nKay448: We used to think that falling into bed with someone too soon would disqualify you from being considered girlfriend material. But welcome to 2013, when the world is a lot less sexist than it used to be.

"In this day and age, more people recognize sex as an important component of a successful relationship, not something to be ashamed of, "For those people, it's important to establish sexual compatibility early on, and having sex on the first date may be the right move for them."

Ultimately, getting 'nekkid' with some guy you've known for only 2 hours may not be your thing, and that's fine too. The point is that hard-and-fast dating rules (like "No sex till date five" and old-fashioned expressions like the vile "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" are antiquated and harmful—they produce all this unnecessary anxiety and shame about something normal and natural: dating and sex.

You go on a date. It's fun. You hook up…and then he loses interest. Why did this happen? Who knows: Maybe he's too picky, maybe he doesn't feel a spark, maybe he's commitmentphobic, or maybe he's just a game-playing douche.

There is one variable, however, that almost never feeds into the equation: whether you "gave it up" too soon. It's a misconception that is held by millions but the truth is, most guys just don't think like that. Men are simple creatures. In the history of planet Earth, no guy has ever said, "She's awesome. She's intelligent. She's sexy, and she's into Game of Thrones. There's only one problem.…We hooked up on the first date."

If there's chemistry, there's chemistry, and from the guy's perspective, it doesn't really matter if we hook up on date one or date seven.

"If you know that sleeping with someone won't bring out your best or will make you needy, it's a good idea to wait.
"However, don't wait because you think the guy will lose respect or interest. Wait because of how it will affect you. It's really not about him. Guys who are interested in you will still call and pursue you after they've seen you naked."

Confession time: It's also possible that he won't call after a first-night hookup. If the man and the woman are a match, it doesn't really matter when they hook up. Corollary: If they're not a match, it also doesn't really matter.

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♥Dεs•Chγκσ♥:
I think too much emphasis is being placed on males, like they're the sole benefactors of sex.. Ladies had better start enjoying it for their own good, because in spite of what is said, come today, come tomorrow, guys would keep bedding more than one chic. Besides, you hook up, have sex, the relationship didn't work and you go your separate ways sounds better than you put in all your effort and time over the years, you still have sex, it still didn't work and you'll still go your separate ways. Someone did say 'Every break-up brings you a step closer to whom you're meant to grow old with'

Omolola1: S.ex on the first date? Yuck

nKay448:
I stand right by you

Toktee: So,so,so i i i think i i am in love with you babe

quivah: @des.chyko
There are two things involved in your comparison:
The first instance;you made it sound as if se.x was the major reason for the breakup..like the guy dump the girl cause he felt she was cheap or its the other way round or another thing caused the breakup.
The second instance; again,you made it seem relationship revolves around s.ex. If after the wait,the relationship got crashed after the se.x..it simply means the se.x dint work!! Or another thing caused the breakup.
Both the first and second instances! There are other reasons to break up aside se.x...its not just about s.ex!
With this,its better to wait!
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So,either ways its better to wait!
I prefer the later(waiting) why? Along the line,there is a high chance of breaking up before the sex with other factors being the p with lil or no regrets after all "come today come tomorrow guys would keep bedding more than one chic" isn't it better to be -1 for some particular guys?!
.I believe a high percentage of girls think the same way..
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nKay448:

sEX now sEX four month leta!!!, a relationship that isn't ment to be wont be.

quivah:
yeah! True...
More like,sex wont keep a relationship strong,..so why the stress?!thank you!
But then again,the latter is the best.with high chance of breaking up within the period of 4months before the s.ex..
Don't tell me,the 'what is not meant to be" signs wouldnt show during/before the 4months?..

Its not about sex..there are other factors to consider.


Look ^^^what a guy up there think of girls..will such a person respect you after s.ex on the first date?..

nKay448:
Anyway am not in support of sEX on a first date. There are actually more important factors dat can make or mare a relationship.

exactly .

quivah: someone forgot this is AFRICA!!

Amya: If you hook up with every guy you have a first date with (whether or not a relationship later occurs) wouldn't that make you a sl.ut or something?

Naturally, if you sleep with a guy on the first date, he assumes that's what you do with every other guy, and no matter how awesome you are, he'll never take you seriously.

quivah:
birds of a feather lol..
I never knew people fall for reasons like this! Lol

quivah: someone forgot this is AFRICA!!