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She's pecking another man, right.

Is that what you just found out.

Interesting super story.

Bros,i have a questin to ask.Are you nw rich?becos u said , you left ur ex,all becos of financially probs .or you are dating ur fiance mainly becos her parent is rich.your reply will guide on wht to post .

Now u know wat a real woman s?
Smiles n chuckles once
live wit it dude

So what do YOU want to do.

^Everything is complicated. And I cant even think straight of what step to take

For some reason I can't quite place I refused commenting on ur initial post. This time around I will.

First, there's no rule that says your friend can't get with your ex. In this case however, your friend probably has malicious intent regarding the way he encouraged you to part ways with her and then covertly moved in on her,  but then. . . . you have yourself to blame for not realising this and allowing your financial status to dictate what to do.

My advice: bone this new babe, elope with ur 1st love!   A bit dramatic but it suffices, that new girl is nothing but trouble.

The mistake you did was,you allowing your to tell wht you shld do.The guy could hav been dreaming on how he wil capture ur ex,bt you ur self gave him a helping hand.just move on with ur life,no body shld dicdate hw ur life or marriage shld be,if u kwn u are nt secure with ur fiancee,is better u get rid of her before she give you high blood pressure.

lool 190, why you wicked? Rubbish

Oh well

I forecast early divorce if that wedding holds.

@op
this is something i have learnt,

don't try to play the gentle man by letting your woman go,

even if in your mind you thought you were doing the right thing,
others obviously had other motives for advising you thus.

let her be the judge of whether she wants to be with you or not.

sometimes letting go when the other party does not want to leave is a really callous thing to do

i will advice you go back to the other lady and apologise,

nearly made your mistake though but thank God i decided to ask a female friend of mine who has gone through same and she adviced me against such.
when a woman loves you she will be with you through thick and thin, letting her go for such excuse, isn't the right thing to do,

hope your first love forgives you though

^Thanx man. I am thinking of calling off this engagement for real. It'l really cause a stinker but I guess I just have to man up.

If you like it, then you should put a ring on it! It's sad that you were shallow and insecure enough not to trust either the love you shared with your e to be strong enuff to stand up to any opposition due to the fact that you were financially down, and that you did not trust her to wait for you until you became comfortable, or were you thinking that you could do better once you had some change jangling in your pocket?

Either way, suck it up and save yourself a lifetime of hurt, break up the engagement before you become a miserable husband, go back to your ex and beg her to take you back. If she does, fine. If not, you have tried. Either way, you'll be doing yourself and your fiancée a disservice if you married her while feeling the way you do now. Once upon a time, you were chivalrous enough because you felt you didn't have enough to offer, extend the same courtesy you gave to your ex to your fiancée, albeit for different reasons. You feel like it's not gonna work; don't waste her time, raise her hopes, and let her make a fool of herself and her family. Your uncles will not live with her and father her children, YOU will. YOu can't handle that, bow out.

I just logged in for sole purpose of commenting on your thread. My advice: don't blame your uncle for walking away. He he has no idea of what you have seen. And note that you are his, you can always go back and apologise to him and then you can open his eyes.
As for the aje butter, who literarilly has no idea what life is all about, don't blame her too. Its how she was raised. Your case remind me of igbinedion's daughter who wedded only to be divorced after a year. Why? Igbinedion( Sir Gabriel and not lucky) was interfering in thier marriage,the only thing thing the daughter does is driver around town with escort just to buy films and she buys them at my friends store located in GRA and the son-in-law,being a real man,summoned courage and called of the wedding. The house that was built for them has been abandoned.
What am I saying? This is the headache with aje butter. Call off the wedding if you want to have a peaceful life and live longer.
Swallow your pride and go back to your ex. You have more than 80% chance of getting her back because you were her first and she knows you more than your friend. She would rather have you see her unclothedness than your friend, and from your story, i don't think you were ever rude to her. You treated her nicely ,right? Those are the bullet to target. You have to act FAST.
Please, when you are dealing with the aje or the wedding issue, THROW SENTIMENT TO THE GUTTER. People who are sentimental are hardly regarded as anything in this world and thats what your friend did to you. Such is life. BE BOLD AS A LION. GET UP ,STAND UP, STAND UP FOR YOUR RIGHT, GET UP, STAND UP, DON'T GIVE UP THE FIGHT.
Between you and your friend, do it diplomatically. There many ways to kill a rat.
Regards: jideofor

@heavyG,pls call off the wedding for your happiness its not about your family's happiness but yours for life.

i made such choice back 2004 n am not regreting it. today am happily married n loving every day since 2006,

i had to tell my ex to go n ppl tot i was mad but to day i happy to have taken dat descision.

LOOK FOR YOUR EX N C IF THINGS CAN WORK OUT RATHER THAN GETTING ANGRY FOR LIFE OVER YOUR PAST

CORRECT IT NOW!

@ poster is nw ur choice to decide wht to do.we can only advice you but can't force you.bt one thing i kwn is dat if u marry dat aje butter ,bro u go they spend all ur money 4 hospital,becos hypertatin wil be knocking @ ur door and nobody want dat 4 u.

Heavy G, pls do ursf a WHOLE LOT of good by calling off the engagement. Listen to what others have said or do you want to make the same mistake some men have made?

Try to reconnect with ur ex. Frm ur account, u guys seem to bond very well. Ur family may be angry with u when u break the engagement but u can find a way to pacify them. No one will make this decision for you; the BALL IS IN YOUR COURT, shoot well!

PS: As for your friend, u have an upper hand in wooing ur ex back than he does.

^^^THANK YOU ALL. I think the handwriting is on the wall. I have to salvage my life and happiness! I have to summon courage and call it off! It won't be easy but that seems to be my only option.

So you left the great girl alone and now that another man wants and appreciates her you suddenly remember how wonderful she was?

This is EXACTLY why guys should never go to their fellow single guy friends for advice on relationship issues. There are too many guys running around that have silly friends telling them rubbish about their relationships. Instead of manning up and doing the right thing, you ran away because you had your buddy wispering in your ear. The same thing goes for women. They tell their friend to leave their man over something silly, then they go and ease right in.

This girl shouldn't give you the time of day. Why should she trust that you wouldn't hurt her again? Especially since you are now so eager to hurt your current fiancee by breaking up with her now.  Didn't you know the type of woman your current girlfriend was before you proposed marriage?

heavy g:

^^^THANK YOU ALL. I think the handwriting is on the wall. I have to salvage my life and happiness! I have to summon courage and call it off! It won't be easy but that seems to be my only option.

Engagement isn't marriage so you are free to choose who you want to really be with, but I'm glad you are learning this important lesson now instead when you were already married. Good luck!

Heavy G, yeah it's not gonna be easy; life itself is not easy but u have to be strong and brave.

I hope the next time you open a thread will be about you being back with the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE.

Good luck and all the best!

@190, can u be serious for once?

190:

^Nekai would u be the EX that i seek

I'm not taking u back so don't bother.  

Nekai:

I'm not taking u back so don't bother.  

ferhyntorlah:

@190, can u be serious for once?