this is mostly focused on the girls because na the girls dey keep deep deep secrets pass. . . . e.g abortions, past times uve cheated, sugar daddy and momies, faking pregnancies, and basically all the wicked things uve done in past relationships.
GURLS
when ure in a relationship with a guy u love and trully loves you. . . you may not have discused it yet but you think he has the potential to be the one. . . do you tell your secrets? if you do, when do you determine is right? after he does something selfless? after he proves hes love? after he proposes?

do you think its a wise move to tell deep secrets to the man u may want to spend the rest of your life with? will it back fire? do you think its wiser to keep the secrets to yourself as long as it doesnt affect the both of you?

when ure abt to be married do you believ in all that he is my husband to be let me enter my wedding a clear concience talk no matter how bad or promiscuos ur past life was? and vice versa. . .

GUYZ
after youve met THE ONE and she tells you a deep secret does it change your view of her? do you love her less? will you haunt her with it 4 eva? or will u just ponder on it for a few days and move on?

even when you deem the sectrets unbearable do you have pity on those hu have bad secrets that couldnt be helped such as beign raped and aborting the baby e.t.c. and vice versa . . .

basically: TO TELL OR NOT TO TELL?
nairalanders pls lets hear your views, and past stories and wt u urself will do. . .
this is not a plea 4 advice but a debate. no one knows hu u are so theres no need to be hypocritical or form holier than thou. whut are ure REAL views??

personally im not the kind who would keep secrets from the guy im with. from the start, if i have something tell him, then i will tell him right then and there. if he excepts it cool, i guess the relationship can go forward. but he has a problem, see you later. cuz if you cant except me for who i am then, you dont need to be in my life. but i really dont that bad of secrets.

i don't tell him all y should i?everybody should have a secret naaa

lo @ jekad
ABI OHH!!

There are secrets and there are SECRETS!!!!!!

@Jackal

any reason why u spend so much time in the Romance sections these days ?

Intel has it that u are trying desperately to capture Stillwater and a few other chics here . . . .true dat ?

Dr Kitaun:

@Jackal

any reason why u spend so much time in the Romance sections these days ?

Intel has it that u are trying desperately to capture Stillwater and a few other chics here . . . .true that ? 

oh gawd kitaun has come again

waterworks:

lo @ jekad
ABI OHH!!

my sis ´no be true?dats y dey call it secrets------meaning for u alone

somethings r better left unsaid o jare before ,talking is dangerous cos d man might just die of heart attack cos hes little heart cant take d news

Welcome Kitaun

Jenny, I'll advice you to leave him alone . . .thank ya

I ban all you monitoring spirits, I break ur hold in my life  . . .wetin naw ?  

   

Not To Tell!  

some men can handle the truth!

Dr Kitaun:

I ban all you monitoring spirits, I break your hold in my life . . .wetin naw ?

Where have you been na?
Haba!
No let me divorce you oh, you just e-packed and left

Dr Kitaun:

I ban all you monitoring spirits, I break your hold in my life  . . .wetin naw ?  

   

mesmerize stop monitoring dis man  

jekad:

mesmerize stop monitoring this man

No can do!

@post
sorry oh, am not "experienced" enough to go through all those B.S! abortion etc. . jeez!

@Mesmerize

pls leave me now or DECLARE UR UNDYING LOVE FOR ME . . .NOW !

Dr Kitaun:

@Mesmerize

please leave me now or DECLARE UR UNDYING [b]HATE [/b]FOR ME . . .NOW !

Why do you want me to declare my undying hate for you?
I dnt do such!!

Dr Kitaun:

@Mesmerize

please leave me now or DECLARE UR UNDYING LOVE FOR ME . . .NOW !

is that the new way to woo women now?

Help me ask am o!

~Pandora~:




is that the new way to woo women now?

yep that is the new way. romance is a lost cause.

@Pandora

u wan tell me say u never sabi say Morenike don dey chase me for NLAND teytey ?

Dr Kitaun:

@Pandora

u wan tell me say u never sabi say Morenike don dey chase me for NLAND teytey ?

If she chase u, u ma run. .  its that simple!

Dr Kitaun:

@Pandora

u wan tell me say u never sabi say Morenike don dey chase me for NLAND teytey ?

I'm here trying to woo you, you're doing shakara?
Bring that body over here or

@poster
Which of the wicked acts have you done?

Well, nice writes up.as for me i guess imma tell her coz everyone has done one or two things is the past and it beta you let her know coz  the secret might comes out some day when you think every is gone for gud.and if the guy in particular should know bout it.guess that might be some thing Else(so this is what have been living with all this while)with this there might not be trust,Moreso the guy will jst loose intrest and would not belive what ever you tell him after then.
i guess, is best you tell him bout yo past by the time some of such comes up he'll definatly know how to handle to things.
we should all be straight with our lover life if not, you might regret keeping the secret to ya self, and we all know that there nothing new understand the sun.so you won't be 1st nor the last person some thing of that can happen to.
Peace,

There is no secret that will not be revealed to your partner some day no matter how you cover it.I told my wife every thing about my past when we were courting because i had a very rough past.

okonfuwa, onyinye, mesmerise, dr kituan thnk u oh! imagine my delight wen i saw 24 response only to come and see all of u deviating from the topic. . . FOR A WHOLE PAGE!!! if u know wat is gud 4 u u betta come back and post ur responses!!

wat happened in the past stays in the past.
simple answer to the long story.

they are called secrets cause they are secrets

Adex285, thanks for your sincere response. Your opinion, on my view is the ideal thing to do.

thanks sagod,

There is no secret that will not be revealed to your partner some day no matter how you cover it.I told my wife every thing about my past when we were courting because i had a very rough past.

thank u GODALONE
because da day she would findout humm

Hello origina9ja,
if you won't mind can you share some of yo rough past with the nairalanders.no offence
jst curios