crackhouse: was it recently completed, maybe she wanted to show it to you as a surprise but couldn't have enough time to make it happen.

irokop: This how a nigerian man went to nigeria to get his bride to england as God may have it the lady came in, as they were living in a shared house at night when the husband go to work the lady will go to their house mate a jamaican man play play play that began the Bleep the lady.

Some times at night the husband will call her on house phone to know how she is doing she will not pick the phone he will call her mobile honey where have you been since the house phone has been ringing she will start all sorts of lies in the kitchen in the toilet, ok after some time the rumore started sprayden the man being a wise man thought it wise to give her a sudden visit he came back enter their room around 1am his wife is not there in their room he has to give him a call as useual honey how are honey said she is fine have you eat she said yes where are you now she said in our room now the husband have to say which room iam in the room this is when nigeria woman came out from jamo man room nkdhoney what are you doing in ians room by this time nigeria woman hala you think say you go fit control my life if its because of the four thousand pounds you spent to bring me here i will give it back to you

what the jamo man came out and put mouth we are in a free world she deos nt like u she likes me so here is half of ur four thousand pounds tomorrow i give you the rest the nija man collected the pay call her parents and tell the that miss jagunlabi is no more his wife, after three months we heard that police came to that house and pick the nija lady and her new hubby over drug related case, later the real story emerged that the jamo guy took the lady to a trip and loaded the lady with drugs as iam typing now both of them are serving the sentnce. But the rejected nija man has to remary.

texaco1: I love that naija guy ,my bobo collect him cash fast fast.I know some people will argue that he shouldn't have

jp philips:

An irresponsible man deserve no consultation (the OP has declared he is not), what kinda advise do you expect from an irresponsible man?

Pattey:

#side note: I can't belive Seun substituted Orgazzm with "Heavenly Feeling" # That sounds like blasphemy

Guyman02: @OP I can understand your feelings, I had a similar experience and it has not been easy. Mine was a situation whereby before we got married I gave my apartment and only car to my wife (then still girlfriend) to live and cruise around while I worked at site and came home periodically.
I made sure she was very confortable with my income as she was earning very little till we got married and we continued to live well as a family and me trying to be the best husband.
Then things started changing when she got a job that paid her well and provided opportunity for things like loans and estacode allowances while my profile has remained almost the same in my work place (yearly small percentage increment)

To my chagrin I got to find out she was paying for a house in an estate with her maiden name and to rub salt into injury she bought a new car and registered it in her maiden name also without informing me. It got so bad that she no longer shows me any respect and I kept feeling miserable in my situation making every effort to work harder and achieve morethan her and in the process even lost more money due to failed investment.
Got sick and went to the hospital and was informed that my BP was getting high and when my family heard it they were apprehensive and I had to open up to them what I was facing.
I had to abandon my home for her for some period and went to a different location to live with a very nice friend of mine to try and get my BP down and think of way forward.
Her mother has realy being a bad influence on her as she was the one who encouraged her to take the actions she took. Following intervention and for the sake of our children I returned home even without her acknowledging that what she did was wrong.
I have tried to swallow the humilation which is what you are also going through now.

I wish I could boast of your achievements listed, but I have little to show even though I have worked so hard and the story around is that I am envious of my wife achievement and her money (but thats not true). Seems like no one wants to know how I feel inside. I can guess the area that your wife comes from as this is rampant among women from that area.
I grew up in the North where you learn to take issues of money and wealth with gentility but she grew up in their area where a lot of emphasis is placed on money and wealth.

Please dont allow yourself to get sick cause of worrying about her action as that may be deadly, remove your mind from her actions and focus it on your children, business and faith, dont worry about the Priests action as he may have acted innocently or even if it is intentional.
You can take a break from the house and go visit a different location for a short vacation to allow for things to cool down.
I hope she comes back to her senses which is also my wish in my own family and keep praying for God to intervene in your situation. Good luck.

armyofone: OP, you should be happy to have such an industrious woman in your life. I think your main problem is insecurity that your lady is doing good.
Sometimes, when a woman does such, it means "i don't trust you that much".
Women have long range thought process while men have short range.
Count your blessings and after she is done, take her out to celebrate.


it is only the poor one that stays home with their 'wifey'
gone with the wind and beer once they start making some chicken fee

Phema:

I have always wondered why too. Heaven and orga$m?Seun, fear God oooo. Lol

manie:



Have you heard the case of a lady in Lagos, who built a house but was living in a rented house with her husband.

When they were given quit notice in there rented apartment, the husband got another apartment in a different part of Lagos. The family that is the husband,wife and children packed into this new house paying rent to the estate management company in charge of the years for 5 years.

It was when the woman had a quarrel with the husband, and the man told her to live the house that she made the husband know that the property belonged to her and she will instruct her estate manager to give the man quit notice.

2ndChance: I have been playing with my kids since, reciting nursery rhymes with them after we were done with homework. It's been real fun with my angels. Meanwhile, all those aggression from my wife has suddenly vamoosed from her eyes as I met her in tears when I returned from work. I guess she has been made to realize the gravity of her actions after wider consultations. Will still continue to watch her actions though. The only question I asked her when she came closer was "why did you try to kill me? And as she tried to explain that she had no such plan, I reminded her that what she did could easily have given any man cardiac arrest. And of course, I have stopped eating her food which has made her even more devasted.
I usually don't share experiences on NL but I have gained so much knowledge and have beacome so much wiser through NL that I felt I will be doing NLers a disservice if I don't share this personal experience. The idea is that other men should learn from this and be vigilant in their homes. As a matter of fact, it was a comment from a certain poster that " no woman should ever be trusted, including your wife and mother" on the thread where a pregant married woman was caught in a hotel room with another man that prompted me to do the random check that exposed the deal between my wife and the priest. So, that's the more reason I just couldn't keep things to myself.

soul_glo: And they say women are dramatic. He said he asked his wife why she tried to kill him. LMAO. I am glad that she is remorseful though.

2ndChance: I have been playing with my kids since, reciting nursery rhymes with them after we were done with homework. It's been real fun with my angels.
Meanwhile, all those aggression from my wife has suddenly vamoosed from her eyes as I met her in tears when I returned from work. I guess she has been made to realize the gravity of her actions after wider consultations. Will still continue to watch her actions though. The only question I asked her when she came closer was "why did you try to kill me? And as she tried to explain that she had no such plan, I reminded her that what she did could easily have given any man cardiac arrest. And of course, I have stopped eating her food which has made her even more devasted.

ok now,, oya carry. Her gently and insert ur cocumba streataway but. Be careful with that prist oo.

I usually don't share experiences on NL but I have gained so much knowledge and have beacome so much wiser through NL that I felt I will be doing NLers a disservice if I don't share this personal experience. The idea is that other men should learn from this and be vigilant in their homes. As a matter of fact, it was a comment from a certain poster that " no woman should ever be trusted, including your wife and mother" on the thread where a pregant married woman was caught in a hotel room with another man that prompted me to do the random check that exposed the deal between my wife and the priest. So, that's the more reason I just couldn't keep things to myself.

plasgidy: The more we look the less we see and hear and know, good luck shaa and shine ur eyes. But you no tell us how una take setle the matter.

2ndChance:
The Matter is still raging like wild harmattan fire between my family, hers and the Priest's superiors, with everyone trying to contain the damage to my marriage & the Priest's career.
As for me, i sit down gidigba for one corner dey tell my wife say "no shaking, this marriage has come to stay but I just want you, your mother and the Priest to feel the heat."
My main reason for involving my family is to let my mother-in-law know that all eyes are now on her just in case she has some devilish motive behind the whole drama because it's obvious she's the ring leader.

2ndChance: Meanwhile, all those aggression from my wife has suddenly vamoosed from her eyes as I met her in tears when I returned from work. I guess she has been made to realize the gravity of her actions after wider consultations. Will still continue to watch her actions though. The only question I asked her when she came closer was "why did you try to kill me? And as she tried to explain that she had no such plan, I reminded her that what she did could easily have given any man cardiac arrest..

Pattey:

Can you ladies please think straight? Is it right for your man to acquire assets in both your names while you acquire yours in YOUR NAME alone.

That is the issue here and the OP isn't even phrasing this right. Anyone that can't address the issue from this perspective is only being cynical, silly, and mischievous. QED

Okija_juju: Una still dey this thread matter?



The OP needs to work hard to convince me that his wife bought a land, went through all the associated stress of acquiring llicences, permits, design, contractors, e.t.c and builfing it up and he didnt know about it. Not that they were even living apart from each other sef.

jp philips:


the moment my husband (if i am a woman) start hanging out by 2am with bachelors while ogling all the ashawos in lagos that moment he wont even know the school his kids are attending let alone when a house is built.
make no mistakes, something spooked her to make a contingency plan, the OP is economical with the truth and the fact that they have jointly owned assets in the past proves that point.
OP should say what he or his people did to spook his 10yr old marriage. people don't just hide when nothing is freighting them. joining forces with her mum equally suggests that the monster is from inside not external.
what will your daughter tell you as the mum and you suggest she should own assets separately from the hubby? that is where the truth lies

jp philips:


the moment my husband (if i am a woman) start hanging out by 2am with bachelors while ogling all the ashawos in lagos that moment he wont even know the school his kids are attending let alone when a house is built.
make no mistakes, something spooked her to make a contingency plan, the OP is economical with the truth and the fact that they have jointly owned assets in the past proves that point.
OP should say what he or his people did to spook his 10yr old marriage. people don't just hide when nothing is freighting them. joining forces with her mum equally suggests that the monster is from inside not external.
what will your daughter tell you as the mum and you suggest she should own assets separately from the hubby? that is where the truth lies

Mayra C: Men have to be conscious and understand that the times when they were the only contributors to family's needs are definitively gone. How do you guys expect a woman to appreciate and recognize the value of something she did not earn, or participate in? Men should be more aware of the importance to let their wife earn their own salary and contribute to the marriage..Even if you guys earn 15 times your wife's salary, you have to make sure that you give her the opportunity to participate in the family's expenses.

I am a woman and I cannot imagine myself not earning my own salary and not participating in family's expenses. I am not married yet, but I always said to myself that I will need to earn as much as my husband to feel comfortable...I will not feel ok with a man who will earn more than me, but on the other hand, I will never feel comfortable with a man who will earn less than me.. ..My man has still to be my MAN...

Okija_juju: Una still dey this thread matter?



The OP needs to work hard to convince me that his wife bought a land, went through all the associated stress of acquiring llicences, permits, design, contractors, e.t.c and builfing it up and he didnt know about it. Not that they were even living apart from each other sef.

soul_glo:

I had a friend that told me that she did not want to know what was in her husbands account because when she starts making her own money she does not want him to interfere. In my mind I was thinking how do you guys plan for anything?

favediva: The real issue dis man has is that he cannot handle the fact that his wife now earns more income than him. I can only imagine how proud, arrogant and selfish he was before now, cos if he had always been as loving and caring as he sounds, she wouldn't hide anything from him. One way or the other, he must have made it clear that he is a threat to her success. C'mon people, it's simple psychology..... This topic is just so disgusting.