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Re: My Husband Is Always Running by Nobody: 5:34pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
freecocoa: I know NL is filled with fake stories but believe it or not, there are men like the one described by the OP.LoL very true like some1 I know let him get paid he'll come back when he's broke Some men r scared of their responsibilities I tell u...smh |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by Guyman02: 5:36pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
Efemena_xy: Thank you for this beautiful analysis. This woman surely has a killer tongue even from her brief write up and seems to suffer from excessive uncontrollable anger. The husband is a matured man who walks away from his pregnant wife who may be a violent type, instead of staying behind and allowing himself to snap and the next thing will be inflicting injury on his wife or even death and the first question asked whenever we hear such news is why didnt you just leave the house for her. Madam I will advise you examine yourself by keeping your tongue in check, respect, respect and respect your husband. Allow him to be the man of the house. Like my mum will do to dad whenever she asks him for money for our school fees, feeding or for anything, he will vibrate and shout and ask her what she did with the last money he gave her the other day, she keeps quiet and allows him to express himself as the man, at the end before he leaves the house in the morning, the money will be lying on the table for her to pick. But some other women will start exchanging words and talk back at their husband and give him and make him dread coming back home. Your husband from your explanation seems to be a real gentleman, who would rather walk away than inflict harm on you or get his BP rising. You are the problem here am sorry from your explanations. Pray for God to help you overcome the spirit of not being in control of your emotions and temper which leads to constant arguments and quarrels before he falls into the hands of another accommodating woman. Dont leave him because you will be carrying this same problem to another man if you think you can remarry as you are. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by Kirinwa: 5:39pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
iamsaved: @Efe did you read my post well? Its not about my pregnancy, I don't do all you mentioned. What I mearnt by arguement is normal marital disagreements and it doesn't happen everytime. You saw it coming and embraced it,so live with it.It's not like you just discovered this now. You found out before marriage. Whatever gave you morale to enter matrimony with such a man should keep you there.The sooner you start being self reliant the better. I hope he still picks the bill or does he wish to abandon responsibility? |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by Nobody: 5:40pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
rapmike: u guys are just analyzing the situation as kids.My brother, dating is never a guarantee that a couple won't quarrel when they finally marry. Most people hide their true person during nowadays dating when virtually all tactics for deceiving people and making them love u and feel u are the mr. or miss right have been exposed on every internet website. Dating is way different from marriage. In fact, if I am to decide for all humans, I would cancel dating entirely. People should never taste, or test, they should taste, test and learn in marriage. Dating isn't an internship...human behaviours can change at any moment in life based on condition, environment and situation. The guy's attitude of running away after a mild argument with his wife isn't nice. Though the woman in question may have issues, but first, the guy' s attitude isn't nice. The mother of his baby Oh come on guys...if he can't respect any other person, what about the lovely, innocent baby, huh Any man that has the heart to abandon his child should be shot!!! Babies are the best creatures on earth, so innocent and lovely And I wonder why women cherish sharing their marital issues online...na wa o...today women and this their internet craze eh...may God save una o.... If at all the threadstarter has made up her mind to quit the marriage, and is using indirect way to seek for a replacement hubby on nairaland...then she shud enrol for miss nairaland soon or upload her pics for nairaland guys to check her out, maybe the solution lies there DailyNews and troublemaking eh 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by omatss: 5:41pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
Have ever take your time to ask him when he is in a good mood why he does that any time there is an argument between both of you. If yes what is his response to you? If his response is I don't know why, you need to seek a spiritual solution |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by Nobody: 5:42pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
freecocoa: I know NL is filled with fake stories but believe it or not, there are men like the one described by the OP.some people will break my ribs with laughter today o |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by abujalapdog(m): 5:43pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
AVRS: Dear, I wouldn't advise you leave your hubby. He's simply maladjusted, meet a Counselor, there's sure a way out. ok |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by tellwsdom: 5:44pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
You are living with a mad man ..But if dem call ur husband mad man now, u go dey vex 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by Nobody: 5:47pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
tellwsdom: You are living with a mad man ..But if dem call ur husband mad man now, u go dey vexOMG oh not again |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by abujalapdog(m): 5:47pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
iamsaved: Quite alot to say but this is the most disturbing part. Should I prepare myself for the inevitable? should I inform my parents that my husband is still the same run-away soldier? Still you learn nothing about why he runs? Dont you think it is better for you to do without unecessary arguments an things that will bring about misunderatanding? Cant you do without always playing the right person an remain a wife as a compliment an help met than an authority? Even making decisions to leave the house has already make people see the kind of woman you are already...not just submissive at all. Do you ever see him as the head of the family or as partner you can scold anytime u have an opportunity to? Im not judging you but there cant certainly br smoke without fire.. whatever you use as base for judging him is very wrong(his past) 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by steffans(m): 5:49pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
Wen he leaves... I bilv he alwz has a place to stay or to camp.. Cuz a persin dat dsnt have a place.. To stay must come bck home in few hours.. But den again.. Where does he work?? Who are his frnds D day he runs and dies.. No body will knw what happend to him.. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by networkrecharg: 5:51pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
Pls live with him as he is. Don't expect much from him. He just wants peace. I am in same situation. I take breaks wen my woman is furious. Becos its dangerous AVRS: Dear, I wouldn't advise you leave your hubby. He's simply maladjusted, meet a Counselor, there's sure a way out. |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by Brisingr(m): 5:52pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
nollywood movie: Runaway Groom..jim iyke and omotola in lead role |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by Nobody: 5:53pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
iamsaved: @Efe did you read my post well? Its not about my pregnancy, I don't do all you mentioned. What I mearnt by arguement is normal marital disagreements and it doesn't happen everytime. For you to say that shows how arguably you can become when it come to matters... I can say i fully support your husband. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by Decryptor(m): 5:53pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
Efemena_xy:Any other analysis na WASH! Sooooooooo on-point!! 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by Wislet(f): 5:54pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
This 'Efemana' of a character seems to be the husband, walahi. Or she dey dey on top roof weneva the couple dey get issues. How person go condemn/pass judgement one sided and be so certain of the cause of disagreement between the couple is beyond me. It won't make men see u as a champion. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by INDESTRUCTABLEX(m): 5:57pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
Efemena_xy:Oga u mumu sha o... U dey talk like small pikin. @Op, I don't knw wat to advice. Get a gun and shoot him in d head. My mum and dad argue a lot but I av never taken sides. I view things from both persons perspective and come to a logical conclusion. The major cos of argument is lack of communication and understanding btw couples and humans generally. Before you argue, try and see things in the other persons view. If u "think" u are right den prove ur point. Its an argument, not a fight. Arguments are meant to bring pple to a point of mutual compromise or total change. We Africans take tinz too personal, including me. |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by bettercreature(m): 5:58pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
I always do the same but i always return in the morning to dress for work @Poster i think you should stop doing what normally chase him away 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by pekelepekele(m): 5:59pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
In any relationship ., It is a normal thing to do for a man to leave the house for the woman when there is heavy argument but the worst is that he has to return home the next day and wherever he sleeps the wife have to know about it but two weeks , two months that is too much but hey hope is not that you are a very troublesome person? |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by Nobody: 6:00pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
HotNaijaBabe: @Op..I feel your pains oh cos many people won't understand what you are going through.Eh yaah...nice advice to ur fellow ladies. I only disagree on d issue of courting- it doesn't guarantee a happy marriage. Don't persuade a guy into marriage, ladies won't hear! Don't blackmail a guy to marry u, ladies won't hear! Don't entrap a guy with pregnancy, ladies won't hear! A guy that cares less about kids and children can't make a good husband talkless of father. Its really disheartening what the world has turned to- courtesy of overpopulation, over-modern civilisation and cultures. I still remember the stories my parents told me of how each of their family members were tracing the other's family history to ensure they don't have traces of evil or bad marital conduct, etc. But today, majority of young guys and ladies are ready to wed a guy or girl they stumbled on a road, one road-side church, internet website, or even at a party without minding to inform their parents to carry out deep findings on the background of the person they want to marry. And we are here crying that marriages are not as sweet as before, why would they be, tell me When culture and tradition have been thrown to dust, and we now celebrate and embrace modern civilisation, marry him or her so long as u love him or her. Who told u all that love is all that's needed to sustain a happy marriage Until people trace their ways back to what's right, we will keep hearing and reading more stories like this. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by Niccibabe: 6:00pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
im sowie ooo but is ur husband possessedow can he leave a pregnant woman lyk u 4 dat long, plzzz ma dear lady pray for him very well ooooo 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by drake2(m): 6:03pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
biolabee: Sorry this story is funny Its not funny at all. My Uncle once married a woman, they both had 2 children ; very good job with a british company and very rich too. Every thing is available in the house including official and private cars, but this woman would often nag and even violently smash the windshield of the car in which he was being taken to the office in the morning . He devised a way of avoiding her hurting words and violence by frequently going to work from a hotel room in Ikeja anytime he smelled trouble in the house. The marriage has since become history, some women can truncate your life ; my eldest brother died of stroke cos of a similar scenario. |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by Nobody: 6:03pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
iamsaved:OP your husband has a wife elsewhere.that's just the truth.deal with it.if you're young and have a job.pls divorce him.I blame you if you knew about this his family issue and still married him.maybe you were under pressure to get married.but all is not lost.you can still get out of this mess and have a normal life. I won't be surprised if you come to NL sometime in future to tell us another woman is pursuing you with Acid to leave her husband alone for her.like someone said,he's probably the business-man husband of some unsuspecting lady/ladies somewhere.(Yea some men are like that) I knew of one who had three wives already.one in china.(He does import business frm china) And he came to marry my friend.even already done introduction before we found out.hmm.go test yourself for HIV .if you haven't gotten it from him, walk away while you still have your health.health is wealth. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by nerodenero: 6:11pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
Your handle or username is direct opposite of your story!!! |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by Nobody: 6:16pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
Guyman02:what a nice dad you have. Well gentlemen I guess y'all have a new lesson to learn today. Vibrate and shout whenever you're expected to live up to your responsibilities.that's how to express yourself as the man. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by Nobody: 6:20pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
Hmmm.... Where does he go, when he runs away? Answering this question, is the key. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by Wislet(f): 6:22pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
There is no marital squabble that should make a 'full grown' MAN desert his family for months., even up to one week! It is absurd. For a man to take that big step to be called a husband and father, he must be one capable of taking charge (control) of his home, not run away at the slightest rumble. Where do you intend to run to? Your married friend's house? Doesn't he have a wife too? Or your unmarried pal's house...Who doesn't yet know what marriage is all about? Leaving what God has entrusted to you? Yes, sometimes some women can go too far in shouting/saying hurtful words when tempers are rife, ...but, no quarrel should last more than a day, no matter what it is. That would be the beginning of cracks in the home and marriage. No one should come here and condemn one party as if you know them. Even If you have had such experience, every home cannot be as yours. @OP, if you chase your hubby from the house with your mouth, that's not cool. You need to check/try to control it. Cos the tongue can play tricks on you, you might say what you didn't mean to/will regret later. God's grace is required there(for every woman). But, if it's the usual couple misunderstanding once in a while, then your hubby needs a check-in with reality., and urgently. Running away from mummy's proposal of house chores is absurd, very absurd. But, this is marriage, he has married a woman, not his fellow man. And a woman must talk. Like counsellors will tell the men: a woman's tongue is to her what your physical strength is to you. She cannot fight you physically, so she uses her readily-aailable weapon, the tongue. So when she starts, if you are the short-tempered type, you either remove yourself from the environment momentarily so your anger doesn't escalate/you realize it's just the hurt- and try to calm her enough to discuss. You don't run away from your wife and family because you expect it to be sweet sweet lovey dovey 24/7, 365 days/yr. That's not being realistic. Step up and be the man of the home. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by Wislet(f): 6:24pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
lorretta u: what a nice dad you have.lmao |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by Nobody: 6:24pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
For the first time, i was gonna agree with DN until I saw the don't date or court part. Like just meet a guy and jump into his house to start living together as husband & wife. Who says that Apart from that, you're making sense today. @guyman, i'm sorry to say but that habit of your dad is not good. I really hope you're not planning on doing same cos if you ask your mum very well, I'm sure she doesn't jump up with joy and happiness whenever your dad does that to her. |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by Josephdavid(m): 6:25pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
my sista the only advice i've u.change ur ways,ur characta n see what next.telling ur parents i does think is a bad idea but above all present the issue to almight god n be strong in prayer. |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by mrperfect(m): 6:26pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
This is becoming a new trend for men to leave home whenever there is an issue with wife, I know someone who does this a lot too. But is better than beating a woman. |
Re: My Husband Is Always Running by Wislet(f): 6:26pm On Jul 11, 2013 |
DailyNews: Eh yaah...nice advice to ur fellow ladies.daily news, how u dey? |
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