Fhemmmy:

Gbam! cos together, they would all be able to take care of the rest, as long as the house is live-able - It could be managed

debrief08: Na wa oh, all this plenty list on less than 100k per month not to even talk about tax, insurance pension etc, he will take less than 70k home a month. Ha.

I don't know the arrangement with his family but let him be rest assured that if he ignores Mama and go ahead to marry the wife will be constantly harrassed, God help her if she wears a new dress, she will be abused to high heavens for reaping where she didn't sow.

Why would we produce children and come and burden the other children with your reproductive decisions?
Not saying people shouldn't help out but to carry the whole family problems and lump on one who wasn't there when the parents decided to have plenty children is unfair.

I will appeal to him to talk honestly with his people, negotiate what he can and can't do.
I hope the fiance is working if not he will be adding another burden to his already heavy load on such small amount.

He must rent a house and not put her in his family house na die be that.
They shouldn't rush into having kids till the finances are stable, no need bringing a child and adding another mouth to feed.

I really hope we will rise up and say No to bad leadership, if the country was better the whole family wouldn't be depending on just one salary.

cosby: go ahead and get married, the family involvement will never stop. you are just prolonging the days.

voltron: Well it depends on what type of family he was raised in.. there are some biatch a.ss families though. you hustle to pay for your school fees, you get part-time jobs and still feed the family from your meagre earnings and when you get married you are still feeding them and your new family paying their rent, sending siblings to school... gawd!! it never ends.. when you look back you realise that they are all sitting on their lazy ass.es waiting for payday from you. who works like a jackie all month long.. families should realize that should you die, they will have to find someone to leech off

Ibhamen:

Another like from me.
Family responsibilities never ends! Whether he marries now or later, they would continue to ask!
The more he earns, the more he would spend!
He needs a spouse that can endure or else.................

Fhemmmy:

Families responsibility will never end but could be minimized.

Ibhamen:

Yes, it can be minimized but we all know the cost of living soars high everyday.

A sibling was trained to school, but is unable to get a job after a while, now they are talking of going for masters so that there would be a better chance of getting a job, BUT on whose account? The same man that has fulfilled all their desires and still sends a monthly feeding upkeep?

tochimas: I think, he should at least take up one of the siblings education if he can juggle it with marriage, if not wait for one person to graduate and hope he secures a job fast enough, that way he can have somebody to share the burden with, I am a lady but I kinda also has the same responsibility, my family is almost a football team, my father was doing ok, but has fallen into bad times before we could go to the uni, but before then he was able to train one of his younger brother, who fortunately is doing very well now, so I was sent to school by my uncle , and he is still sponsoring two of my siblings while my hubby is sponsoring one, the remaining guy is doing business apprentice and is also left for my hubby to settle upon graduation, each one of them still calls me for minor minor stuff, I cant wait for them to be on their feet. I just thanks God this is not a permanent situation. It will be permanent if he decides to be selfish and think only for himself. This is Africa and not American or Europe. Lest I forget, I found away to make the boys get pocket money without pestering me all the time. Bought them cameras and photo printers, go to weddings and occasions and hustle for pocket money and let us worry about the school fees and books

youngalex: my close friend with a secured job(earning #1.1m per annum),just started working last year is currently contemplating getting married but his family is kicking against it especially the mum who feels there are many family responsibilities(siblings in Uni,renovating the house in the village,opening a shop for mum etc) that needs to be taken care of ,he needs my advice so am throwing the issue to the house if u were in his shoes what will u do?

ileobatojo:

Any mother that kicks against her child getting married for the aforementioned reasons is wicked.

That is all.

eddiebruk:


You must be high on Pepsi

ileobatojo:


Are you the mother in question? Yea? You're wicked. And greedy as hell.

eddiebruk:

And you are a Charlatan and ungrateful numskull with 0% Sympathy for motherhood, no lady should marry a man who disrespect his mother because if he can disrespect his mother then the wife is bound to suffer more than disrespect... It is men like you that allow their wife's to Maltreat and disrespect their mothers because you have been turned into slaves and houseboys

ileobatojo:

Lmao! You're really in pain, aren't you?

Wicked and greedy people and their sympathizers. God deliver Nigeria from your grips.

gboss4sure: If he is the first son let him settle his family first, man must do what he gat to do. With that amount he is earning now it is too small, 1.1m per year? Can he take care of a woman with it. Let him open up another business for himself, then when he gets more money he should open a business for his family so that the needs of his siblings can be settled from there... Omoh woman need no be wetin earning of 1.1M per year go fit solve, not to talk of when the woman starts droping children.

At 1.1m he should be looking into opening another business that will be making him money and not to talk of getting married. Family issue no be small matter o

soul_glo:

Oh please. Is his mother God? The answer to that is no. Here are the things the OP's friend has listed that the mother wants. Renovate a house in the village. Help with his siblings education. Set up a shop for her. Renovating the house in the village should be out of the question. Helping the siblings in the University should not stop a man from getting married. Why? Because those siblings can also help themselves by doing something on the side to supplement the little their brother can afford. It should not all fall on him. There are people who got educated with no parents. They hustled. His siblings can hustle. The only one that makes some sense is setting up the business for his mother. This should also have a condition. Is this business being set up to actually pay for expenses or just a pit that he will keep putting money into for the next 10 years until Mama decides it is not worth it anymore. If he sets up a business and mama is working, siblings are also doing their hustle on the side and he is also contributing then there is no need to imprison a young man in his prime. A mother that would put a curse on her child because he decided to marry is not the mother you make sacrifices for. When the man starts having babies and non are boys and his mother tells him to marry another wife or she will curse him maybe he should run and do just that because of the fear of a curse. There's nothing to fear but fear itself.

backwardneva: lt depends on how ready the man is,cos family responsiblities will always be there as long as he's stil alive.He has his life to leave more so it is better to start now(marriage)when he stil have somthin to earn as salary.The earlier the better.My advice is to go ahead wit his marriage combine resources wit his wife and forge ahead wit his life rather than allowing family responsibilities to tie him down.