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baby_123: Nigerian women that will rather stand on the toilet even if it is clean. No coogar, try another angle.

stand on the toilet?
oh please, how would they keep their balance by standing on it? you mean to tell me gbogbo big galz stand on it before peeing? are nigerian toilet bowls made of steel?

Hmmn No STI we were making use of condom because he didn't want any injections or coils for me.so when am not safe we make use of CD and we don't make use of them anymore.
its okay thanks for your input

zhukafa: Ya, it hurts. Everybody has his or her way of handling issues, I believe she didn't say it in an aggressive way.

Because if done in a quiet manner, then stories have to be told and I place a listening ear.

Thanks

Oh please, SHUT UP!!! Yes, I said it, shut the hell up! What are u even blabbing? She should fast and pray for a cheating and abusive husband? Are u even listening to yourself? She should keep calm because he is "THE MAN"? Will he also be "the man" and keep calm when he catches his wife with a pack of condoms and she says he should be happy cos she's playing safe? I don't even know what to tell u sef. U are just a sorry case!

Chei! Women don suffer for this life. Especially African women. . . SMH. Everything that goes wrong in a marriage is a woman's fault. Your husband runs away for 1yr and refuses to even ask after his own child, the woman takes the blame for chasing him out with her "caustic" tongue. The man cheats and beats her, the woman doesn't respect him enough. She should put on the AC for the husband and mistress to fuc.k in their bedroom before going off to prepare a delicious dinner for them. Again, women don suffer! Smh. . .They make it look like being a woman is a curse.

Now to the poster. . . Why u dey fall my hand like this na? Ah ah! Don't u like/value your life? Don't u have able bodied brothers or cousins? As in, brothers with hefty chest that can beat the crase outta your husband? Please, inform them ASAP. Don't tell them what to do. They know.

This same thing happened to a neighbour some years back. The jobless husband will beat her atleast once a week. We would always hear her crying and shouting. She refused to report to her family cos she knew what they would do to the man, until one day, the man gave her serious beating, threw her out stark naked and broke her tooth. She couldn't take it anymore and went to report to her brothers. When d brothers arrived, the man was unconscious within 2mins of serious woozing. They put him in d booth of their car and drove off to God knows where. When d man got back from the hospital after a week, he was so humble that a 10yr old could even slap him and get away with it. We couldn't stop laffing. Funny enough, they are still married up till today.

And for those asking if she didn't notice that when they were dating. . . Please, keep quiet already! How much can a person know before marriage? How many men beat their girlfriends? The beating usually starts after marriage when they feel u're helpless and caged.

peggykorol: Hmmn No STI we were making use of condom because he didn't want any injections or coils for me.so when am not safe we make use of CD and we don't make use of them anymore.
its okay thanks for your input

My dear, you are the woman involved here . I believe your husband is your husband , and you know a way to make him change for better with the aid of Gods grace.
Don't even think of leaving him, it's totally off from it. Just hope on God for a change as you work hard to put him in a happy mode.

bettymafy: Oh please, SHUT UP!!! Yes, I said it, shut the hell up! What are u even blabbing? She should fast and pray for a cheating and abusive husband? Are u even listening to yourself? She should keep calm because he is "THE MAN"? Will he also be "the man" and keep calm when he catches his wife with a pack of condoms and she says he should be happy cos she's playing safe? I don't even know what to tell u sef. U are just a sorry case!

Chei! Women don suffer for this life. Especially African women. . . SMH. Everything that goes wrong in a marriage is a woman's fault. Your husband runs away for 1yr and refuses to even ask after his own child, the woman takes the blame for chasing him out with her "caustic" tongue. The man cheats and beats her, the woman doesn't respect him enough. She should put on the AC for the husband and mistress to fuc.k in their bedroom before going off to prepare a delicious dinner for them. Again, women don suffer! Smh. . .They make it look like being a woman is a curse.

Now to the poster. . . Why u dey fall my hand like this na? Ah ah! Don't u like/value your life? Don't u have able bodied brothers or cousins? As in, brothers with hefty chest that can beat the crase outta your husband? Please, inform them ASAP. Don't tell them what to do. They know.

This same thing happened to a neighbour some years back. The jobless husband will beat her atleast once a week. We would always hear her crying and shouting. She refused to report to her family cos she knew what they would do to the man, until one day, the man gave her serious beating, threw her out stark naked and broke her tooth. She couldn't take it anymore and went to report to her brothers. When d brothers arrived, the man was unconscious within 2mins of serious woozing. They put him in d booth of their car and drove off to God knows where. When d man got back from the hospital after a week, he was so humble that a 10yr old could even slap him and get away with it. We couldn't stop laffing. Funny enough, they are still married up till today.

And for those asking if she didn't notice that when they were dating. . . Please, keep quiet already! How much can a person know before marriage? How many men beat their girlfriends? The beating usually starts after marriage when they feel u're helpless and caged.

You are insulting me please, and I don't like it. Your own ideas are the reasons why we have more broken marriages. If you can read her story again , you would see where she said that the man "apologizes". So the extent she took it to might be what arosed the mans anger to beat her up ( not in support) . Your whole story shows that you are not a type to be under the man, rather the man would be under your family, So that's no marriage.

Thanks

zhukafa: You are insulting me please, and I don't like it. Your own ideas are the reasons why we have more broken marriages. If you can read her story again , you would see where she said that the man "apologizes". So the extent she took it to might be what arosed the mans anger to beat her up ( not in support) . Your whole story shows that you are not a type to be under the man, rather the man would be under your family, So that's no marriage.

Thanks

For the third time, SHUT UP! My advice might lead women to seperation with their life intact, but yours leads them to their early grave, which one is the lesser evil? Or didn't u also read where she said that the beatings started with just slaps, now it has progressed to proper beating and hitting of head on the stabiliser. What if she had a serious cranial heamorrage and died in the process?

So she should die, cos she wants to answer "Mrs" abi? . . . And where did I even mention divorce? I gave her a practical way to tackle the problem she is having in her marriage and all u adviced was for her to keep enduring the beatings? U are simply heartless and wicked!

And please, stop going back and forth on this thread displaying your ignorance and wickedness. We have had enough of it! Now, crawl back to that your bedroom and continue beating your wife from where u stopped yesternight. Anu npam!

OP, make sure he comes apologizing at your mama home with white co.ck, she goat, white rabbit, basket filled with native chalk and uda, hand written apology of 'I will never lay my hands on you again no matter what' etc. You should give him condition such as next time he put his hands on you, that will be the end.
Don't take beating lightly or else you are in for a goner.
Happy marriage

bettymafy: For the third time, SHUT UP! My advice might lead women to seperation with their life intact, but yours leads them to their early grave, which one is the lesser evil? Or didn't u also read where she said that the beatings started with just slaps, now it has progressed to proper beating and hitting of head on the stabiliser. What if she had a serious cranial heamorrage and died in the process?

So she should die, cos she wants to answer "Mrs" abi? . . . And where did I even mention divorce? I gave her a practical way to tackle the problem she is having in her marriage and all u adviced was for her to keep enduring the beatings? U are simply heartless and wicked!

And please, stop going back and forth on this thread displaying your ignorance and wickedness. We have had enough of it! Now, crawl back to that your bedroom and continue beating your wife from where u stopped yesternight. Anu npam!

I repeat , I don't want to take it personal. You are insulting me, Madam. If that is how you talk to your husband or whosoever, please dont exhibit it here. Am pleading to you now, and you are feeling as if you are too big or something. I see you who has a heart.

Thanks.

Dantedasz: What do you mean by this?
You can read,can't you?
The thread is there on her profile.
If you are curious you canlearn more from,in fact most of the females supporting her here were against her.

U know, why I don't like arguing (not debating sometimes)on nl is bc pple don't like to debate w'out insulting or bein sarcastic.notin stops u from tellin me its on her profile,i can check it out or better still extract it so pple can read.we can still get along without this cos its rather unecessary but I think that's d norm here.

@ poster

While not take a break from him?

Let your family know. This will keep him in check.

He will come over to your parents' explaining himself. Be easy on yourself.


He will sign to an agreement upon which you could act if he ATTEMPTS to hurt you ever again.

Love practically. Loving a child doesn't mean you won't discipline him/her. Loving your husband doesn't mean he should have you no matter his attitude.


You are priceless

He won't condone such from a future son-in-law


Your life is important to God.

Marriage is a 2-way street: not ENTIRELY your fault.

Peace!!

yellowpawpaw: U know, why I don't like arguing (not debating sometimes)on nl is bc pple don't like to debate w'out insulting or bein sarcastic.notin stops u from tellin me its on her profile,i can check it out or better still extract it so pple can read.we can still get along without this cos its rather unecessary but I think that's d norm here.

My dear,
leave that format,pleeease, you want me to dig out threads where you have engaged in insults?
Any ways, my response to your post was because you were not debating the issue I raised,but trying to show I was not sure of my facts and I pointed out the fact that every posters past threads or past posts are right there on their profile page for all to see their antecedents. I would have quoted same but I an using a phone to post.
Really am not much intrested in this drama queen OPs different nollywood stories about her 'home',but rather am intrested in seeing truthful stories in the family section.
The point is if you as an OP are bringing your drama stories here,you need to make sure they correspond to what you posted last year.
The problem is once the feminists are on their high horses engahin in male bashing,they find it hard to get off,even if contrary evidence is staring them in the face.

@poster you have reached a crucial point in your marriage. Its 50/50 at this point and so be prepared to accept that it may go either way

I remember you and this cheating thing has been an issue for a long time with you and if you remember, people advised you then to take things easy and to stop looking for what is not there. I personally asked you that if you ever found him cheating what will you do but you didnt respond. You are now at that bridge.

It Seems your husband has a short fuse and the anger of being accused of something he hadnt done has further pushed him. its no excuse and men should always try to walk away from these kinds of situations and laying a hand on a woman is not the answer. Women will always push you. its not a new thing and by now, men should have found other ways of dealing with this, without resolving to violence

madam, you first of all need serious counseling . . and also as a couple with your husband cos he too is missing the point somewhere. There is something def wrong in the fabric of your relationship and how you both deal with each other and if you want to both live in peace then that has to change otherwise, you will be talking and he will be beating until God forbid you kill each other.

Plot


A seductive wife

A sex starved hubby

Tensions rise

Caustic tongued wife

Slaps start

Tensions boil


A hunting man

Probing wife

Tensions explode - cerebral breakages


May God help us

zhukafa: I repeat , I don't want to take it personal. You are insulting me, Madam. If that is how you talk to your husband or whosoever, please dont exhibit it here. Am pleading to you now, and you are feeling as if you are too big or something. I see you who has a heart.

Thanks.

Ok ok, sorry for coming at you like that. I just couldn't stand that your "suicide mission" advice.

I don sleep wake up now, much calmer, so let me engage u a lil. . . U see, men (human beings in general) do not physically abuse someone that they know would seriously fight back, directly or indirectly. People pick their fights carefully. U don't pick a fight u know u won't win. U rather pick one that u see the other person as helpless and weak.

Now, there are issues in marriage that the best thing to do is be tolerant, patient and prayerful. The issues might not be resolved immediately, but will get better with time. But this method doesn't work for physical abuse. It is a matter of life and death, so u don't treat it with levity.

I'm sure she kept calm and prayed the other times that he slapped her. But did it stop him? Nope. He progressed to proper beating.

I'm sure if this story was that of a woman who was beaten to death, most poeple advising her to fast and pray will be the first to ask why she didn't leave the abusive man.

I've noticed people will always blame the woman anyways. So u either choose to stay alife and let people talk or take the blame to the grave.

Thanks.

https://www.nairaland.com/930935/pls-how-stop-denying-hubby#10756556

AND
https://www.nairaland.com/996776/he-shows-no-sign-cheatingcould#11519173


Madam OPs past posts on her matrimony.

byvan: Betty stopooooo,before Zhukafa smashes your head with a sledge hammer for being disrespecful

Hahahahahahahaha. Mehn, this family section don dey scare me oooo. They make marriage look like a burden a woman must carry.

Jeez! Ah ah! If u see how vexed I was yesterday eeehhh. I was following the thread, but just too sad to comment and this zhukafa guy kept goin on and on, I couldn't take it any longer biko.

Most men now shy away from their responsibilities. How can u say u love someone, but u cheat on them shamelessly and beat them on top of it all?

Dantedasz: https://www.nairaland.com/930935/pls-how-stop-denying-hubby#10756556

AND
https://www.nairaland.com/996776/he-shows-no-sign-cheatingcould#11519173


Madam OPs past posts on her matrimony.

Women should learn from the silly mistakes of this childish woman.

Single ladies, take note!

Starving your husband with sex is like starving a baby with milk.

Poster from your previous threads,i can't deny that you undid yourself.

bettymafy: Hahahahahahahaha. Mehn, this family section don dey scare me oooo. They make marriage look like a burden a woman must carry.

Jeez! Ah ah! If u see how vexed I was yesterday eeehhh. I was following the thread, but just too sad to comment and this zhukafa guy kept goin on and on, I couldn't take it any longer biko.

Most men now shy away from their responsibilities. How can u say u love someone, but u cheat on them shamelessly and beat them on top of it all?

Like I would say, get a copy of the Nigeria Bible!

honeric01: Women should learn from the silly mistakes of this childish woman.

Single ladies, take note!

Starving your husband with sex is like starving a baby with milk.

Actually she saw that her husband was NOT a cheat and decided to starve him of S/e/x.
She is now here complaining that she found a condom in his pocket?
Freaking drama queen.

Dantedasz: Actually she saw that her husband was NOT a cheat and decided to starve him of S/e/x.
She is now here complaining that she found a condom in his pocket?
Freaking drama queen.

She's not alone in this, many silly women believe using sex as a weapon is an advantage to them. They seem to ignore the fact that sex is now the cheapest in this current world we live in.

bettymafy: Ok ok, sorry for coming at you like that. I just couldn't stand that your "suicide mission" advice.

I don sleep wake up now, much calmer, so let me engage u a lil. . . U see, men (human beings in general) do not physically abuse someone that they know would seriously fight back, directly or indirectly. People pick their fights carefully. U don't pick a fight u know u won't win. U rather pick one that u see the other person as helpless and weak.

Now, there are issues in marriage that the best thing to do is be tolerant, patient and prayerful. The issues might not be resolved immediately, but will get better with time. But this method doesn't work for physical abuse. It is a matter of life and death, so u don't treat it with levity.

I'm sure she kept calm and prayed the other times that he slapped her. But did it stop him? Nope. He progressed to proper beating.

I'm sure if this story was that of a woman who was beaten to death, most poeple advising her to fast and pray will be the first to ask why she didn't leave the abusive man.

I've noticed people will always blame the woman anyways. So u either choose to stay alife and let people talk or take the blame to the grave.

Thanks.

Better, now you are talking. I personally don't like insults because I wasn't grown that way. I hardly insult people, when people gets on my nerves, I leave that arena immediately to cool off. Am happy you can contribute now without insults. From the look from some of your text, it shows that you are from Igbo land, and you should know that in Igbo culture, the woman is always
Under the man and for no reason , should she challenge the man ( that's culture for you) . From the op's post, she was already angry from the generator not being on and boils down to seeing condom inside her hubby's pocket. So even if the man ask for forgiveness for doing it ( even if he does it ) she wouldn't bear it.

I will give you a scenario of what happened in a ministry close to my compound . During the time of revelation ( or what the call it ) the prophetess pointed at a man and told him to stand up, she began to tell him his weakness and that it's women that is tieing him down from moving forward, so people started grumbling . The woman told the man to dip his hand inside his pocket and the man did so and brought out his wallet and opened it. Inside the wallet was about 4000 naira and sacket of condom. People grumbled more and the woman went to the alter and said that if any married man sitted there, that would say that since he got married to his wife , no affair has taken place between him and a woman before should walk up to the alter and take the 4000 naira placed on the alter. Could you believe that no Man there owned up to get it.

So what am I trying to say, it only takes the help of God for marriages to stand. That man is not the only one doing it. So the woman needs endurance and Gods Favour to cope and believe me , If God intervenes, the woman would be happy to have such a man as the husband.

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As much as I hate domestic violence, the truth is that the poster and her husband are a crazy bunch who deserve each other.
She had come here before to complain that he doesn't cheat, that she sniffs his boxers checks his phone and got upset because she didn't find evidence of his cheating, even got into a fight with those who told her that the man is honest and its normal for men to be honest.
Now a year later she is back with this.
She wanted a cheating husband and now she got one who also beats her.
Madam, I hope you are happy now sha. Crazy paraniod woman and a crazy wife beater, match made in heaven, enjoy.

Dantedasz: https://www.nairaland.com/930935/pls-how-stop-denying-hubby#10756556

AND
https://www.nairaland.com/996776/he-shows-no-sign-cheatingcould#11519173


Madam OPs past posts on her matrimony.

Thanks.Now u did what u would hv done since.can u c how everything has taken u turn?
Just finished reading d second topic.
Op,the bible said,
Seek, ye shall find
Knock and the door will open
Ask and it shall be given unto u
I believe ur prayer points has bn answered.
Testimomy time.......!

debrief08: As much as I hate domestic violence, the truth is that the poster and her husband are a crazy bunch who deserve each other.
She had come here before to complain that he doesn't cheat, that she sniffs his boxers checks his phone and got upset because she didn't find evidence of his cheating, even got into a fight with those who told her that the man is honest and its normal for men to be honest.
Now a year later she is back with this.
She wanted a cheating husband and now she got one who also beats her.
Madam, I hope you are happy now sha. Crazy paraniod woman and a crazy wife beater, match made in heaven, enjoy.

GBAM!!

Been awaiting your comments to this thread. Nothing do you jare. Good Morning

zhukafa: Point of correction, Am not saying what the man did was right, no no no, just that the woman should plead to God to redirect her husbands mindset, because God is the initiator of marriages.

Thanks

Can people stop using the name of the Almighty to spread untruths!

How is the Creator the initiator of marriages again? People get married based on the choices that they have made! Whether the marriage fails or succeeds has nothing do with the Almighty but everything to do with the married couple.

You had better express yourself correctly if the above is what you mean. And if its not what you mean then you are dead wrong. A time will come when careless expressions will avenge themselves thoroughly, especially when the Creator is involved.

Err, thanks.

byvan:

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This woman,how e de do u this morning,eehe? Ebi like say oge erugo. Agadi,kedu ka unu di?

Bawss1: Can people stop using the name of the Almighty to spread untruths!

How is the Creator the initiator of marriages again? People get married based on the choices that they have made! Whether the marriage fails or succeeds has nothing do with the Almighty but everything to do with the married couple.

You had better express yourself correctly if the above is what you mean. And if its not what you mean then you are dead wrong. A time will come when careless expressions will avenge themselves thoroughly, especially when the Creator is involved.

Err, thanks.

I repeat myself , incase you don't know. God is the initiator of marriages. You can read this to learn more. http://www.biblicalperspectives.com/books/marriage/1.html

Thanks

Bawss1: Can people stop using the name of the Almighty to spread untruths!

How is the Creator the initiator of marriages again? People get married based on the choices that they have made! Whether the marriage fails or succeeds has nothing do with the Almighty but everything to do with the married couple.

You had better express yourself correctly if the above is what you mean. And if its not what you mean then you are dead wrong. A time will come when careless expressions will avenge themselves thoroughly, especially when the Creator is involved.

Err, thanks.

I don't think u r a christian else u wouldn't hv said this.
Nawa o! Nl is truly all round entertainment.

honeric01: She's not alone in this, many silly women believe using sex as a weapon is an advantage to them. They seem to ignore the fact that sex is now the cheapest in this current world we live in.

but sex is a weapon....
women have always used what they have to get what they want. that's how it has always been.