Nashville:
First of all a few disclaimers; the aim of this thread is not to justify cheating or encourage violence. Cheating is a choice that people make and cannot be justified in any way. Ok, so back to the thread.

I have noticed a new trend on Nairaland, such that, if a married man is cheating; the wife is advised not to bother with the mistress but to face her husband as he is the only one she has business with. When some wives say they plan to confront their husband’s mistress, the general advice is that she has no business with the mistress.

I agree to an extent; but I think sometimes some of these mistresses need to be taught a lesson. The two (man and mistress) people are cheating and both the husband and the mistress should be taught a lesson if possible. There is a lot at stake in marriage especially if you have put in a lot into it.

You can imagine a woman who married her husband when he had nothing. And together they worked hard and she even made personal sacrifices so that they can have a good life. The family finally starts living well; house(s), cars, kids in good schools, then some silly chic somewhere starts giving the husband all the greenlight. For some of these young girls, once they see a successful man; they just begin to flirt. So, in my opinion, the wife should not just sit down there are watch her husband misbehave with these Jezebels; she should fight for her marriage and if need be, give that stupid chic a few slaps. Then she can go home and confront her husband as she deems fit. Some of these young chics are just home breakers who want to reap where they did not sow, and I support wives who want to teach them a lesson. While we should all condemn married men that cheat, we should also strongly condemn young chics that date married men.

Please this is not meant to encourage cheating or violence but sometimes we have to fight for what we believe in. Abi how una see am?

sheunfemix:
I'll defiantly give any lady that messes with my man more than a few biitch slapping!! Here in Nigeria especially, a cheating man is left alone but if the wife cheats she is tagged as a wh0re. I'm not saying any of d parties sud cheat but a lot of customs and beliefs always put women @ d receiving end. The lady will get it big time! I won't do street or fist fighting, naa I'm more dan dat but I'll screw her up in worse ways and I'll fight dirty

ifyalways:
LMAO @ thread title.

Confront mistress ke? Unless na novice in the game. Try that kain nonsense with Lekki babes/Unilag girls and have yourself to blame. They will sooooooooooooo deal with you physically, spiritually and emotionally. Those girls are very dangerous according to 2Face.

Abeg, that fight is not worth fighting for anything. Plus its not justified anywhere. A woman has only her husband to hold accountable, nothing concern the other woman/women.

pickabeau1:

All i see here na voking...
Can you be more specific

sheunfemix:
na mouth I get o. But rily[b] I've seen mistresses Ruin homes[/b] cos the wives are quite. Wen I was in secondary schl our landlord was made nothing cos of all this yeye girls. He worked in American Embassy and was always travelling around but the last tym I saw him, I pitied him. Now his wife is d one feeding him. I will use all d connections I have to finish d woman o >: a girl called me one tym to tell me she was in love with my man and she was crying... I did nothing

coogar:

why should any wife confront a mistress?
unless the mistress took her skinny legs into the matrimonial home, the wife has no business with her. she should face her husband - she made vows to the hubby, not an unknown mistress.

pickabeau1:


Your point of view has merits just like the other school of thought

The only snag with your pov is if the girl has more connections/power than you

At bolded... was it the mistresses who ruined the home or the man who did it

So what happened after she called u

pickabeau1:


Your point of view has merits just like the other school of thought

The only snag with your pov is if the girl has more connections/power than you

At bolded... was it the mistresses who ruined the home or the man who did it

So what happened after she called u

coogar:


why should any wife confront a mistress?
unless the mistress took her skinny legs into the matrimonial home, the wife has no business with her. she should face her husband - she made vows to the hubby, not an unknown mistress.

edwife:
I have utterly no business with any nyama nyama girl out there....

I am the type that will meet my man and the mistress in a shop or eatery,and not raise a finger....

I do my business and waka pass them,as if i did not see them .

He will surely come back home.... and we will have proper talk....

Kimoni:

What if the mistress is the one doing the chasing? And has been rebuffed by the man several times but she won't stop? Or perhaps, the girl doesn't even know he is married like cococandy's example in one of the threads?
Shouldn't the woman face the mistress in this kinda situations?

edwife:
I have utterly no business with any nyama nyama girl out there....

I am the type that will meet my man and the mistress in a shop or eatery,and not raise a finger....

I do my business and waka pass them,as if i did not see them .

He will surely come back home.... and we will have proper talk....

Kimoni:



Say wetin? I go break bottle for dem head! I send them??

sheunfemix:
You will waka pass!! I find dat hard to believe oh. The woman might see u are easy and if u get home to ur husband to talk things out what assurance do u have that he won't go out there to pretend to his mistress that all is well and calm @ home.

aisha2:


The husband no fit tell her say he don marry?

Stalkers are a different case and should be reported to appropirate authorities. They are even more dangerous because they could see the wife as the only thing standing between them and the man and harm her.

So if the lady is a stalker let the police deal with her. If the woman goes to form rambo with a crazy stalker it may not end well

sheunfemix:
well let's say d man ruined his own home cos I believe u true man sud know his worth and value that of his wife. He sud also respect her enough to know that no other women is better than she is. But they are back together and d woman is now the 'oga' cos he works in her schl as headmaster she is a very strong woman too cos she is has adopted two of his mistresses kids.

As for that yeye girl dat called me her case na yaba left own. I told my man about the call and it was funny to him. I dint call her back or pick her calls again. But the next time we saw, I just ignored her. She is an half caste obviously finer. Told my boyfriend then now husband to choose and he choose me lucky him

edwife:

And what makes you think he is coming to a peaceful home ,i repeat i have no business with what the woman thinks,but what my man thinks.....
And trust me,he will be too scared to come back home....

Kimoni:

As the husband tell her so tey she no hear nko?
Stalkers? I am assuming the Naija scenario here. Tell me which man will go to a Naija police station and report that one babe has been disturbing him for a date despite his constant refusals? Even if the man will try to report such, tell me which policeman will leave all the unresolved murder and theft cases before him and would deem it okay to help a full grown man wade off female stalkers. Not sure we have reached that stage yet o.

pickabeau1:


edwife.. can u be specific
What will he come out to meet IF such happened..IT WILL NOT

Kimoni:

What if the mistress is the one doing the chasing? And has been rebuffed by the man several times but she won't stop? Or perhaps, the girl doesn't even know he is married like cococandy's example in one of the threads?

Shouldn't the woman face the mistress in this kinda situations?

Kimoni:


What if the mistress is the one doing the chasing? And has been rebuffed by the man several times but she won't stop? Or perhaps, the girl doesn't even know he is married like cococandy's example in one of the threads?

Shouldn't the woman face the mistress in this kinda situations?