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What about men in the West?

Truckpusher: You're done raising disciples to attack everything I write here in NL abi?.

FYI:Withdraw these your lapdogs else someone is gonna get his butt kicked ,btw you don't have the moral standing to contribute in this kind of topic, your attitude isn't far from what is being discussed here but just like the attention seeking bitc.h and the drama queen you are ,you are in ...smdh

You're handle should have been SniperInAnightgown.

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What about men in the West?

Truckpusher: Men in the West cheats like every other man anywhere.

Google is your friend.

(CNN) -- Kristen Stewart, Ryan Phillippe, LeAnn Rimes, Jude Law, Mark Sanford and Bill Clinton. What do they have in common?
Many are quick to label a person who strays from his or her marriage or relationship as a "cheater," but it's really not that simple. It's time for our culture to wake up and smell the sex pheromones: monogamy is not natural for many, or probably even most, humans.
With people living longer than ever before, a greater tolerance toward the human impulse to experience sexual variety is needed. Whether a person succeeds at being sexually monogamous depends as much on biology as environment.

The rise of the love marriage
Marrying for love is a relatively new concept. Beginning with Enlightenment -- the cultural movement of the 18th and 19th centuries -- when the pursuit of happiness became a legitimate human pursuit, marrying for love slowly but surely became an aspiration in the Western world.

But for most of human history, marriage was primarily a socioeconomic transaction. Spending the rest of your life with someone was more about the protection of property and the sharing of labor than it was about romance.

Husband: Monogamy destroys marriage
The side effect of the rise of marriage as a romantic proposition was that sexual jealousy became a more prevalent ingredient in marriage than it had been previously. Over time, sexual fidelity has come to be regarded as the barometer of a successful marriage -- regardless of what science tells us about natural human inclinations.
Mate debate: Is monogamy realistic?

Lovebirds cheat
Biologically, we humans are animals. So it makes sense to look to the animal kingdom for clues as to what we are built for. Let's start with birds. For some time, bird species such as lovebirds and penguins were celebrated among humans for their seemingly monogamous ways. About 90% of birds were thought to be strictly monogamous.

But DNA fingerprinting knocked birds off the monogamy perch. Analysis of avian DNA indicates that many nestlings' fathers are not their biological fathers.

This led experts to distinguish between unions that are sexually exclusive and those that are socially monogamous -- meaning a pair that raises a family together but indulges in what are called "extra pair copulations."

"Faithless pairing" is the norm
The evidence shows that monogamy is a rarity among mammals. Only 3% to 5% of all the mammal species on Earth "practice any form of monogamy." In fact, no mammal species has been proven to be truly monogamous.

One species, the prairie vole was subjected to scrutiny by biologists because it appeared to be truly monogamous. But it turns out that as a species, it just has a very high rate of sexual monogamy. Not every prairie vole resists straying.

Studies of prairie voles helped scientists understand that from a chemical and biological standpoint, sexual monogamy depends not just on particular hormones that are released in the brain, but on receptors for these hormones.

Among humans, here's the rub: we have the chemicals and the receptors, but it varies from person to person how much we have. Based on brain wiring alone, inclination toward fidelity can vary dramatically from one individual to another.

In other words, "once a cheater, always a cheater," might have as much to do with brain wiring as with a person's moral compass, upbringing or culture.

The bottom line is that flings are far from folly, at least in the animal kingdom. Even swans -- symbols of fidelity -- are not immune.

One partner for 50 years?
It's also important to look at human longevity with respect to cultural expectations of monogamy.
As recent as over 100 years ago, it was far more likely that an individual would lose his or her spouse at a young age. Remarriage by widows and widowers -- also known as serial monogamy -- was one way for humans to fulfill the need for sexual variety.

Today, the median age for first marriages is 28 for men and 26 for women. Disease is far less likely to kill someone in their prime and life expectancy hovers in the late 70s.

Because fidelity is considered the barometer of a successful marriage, this means that a person is theoretically expected to have one sexual partner for about 50 years.

This seems like a lot to expect of any human being -- even the most honorable, ethical and moral.
Those who are able to stay with one partner for a long haul are sometimes looked upon with awe. Certainly, a lasting and happy marriage tends to be far better for the children.

It has long been assumed that men struggle more with monogamy than women. Some experts have started to question this theory. With the development of a drug that promises to boost female libido, one can argue that sexual boredom and the temptation to stray is as big of an issue for women as it is for men, if not more so.

Human monogamy is influenced by many factors. Instead of pointing fingers or acting morally superior toward those who stray from marriages, we should recognize that strict sexual fidelity is a lofty but perhaps fundamentally doomed aspiration.
No two individuals, and no two couples are alike, and we should respect that.

Moreover, one's perspective on monogamy is not necessarily an indicator of one's personal practices. Many people have incorrectly assumed that because I've read, thought, and written about the problems with human monogamy that I am myself promiscuous.
For the record, nothing could be further from the truth. Nor am I, as many commenters on this Yahoo post suggested, a Satanist or a LovePeddler.

I am just a woman with a healthy respect for science.

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They do. It is a lot less. Cheating is a complicated thing. It is not genetic or evolutionary based however. Dont listen to those who claim it is... they dont even believe in evolution . They only quote it to explain their weaknesses.

So, rather than cheating, why not go for an open marriage where you are free to sleep with whomever you want by agreement? Isnt that a better option than all the lies?

Evestar200: *YOU CHEAT ON ME*I BREAK UR HEAD* I TAKE YOU GO HOSPITAL*I TREAT U*AND D SCAR DY UR HEAD*ANYTIME U WAN CHEAT* YOU C D SCAR*U NOR GO CHEAT AGAIN*shekina!!!!

druid06:


Dude, what? I can't believe this is coming from you. Men in the west cheats as much as we African man. Why do you think 50% of the American marriages end in divorces? Same statistic in Spain too, UK and virtually everywhere. The reason I might believe the western men are a little less is the fear of reprisal. Most married men in this western societies are sometimes afraid of commiting infidelity because of the fear of loosing half of what they've worked for and their kids after divorce...

druid06:


Dude, what? I can't believe this is coming from you. Men in the west cheats as much as we African man. Why do you think 50% of the American marriages end in divorces? Same statistic in Spain too, UK and virtually everywhere. The reason I might believe the western men are a little less is the fear of reprisal. Most married men in this western societies are sometimes afraid of commiting infidelity because of the fear of loosing half of what they've worked for and their kids after divorce...

druid06: Man is an animal, there's this inbounded instinct maybe coded in our D.N.A or something that makes us want to pro-create when we see someone of the opposite sex. Why do you think men are always around virtually aroused the entire day and most of the time all we do is think about sex.

Women especially African women who are westernized should better face the truth, men are polygamous by nature. Any African woman in the house that wants a long lasting relationship should be ready to face this facts and deal with it. If you suspect your husband if infidelity, there's no other option than to look the other way if you want a long lasting relationship.

texanomaly:
Why do speak for all men? I don't believe it.

druid06:

You can believe in what you like. This is the truth. So many researches have been done on this matter supporting my claim so belief in fairytales my dear, life isn't always as it seems.

druid06: Man is an animal, there's this inbounded instinct maybe coded in our D.N.A or something that makes us want to pro-create when we see someone of the opposite sex. Why do you think men are always around virtually aroused the entire day and most of the time all we do is think about sex.

Women especially African women who are westernized should better face the truth, men are polygamous by nature. Any African woman in the house that wants a long lasting relationship should be ready to face this facts and deal with it. If you suspect your husband if infidelity, there's no other option than to look the other way if you want a long lasting relationship.

texanomaly:
So you are saying there is not a single man in the world that does not cheat?

bukatyne: @OP: cheating is not right for any reason. It involves stealing, killing and destruction. God gave humans the power of the mind and we can use this power to spice up our sex lives.

For the guys saying all men cheat, I beg you, please don't believe all men lack self control and are senseless. It is an insult to believe that all men cannot make decisions and stand by it. His would they lead their homes? Marriage is not compulsory. If you know you are a selfish overgrown baby that cannot think with your God given brain on how to spice your own, don't marry. If you cannot uphold the vows you took before God, don't bother making them.

I wonder who Adam was sleeping with besides Eve, perhaps the animals.

For the ladies who think cheating is ok, goodluck

bukatyne: @OP: cheating is not right for any reason. It involves stealing, killing and destruction. God gave humans the power of the mind and we can use this power to spice up our sex lives.

For the guys saying all men cheat, I beg you, please don't believe all men lack self control and are senseless. It is an insult to believe that all men cannot make decisions and stand by it. His would they lead their homes? Marriage is not compulsory. If you know you are a selfish overgrown baby that cannot think with your God given brain on how to spice your own, don't marry. If you cannot uphold the vows you took before God, don't bother making them.

I wonder who Adam was sleeping with besides Eve, perhaps the animals.

For the ladies who think cheating is ok, goodluck

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What if you kill him in the process? It is never good to get violent in the process.

texanomaly:
So you are saying there is not a single man in the entire world that does not cheat?

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lagerwhenindoubt: it is not a crime to be a hypocrite and blissfully ignorant of it.. but as the say... Reality Bites. we aspire to possess LOVE only gods can give (or so we have been told)and yet cannot accept that we are only human, it is in our nature to cheat regardless of the reason. it is called Biology. it is hard-wired into our brains

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No it aint?

If it was then prove it