Monicasque:


wow. SO there are people who still think like this. Tell me when last did u check your hiv status? You brother? sister? cousin? uncle? or your lover? Let me ask u, what would happen if your cousin contracted the deases? would u never allow them in your house? Would u never eat their food?

Tejufemi:
wts up wt d way i think?i shud b asking u dat....i am not saying I'll stigmatize dem,make dem feel unwanted&terrible,but show dem love....not 2d extent of exposing myself wen wisdom will say don't share sharp objects,else,contraction....bring it on

Monicasque:



well if that is how u feel. So how would u feel if u did not get a certain job just because of your status? So an hiv + mother should never cook for her kids?

cinammon:

An HIV positive mother or relative is different from a total stranger who u r employing as 'a help'...haven't u heard enof bizzare stories to make u cautious U can't keep an infected relative away because U love and TRUST them, it's d natural family bond...but U can't rate 'd help' same as u rate a family member...this is because no matter how u try to b nice, evrybody has their own intentions @heart...I knw of a frend whose house help used needles to puncture ha eyeball wen she was just 3yrs old, now she's a full grown lady wit jus one eye...u take in a stranger who is HIV+, what if they decide 2 secretly nd deliberately transmit d disease to the innocent kids?? Testing 'the help' doesn't mean discrimination, u can't totally trust a stranger wit ur family.

cinammon:

An HIV positive mother or relative is different from a total stranger who u r employing as 'a help'...haven't u heard enof bizzare stories to make u cautious U can't keep an infected relative away because U love and TRUST them, it's d natural family bond...but U can't rate 'd help' same as u rate a family member...this is because no matter how u try to b nice, evrybody has their own intentions @heart...I knw of a frend whose house help used needles to puncture ha eyeball wen she was just 3yrs old, now she's a full grown lady wit jus one eye...u take in a stranger who is HIV+, what if they decide 2 secretly nd deliberately transmit d disease to the innocent kids?? Testing 'the help' doesn't mean discrimination, u can't totally trust a stranger wit ur family.

chaircover: @mascot, I am not going to knock your girlfriends parents because they must have their own reasons for their own parenting style, but the fact that they do it, doesn't mean that all parents should automatically do it.

. . . But I am going to tell you this . . .and that there is a lot more to bringing a child up than checking her hymen every 6 months. May I ask, how her parents are checking that their sons are not sexually active too . . .or is it only the daughters that count?.

The parents should be more concerned in bringing up as well adjusted young woman in every area and not just the fact that she is keeping her hymen. Of what good is a hymen if she is going to be a rubbish wife, mother, colleague, neighbor, employee, employer etc

If they have done their job well, they should as parents be in a position to be able to trust and vouch for her anyway. So if she is in UNI abroad, will they bring her home every 6 months for the virginity test?

Keep an open door policy and give the child an opportunity to be able to come to you and tell you anything, and the child will confide in you and you will be surprised at what you can talk about and prevent even before it happens.

Fear is not the best way to bring up a child. Yes it works sometimes but not always. The parents could be doing their virginity test and she may be having anall sex with a man . . .how can the parents test for that?

mascot87: one more thing,when your girl child attains the age of 7-8,carryout virginity test on her every six month and let her know how disappointed you will be if she losses her virginity for any reason other than marriage.