So I met this Nigerian Man at my job.  We've been talking for one week now, mainly at our company's (Societe General) cafeteria.  It's like we see each other and we chit chat.  Yesterday, i sat down in the cafeteria and had lunch with him.   He asked me out, I declined.
I told one of my girlfriends about him asking me out and she said (see below in red).  Honestly, I am not looking for love in my life right now, as I am enjoying my single life. In fact, I am enjoying my single life so much that I had one of the greatest time in Harlem (my favorite place to go shopping/hang out in the summer) today with my daughter.  I even saw the Mosqué (masjid) that one Mus'lim mentioned  to me. 

Nigerian men cannot be trusted !!!! I have been going out with an igbo guy for over 13 years. We both have a daughter together, she is now 5 years.
He took me to Nigeria a few years ago and his family thought when he got back to canada he would have married me.Every time i would ask about marriage, he would say i have to make a few millions before we settle down,to my surprise he went to nigeria 3 years ago and marry another woman without telling me. The family told him not to marry that girl he met on the street, but they could not stop him from doing so.His family did not attend the wedding.At this time he is not speaking to no one in his family, not even his mother.He has been in Nigeria now for the pass 4 months, and up to now he have not even payed his own mother a visit,Can you imagine !!!!

That is always da case.They just want sum1 to play with here and go back 2 Naija and Marry, I am , about Nigerian men here maself, be very careful

@ poster
U have already made ur stance known that u aint ready for any relationship, however i must say ur friend's view on Nigerian guys is simply subjective cos of her bitter experience with her ex. This does not necessarily mean evry nigerian dude out there is irresponsible. My advice is u take time to get to know this guy inside out before u judge him. Then u can make up ur mind if u wanna have anything to do with him

@post
That's the spirit!

SINGLE! SINGLE!! SINGLE!!

But for not trusting naija men, did you just realize that? Even CNN knows

Mesmerize:

@post
That's the spirit!

SINGLE! SINGLE!! SINGLE!!

But for not trusting naija men, did you just realize that? Even CNN knows

sharrap jo!

Why did you bother to come post this here? If you are so 'secure in your singleness' why then come here to post something simply to debase/insult naija men? Of what benefit is that to you?

So there are no stories of AA men or White men leaving their wives/girlfriends and doing stupid things? I really wonder why you women even bother - STAY OFF NIGERIAN MEN!!

keep to your own kind and save yourself the heartache, all this misrepresentation and painting a whole nation of men with the same brush has become really tiresome. Naija men this naija men that. . . the other day someone was asking what 'you're so sweet' means from a naija man

Since you aren't interested, keep declining and save us the trouble of hearing your sad/bitter story in a couple of months' time.

Mesmerize:

@post
That's the spirit!

SINGLE! SINGLE!! SINGLE!!

But for not trusting naija men, did you just realize that? Even CNN knows

the question is - are u single ? and for ow long? do u intend to stay forever?

debosky:

sharrap jo!

Bite me!

And plzzzz, I hope that essay was not for me o.

lonelypal:

the question is - are u single ? and for ow long? do u intend to stay forever?

Answer the post or move along. Thank you!

Taking a cue from debosky. . . STAY OFF NIGERIAN MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!

so, did u decline because he is Nigerian or simply because you don't want a relationship?
abi wetin be the correlation sef

Mesmerize:

Answer the post or move along. Thank you!

If u read carefully u will realise have done that, wondering y u have a prblm ansring ma question

lonelypal:

If u read carefully u will realise have done that, wondering y u have a prblm ansring ma question

Why should I have a problem answering it?

Mesmerize:

Why should I have a problem answering it?

aslo wondering why, u should have asked ur self same in the first place before jumping into the line

lonelypal:

aslo wondering why, u should have asked your self same in the first place before jumping into the line

So not wanting to answer is jumping into the line?

Wow, all this tme I thoight Cayon was actually Nigerian

Mesmerize:

So not wanting to answer is jumping into the line?

no, ur 'SINGLE! stance spirit, lol it aint the spirit gurl, ur compounding her prblms

TOH:

Wow, all this tme I thoight Cayon was actually Nigerian

Thats the point, she 's here cos she wants ans and not bashing

lonelypal:

no, your 'SINGLE! stance spirit, lol it aint the spirit girl, your compounding her prblms

How am I compounding her problems? or are you one of those bafoons that thinks a complete woman is a woman in a relationship?

Mesmerize:

How am I compounding her problems? or are you one of those bafoons that thinks a complete woman is a woman in a relationship?

Frm the tone of ur statement i can tell ur single and if not maybe u intend to remain so perhaps frm bitter xperiences frm d past, no hard feelings lady, my point is ur comment on this should not be influenced by the uncompromising stance u have on Nigerian men which obviously is rooted in ur tone of conversation

Okay, maybe I'm a li'l slow on the uptake but I don't get the topic.

lonelypal:

Frm the tone of your statement i can tell your single and if not maybe u intend to remain so perhaps frm bitter xperiences frm d past, no hard feelings lady, my point is your comment on this should not be influenced by the uncompromising stance u have on Nigerian men which obviously is rooted in your tone of conversation

ROTFLMAO!!
Isn't it just funny how ppl come to a conclusion abt someone else, isn't it?

Sisikill:

Okay, maybe I'm a li'l slow on the uptake but I don't get the topic.

you aren't slowit IS pointless, relating a snippet of a story about being asked out by a naija guy, then getting back to her surreptitious motive - bashing naija men. some dude asked you out, no details on the guy, but we get the life story about some person out there who has no bearing on the man in question, except of course, sharing the same nationality. Rubbish.

Mesmerize:

ROTFLMAO!!
Isn't it just funny how people come to a conclusion about someone else, isn't it?

funny?   maybe someone else would ans that

A woman aint complete without a man in her life! GRAB IT!

thats why y'all called WO[b]MAN[/b]  

debosky:

you aren't slowit IS pointless, relating a snippet of a story about being asked out by a naija guy, then getting back to her surreptitious motive - bashing naija men. some dude asked you out, no details on the guy, but we get the life story about some person out there who has no bearing on the man in question. Rubbish.

Oh, okay then.

Thanks.

Hafta remember to always go with my first intincts.

lonelypal:


funny? maybe someone else would ans that

A woman aint complete without a man in her life! GRAB IT!

thats why y'all called WO[b]MAN[/b]

Hmmm really?
So what do you call a man without a woman in his life?

@post

Why are you telling us since you're already enjoying your single life Please remain single and incase you changed your mind, please STAY OFF NIGERIAN MEN because they're the worst set of human in the world _{afterall there are men in somalia,kenya etc} when i say their are sexist, some people say "just yab" _{*hisssssssssssssss*}

dreeldee:

@post

Why are you telling us since you're already enjoying your single life Please remain single and incase you changed your mind, please STAY OFF NIGERIAN MEN because they're the worst set of human in the world _{afterall there are men in somalia,kenya etc} when i say their are sexist, some people say "just yab" _{*hisssssssssssssss*}

hmmm. . coming from a sexist himself!

TOH:

Wow, all this tme I thoight Cayon was actually Nigerian

My father is Nigerian, I don't what that makes me?? I love one Nigerian man - my dad, but my dad isnt even decent. i love him but he's not because I still don't understand why he couln't take my mom to visit his family in Nigeria.

As to why I declined his invitation,  besides me enjoying single life -

1) I read lots of negative vibes about Nigerian men on this forum

2) My father never invited my mother to Nigeria

3) afraid

4) to make matters worse - reading one of my girlfriends email.

However, growoing up I always say I'll like to date a Nigerian man all because my father is Nigerian.

I'll ask God to guide me in my choice when I am ready to date again

you sound like you've gone through a lot, but it still doesn't justify this thread - what were you hoping to achieve in posting your friend's story? Like you said, there is enough negativity here about naija men, so you decided it wouldn't be complete without your auspicious addition?

Stay single I say, or avoid naija men - if you, an intelligent and educated grown woman thinks this way- that all men in a country can be painted with the same brush, there is no other option

debosky:

you sound like you've gone through a lot,

Nah, I am just "Picky" with men. I guess it's either my way or

debosky:

Stay single I say, or avoid naija men -

What's your reason behind your bold statement?
Bonne nuit -a demain

because no naija man deserves to deal with the built up stereotypes you seem to have developed - you will either attract the kind of man you've imagined (as described by you and your friend) or you will project this image on a hapless man who had no such tendencies in the first instance.

Do your thing girl, but it seems your mind is made up - naija men can't be trusted and all that, so avoid them no?

debosky:

because no naija man deserves to deal with the built up stereotypes you seem to have developed - you will either attract the kind of man you've imagined (as described by you and your friend) or you will project this image on a hapless man who had no such tendencies in the first instance.

Do your thing girl, but it seems your mind is made up - naija men can't be trusted and all that, so avoid them no?

hypocrite.

care to explain oyinye?