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How To Cope With A Spouse That Steals From You / Your Wife Or Your Extended Family / How To Deal With A Maid That Steals (2) (3) (4)
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Re: **ee by Gertynk: 4:48pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
Fimmy: A wife can't steal from her husbandlol u are so on point; i was expecting some one to say this all this while 1 Like |
Re: **ee by dammytosh: 4:49pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
Okija_juju: It has nothing to do with hustling and the issue should not be mixed up. That your wife have access to all your cash and she did not mess up only shows how lucky you are. Give some ladies access to the same fund for 2months and you will go bankrupt. My anger is the fact that this has been happening in the house and the husband has been accusing his younger sister. I imagine hubby discussing with her and she will be like "I don't trust that girl too" It took all evidence to point to her before she confessed (THIS IS A CASE OF PURE STEALING [no apologies 2]). If my wife spends my money and inform me, "hun i have taken all the money from your wallet, get cash on your way out if u need 2" , only a mad man will be angry at this level of maturity. But if i have to get to where i need to buy fuel in my car before i know my money is gone, and it took me bringing Amadioha to the scene before u confess, YOU ARE A THIEF and we need to work on that character before u steal from another friend's wallet 3 Likes |
Re: **ee by dammytosh: 4:50pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
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Re: **ee by adexsimply(m): 4:50pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
Okija_juju: Shocked is an understatement Anyway..Congrat |
Re: **ee by Fhemmmy: 4:53pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
dammytosh: I so much love your post, but it is her money as well . . . But i agree with you on the fact that it is nice to know, cos of emergency . . . Imagine taking same wife to the hospital and you think you have money in your wallet cos you let money there, and only for the money needed to save her life has been "Taken" by her, yes you could go and get another, but there is only few seconds between life and death but if she has told you, you could have stop to take some cash on your way to the clinic to make sure all is well. 1 Like |
Re: **ee by Ishilove: 4:53pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
His money is my money, my money remains my money 2 Likes |
Re: **ee by adexsimply(m): 4:54pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
Ishilove: His money is my money, my money remains my moneylol..that's unfair o |
Re: **ee by dayokanu(m): 4:55pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
Fhemmmy: Or you enter Eatery order food well chop belleful time to pay Money don vanish. Would anyone allow you to go to the ATM there? maybe they would ask you to drop your car as security before leaving. Or come wash plates just because you have a thief at home |
Re: **ee by Fhemmmy: 4:55pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
Ishilove: His money is my money, my money remains my money OK, but you wont steal the money that is yours and his, would you? |
Re: **ee by Fhemmmy: 4:56pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
dayokanu: very good one, so to avoid such embarrassment, better for the woman to just let the man know she has took the money. |
Re: **ee by dayokanu(m): 4:56pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
Ishilove: His money is my money, my money remains my money Most women here are preaching that in Marriage everything becomes shared So his money becomes your money and your money becomes his money |
Re: **ee by dayokanu(m): 4:57pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
m.esther96: No be wetin your parents ask for be that? If you go Honda place and they say Accord na 2million would you offer to pay 20m because you intend to use the car to generate 100m? 1 Like |
Re: **ee by Michky: 4:58pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
hectortex: @babyosisiYou wanna know why she steals cash from your wallet despite the excess available cash right? Ok, listen carefully. She is bored. She needs a new challenge. She has too much time on her hands. Solution: Sit her down and Define clearly to her that she is STEALING. Remind her that you will not fail to get her dealt with if she continues that art of theft. Now, Get her involved in any activity that will keep her gainfully occupied. I.e. Church activities, Business etc. Would be better if the activity is something that interests her. Best of luck with your marriage. |
Re: **ee by Nobody: 5:01pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
People, help me ooo. BabyOsisi wan kill me here........... 1 Like |
Re: **ee by searay(m): 5:01pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
@OP. Well! The woman fit dey carry the money go dash some guys where dey help you polish her congo. . . . . . Mod abeg na play, I play ooooo. |
Re: **ee by mesther96(f): 5:02pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
[quote author=dayokanu] No be wetin your parents ask for be that? If you go Honda place and they say Accord na 2million would you offer to pay 20m because you intend to use the car to generate 100m?[/quote]lol....i neva mary sha bt wen d time comes my brideprice wl b $2million..no negotiation! |
Re: **ee by dayokanu(m): 5:03pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
m.esther96: No problem. Dangote fit dey find 15th wife by then. 1 Like |
Re: **ee by mesther96(f): 5:07pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
dayokanu:me marry dt ugly dangote .my foot!!! i want a tall,nt too fat bt fleshy wt muscles:p clean n handsome guy wt fat pocket!!!8-) |
Re: **ee by logica(m): 5:19pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
http://www.ehow.com/list_6908487_spousal-theft-laws.html Spousal theft differs from other types of theft because the property may legally belong to both the spouse bringing charges and the spouse charged with theft. A majority of marital property assets can often be classified as community property, which both parties have a legal right to control and to access for personal use. |
Re: **ee by jidewin(m): 5:24pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
babyosisi:LOOOOL this is lady is hilariously crazy...ok let's turn the table,once you get paid and withdrew from ATM,your man must have unrestricted access to your bag.But don't come on NL to complain o...even if he's to spend it for' younger cuties outside ne'. Hahahahahahaha 1 Like |
Re: **ee by biolabee(m): 5:28pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
Ishilove: His money is my money, my money remains my money we knew already |
Re: **ee by agohavivi(f): 5:36pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
This is somthing I'm guilty of. Presently I'm a stay at home mum meaning oga is solely responsible for the financial demands at home. Most times he makes me look like a spendthrift in spite of the fact that I run the home efficiently. As such, I have no choice but to make up with the extra I get from his pocket. Though it's wrong I can't help it once in a while. |
Re: **ee by Okijajuju1(m): 5:45pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
dammytosh: [b]Okay! Lemme give you another example; As a kid, I stole from my parents a lot. Money o! I stole 100 bucks here, 200buck there. I was caught and beaten up a lot.. What did i do with the money? buscuits, sweets and the like. why did i steal, because the 20naira given to me for transport and snacks was never enough. 7naira mineral and what can you do with 3 naira? nothing. so i stole. not a good excuse but lets focus on the issue. Fast forward to now.. Now I can walk into my fathers house, go to his room, take money out of his purse, spend it and when he asks, I'll simply say I took it.. Same for my mum. What changed? I was now trusted. I was no longer afraid to own up. They may get angry but not enough to berate, shout or beat me. They are now open with me. Now it's sort of the same with marriages.. If you have to hide to do anything, then there is a problem. It's like my wife will tomorrow complain that I steal meat from the pot.. Like really? If she sees me as her husband, then it shouldn't be a big deal that I take her stuff without informing her. Now if she asks and I deny, then that in itself is a problem because it then means I am afraid of the consequences of her reaction. If his wife can't tell him that she took money out of his wallet, it's caused by a reason. Prolly because of his reaction which shouldn't be.. After all, she's his wife. I had a friend way back then whose mum was afraid of is dad.. In households like that, it wouldn't be surprising to hear something like this. Again... You only steal that which you can't get. Meaning if she could get money from him, she wouldn't need to take his money and be afraid to own up. Their is a problem in this relationship and it goes beyond the wife alone. This OP has a problem / part of the blame as well.. [/b] 1 Like |
Re: **ee by Nobody: 6:08pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
@ op, she's your wife. I can't believe you opened her up to being called a thief by people on this forum. If you are hurt by what she did then simply tell her and let her know denying it was wrong shikena. If you're not careful, people will poison your mind about her here. Telling you she's a thief and will steal more if she has access to your account. Na wa sha. Just ask her why she did it and tell her your mind. Shikena. I hope she's not afraid of you because she shouldn't have denied when you asked her. Maybe its even the way you were asking. My 5 dollar opinion sha 1 Like |
Re: **ee by Nobody: 6:17pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
People justifying stealing .... Even if your are co-joined twin, let the other person know u took the money. The difference here is that she denied taking the money until threatened. Who does that? OP, you might want to increase her allowance since she is a student, she maybe want to feel among the other students, brazilian and Peruvian things .... Don't even think of withholding money because she might get it elsewhere. You don't enter one chance so try and look for a possible solution. What might work for someone else might not work for you. Na you know your wife, try and fix it! |
Re: **ee by delors(m): 6:21pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
Best solution, whenever u need to give her some money, put it in the wallet, and put the wallet on the bed. That way, you won't call that 'stealing'; rather, you are giving her the money the way she likes to be given. Period |
Re: **ee by nuwell(m): 6:23pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
Ishilove: His money is my money, my money remains my money Ishilove: His money is my money, my money remains my money |
Re: **ee by FunkyR: 6:37pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
As a Man u shld be ashamed of yourself. It obvious u are not taking care of her well. Because if u are she wont be atealing from u. Kmt |
Re: **ee by FunkyR: 6:38pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
As a Man u shld be ashamed of yourself. It obvious u are not taking care of her well. Because if u are she wont be stealing from u. Kmt |
Re: **ee by logica(m): 6:41pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
FunkyR: As a Man u shld be ashamed of yourself. It obvious u are not taking care of her well. Because if u are she wont be stealing from u. KmtWow. Albert Einstein abi na Sigmund Freud in the house. Pray do tell how you arrived at this conclusively? |
Re: **ee by riyageh(f): 6:43pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
logica: http://www.ehow.com/list_6908487_spousal-theft-laws.html I fail to see the need for your aggressive response, I asked because I wanted to know if there was such a law tryly and you sounded very confident with your comment but your response indicates that you are not certain. What you are doing is coming to a conclusion based on your opinion and certain facts. I looked at the article you quoted it does not say a spouse cannot steal from their partner, it depends on the circumstance. This is a forum where people discuss and exchange ideas, it seems too many cannot without being rude. |
Re: **ee by sunkoye: 6:49pm On Jun 18, 2013 |
your wife cant steal your money na, she took it!..... op...trust me, u are nt matured enof for marriage. gba! 1 Like |
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