the victim.

A thief is always a thief.
It has nothing to do with the level of deprivation, otherwise, children of rich people will never steal while those of poor people will all be thieves!
I want you to go and read a Book titled: What would you NOT STEAL, if you are sure you will NEVER BE CAUGHT?
Infact, ask yourself (Okija juju) that same question.

This is becoming very unlike the Okija juju we know.
But then, l do understand. Even Obama has to do a volte-face, just to get re-elected, vis-a-vis his Lecture at Cairo University and the right of the palestinians.

Winks! Winks!!

Lastpage!

Michky: You speak my mind. Me thinks Okija really needs female electoral endorsements. If not, why has his posts, in the past months, been very wierd. Very unlike the Okija Man we all are familiar with. Mehn, you need to see the vigor with which he argues in favor of females like his future depends on it. Atleast, i now know the ish. SMH. Anyways, best of luck to Mr Okija. It is well.

bettymafy:

He fell in love, got married and now knows how to treat a lady. . . That is what changed!

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_{Will you marry me and be my 2nd Lolo?!?}

bettymafy:

He fell in love, got married and now knows how to treat a lady. . . That is what changed!

chaircover: The point that many are missing is not just the fact that money was STOLEN!! yes STOLEN!!! but the fact that someone else was being accused of the theft and the wife didnt own up, leaving someone else to take the fall.

One of the most painful things to a right thinking human is being accused of something that he/she did not do.

And who said that a husband cannnot steal from a wife a vice versa? Meanwhile on the "wife wins 17billion divorce settlement" thread, many of the men are up in arms.

Even my kids know to ask me before going into my purse? why? because I will leave home thinking that I have X amount in my purse and may get into a pickle if I need to use the money and it isnt there.

meanwhile if the posters kid steals meat from the pot I am sure the posters wife will beat that kid to stupor.

What is bad is bad! no two names. If she needs money, she should open her mouth and ask and if he doesnt give it to her, then she should maintain her integrity and find other ways of communicating that need accross to him. stealing his money when his back is turned is not the next best thing.

On fathers day in church, I saw one woman packing juice and other drinks into her car boot. She had whipped them off the tables. The get together wasn't even over. She then came to the kitchen where I was serving with plastic bowls and when my back was turned for a split second, started packing efo into the bowls. Stealing I would call it cos she didnt ask anyone and she did it sneakily whilst my back was turned. Was she hungry? I doubt it. Its just these bad bad habits that people have and grow up with that disgraces them in public and I have decided that next time she tries it, she will meet me there.

Michky: Found this on the web. Hope it solves this issue once and for all.

I think it depends on the circumstances...

Theft: "A person is guilty of theft if he dishonestly appropriates property belonging to another with the intention of permanently depriving the other of it." S1 Theft Act 1968

However, it does not count as theft if you have the consent of the owner (in this case the husband); and your behaviour is not considered 'dishonest' if the person appropriates the property in the belief that "he would have the other's consent if the other knew of the appropriation and the circumstances of it" (s2(1)(b))

So it all boils down to this:
If the husband was/would be fine about it, no it's not stealing
If he wasn't/wouldn't be fine with it, then yeah, it's stealing



And in this particular Op's case, the wife clearly lied because she knew she wouldn't have her husband's consent. Hence, she can boldly be categorized a thief.
I rest my case.

biolabee:
@michky i like your submission